Why is my ex husband mad when he is the adulterer?

[1money3]

My soon to be ex-husband are going through a divorce. I suppose to have my daughter 80% of the time, he has visitation 20%. My ex is in the military in California. He barely see our daughter because he claims he's working. When he does see her, he takes her over his girlfriend house so she can play with her son. Recently, He told me that he couldn't visit my daughter because the military was sending him to North Carolina for school. Well, I found out from my neighbor that my ex and him went to Florida for one of their friends bachelor party and wedding! He also has called my house so his girlfriend (the woman he left me for) could talk to me about his schedule and how I need to understand that sometimes he may not be available. That I need to understand that he is very busy and sometimes he can't see my daughter. Hello! I was married to him for 13 yrs.

This past weekend, my ex picked up our daughter and was suppose to call me and let me know where she would be staying as he currently resides on the Naval ship. Guess what! He never called me and refuse to tell me and told me that he will tell me when he gets ready! I have contacted my lawyer as the custody order states both parents should have the address and phone number of the place where the child is residing. My ex has done so many things over the past couple of months, like calling me a wh**e or b**ch. I had to have my phone number changed at work because he would call me and try to discuss the divorce. I would like to go back to Texas as this is where I am from. He states he would fight me in court to get full custody of our daughter if I try and leave the state with her. I am so unhappy! He knows that going home would make me happy. He will be leaving to go to IRAQ and I should get 100% custody, However, he is trying to put a clause in the agreement so I can't move out of the state what her. I have agreed to allow her to leave with him during the summer and get her on major holidays. However, he will not agree. He barely sees her. I think he is being mean as we can't communicate because he constantly yells to appease her. What can I do?

[sami]

that should be his problem I guess. Let him alone work on it.

[Ladyjane14]

I have no experience with child custody, but if it were me, I'd get a better lawyer. Preferably, one who is familiar with the UCMJ (Uniform Code of Military Justice). There are some differences in standards in the way that military people are supposed to conduct themselves. He could be in violation, but again, I'm not an expert.

 

Good Luck.

[bluechocolate]

Originally posted by Ladyjane14

I have no experience with child custody, but if it were me, I'd get a better lawyer. Preferably, one who is familiar with the UCMJ (Uniform Code of Military Justice). There are some differences in standards in the way that military people are supposed to conduct themselves. He could be in violation, but again, I'm not an expert.

 

Good Luck.

 

That is exactly what I was thinking Ladyjane14. I was under the impression that adultery, while you are active in the service, was a serious offence.

 

He states he would fight me in court to get full custody of our daughter if I try and leave the state with her.

 

I'm not expert either, but given the circumstances of your seperation & of his life style I very much doubt that he has a chance of winning full custody. Especially given that he cannot establish a pattern of regular visitation.

 

He never called me and refuse to tell me and told me that he will tell me when he gets ready! I have contacted my lawyer as the custody order states both parents should have the address and phone number of the place where the child is residing. My ex has done so many things over the past couple of months, like calling me a wh**e or b**ch.

 

He also has called my house so his girlfriend (the woman he left me for) could talk to me about his schedule and how I need to understand that sometimes he may not be available. That I need to understand that he is very busy and sometimes he can't see my daughter.

 

Document every occurrence like this & record times & dates. And as Ladyjane say - get a better lawyer (at least make the one you've got work a bit harder).

 

Best of luck to you.