sadwithouthim Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 MW in EA with OM for 4 1/2 years. He wanted out because he was tired of having so little of me. It's been 2 weeks NC, and I keep thinking he broke my heart. It's so irrational to think this when it was ME who was unavailable. Everything was always on MY time and MY terms (and only while I was at work for the last year of it). I'm angry and hurt, and I guess I'm just going through the stages of grieving. I couldn't possibly blame him, but somehow I want to. It just hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 MW in EA with OM for 4 1/2 years. He wanted out because he was tired of having so little of me. It's been 2 weeks NC, and I keep thinking he broke my heart. It's so irrational to think this when it was ME who was unavailable. Everything was always on MY time and MY terms (and only while I was at work for the last year of it). I'm angry and hurt, and I guess I'm just going through the stages of grieving. I couldn't possibly blame him, but somehow I want to. It just hurts. It goes to show that even cake eaters love the single OM or OW. It also shows that some men are perfectly capable of waiting in the sidelines for so little. I can't say I blame the OM. He probably deserved a single woman that loves him. A married women that loves him is very inadequate for obvious reasons. You were a bit selfish and kept this poor OM on the hook for a long time. The best thing for OM was to be set free and yet you didn't. He had to leave on his own. But, your pain is real and I am very sorry for you. However, you were married. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Sorry you're hurting I read alot here of the downplaying of an A connection, like its just a facade, and I'm sure some are (possibly even my own), but when I read stories like your own it breaks my heart cause for some people (me included) its hard to find someone you have a great emotional connection with, so its sad when you meet that person but at the wrong time of your life. Chin up girl, I hope it all falls into place for you. xoxo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Sorry you're hurting I read alot here of the downplaying of an A connection, like its just a facade, and I'm sure some are (possibly even my own), but when I read stories like your own it breaks my heart cause for some people (me included) its hard to find someone you have a great emotional connection with, so its sad when you meet that person but at the wrong time of your life. Chin up girl, I hope it all falls into place for you. xoxo I have always said the connection is real and very intense. However, the reality and intensity are often proportional to the level of need of the EMR participants. In other words, some addicts crave cocaine more than others because they need it more. Some addicts steal money to get the drug because they needed it more. The need is more intense and quite real. The feelings in EMRs are addictive and quite real. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
affairaddict Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Sorry you feel like this. I'd never imagined the married one to feel this way. It sucks for you. But speaking from recently dumping my ex mm as a single OW I was sick of the weekends he wouldn't talk to me and that he gave her everything worked his ass off to provide for her and gave me crumbs. It's not fair being no2 and he broke my heart. I do wonder if its s female thing though feeling these emotions for losing their AP , just cannot see the MM caring so much if he is dumped by his OW? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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