dasein Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 OP, it's normal to have doubts about lots of aspects of a relationship. You have identified your doubts as irrational, and are seeking advice, so it seems you already know your answer. You seem to already know that age alone is a trivial worry in a relationship, especially in a tough dating world where good matches don't come along every day. If a six year age gap is really the entire focus of the doubts you have, move past it and concentrate on what really matters, how you treat each other and enjoy each other. Don't worry about some of the snarky, insulting comments you are getting here. Their tune would be much different if you were a mid 20s woman dating a 30+ y.o. man. The fact that you are here and acknowledge it is likely an irrational doubt says you are a thoughtful person seeking to do the right thing and avoid irrationality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I'm 5 years older than my H. Trust me, he isn't worried at all. My grandmother was 11 years OLDER than my grandfather. 8 kids later, I don't think the age difference shook him up too much either. So OP.... what exactly IS the problem, then? Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 It's not a huge difference. 6 years is really no big deal, especially since she looks and acts younger. I think you have a good woman. Don't let stupid thoughts ruin things. Link to post Share on other sites
shexy Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 To me, a 6 year age difference is not an issue at all. But that's just me. I think it would be silly to throw away a great thing just because of something like a 6 year age gap. Link to post Share on other sites
KAOJ Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 like everyone else said, 6 years is not a huge age gap. she sounds great. what is really the issue here? (my guy is 17 years older than me and i am quite fond of him) Link to post Share on other sites
Mr_Flay Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I can see how it could bother some people. My grandmother always says men should marry younger women because women show signs of old age sooner, which may prompt men to leave them. But these are bygone times when people bothered with such things. Right? Link to post Share on other sites
mtber75 Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I could honestly say that I am deeply in love with her. I've never felt so loved and happy before, and I believe that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Our sex life is out of this world, and I can't keep up with her, and we also have a really deep emotional connection. I'm about to ask her to marry me, however, I'm suddenly feeling really hesitant and I think it's because she's 6 years older than me... My girlfriend has always been a lot less mature than me, and I think that stems from the fact that she lived a very sheltered life. I was also her first real boyfriend, and she lost her virginity to me. She also looks about 10 years younger than she is, and people are always amazed that she's older than me. In essence, I've always felt like the older, and more mature person in our relationship. We are also in the same place career wise, and we both discussed wanting to have kids in about 3 years from now. Despite this, though, I can't help but worry about our age difference...It feels nonexistent now, but I worry that It'll be evident in the future...At times I think that 6 years is such a small age gap and that my worries are incredibly immature and nonsensical. But at times I feel that our 6 year age difference is something to worry about, maybe not now, but in the future... I am deeply in love with this girl, and I've never been so physically and emotionally attracted to someone before. I'm about to ask her for marriage, but I can't get rid of the nagging thought that she's older than me. Am I crazy? Is a 6 year age difference really that big of a deal among adults? It seems that you have a issue with her maturity...The fact that she is several years older than you and she is very immature is a sore spot for you. Maybe she is not ready for marriage? You should really talk with her about this. Say that you want to marry her but until she grows up, you can't see a future together! Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This is what I worry about when I date younger guys. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mtber75 Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This is what I worry about when I date younger guys. Unfortunately yes! Younger guys will always image you looking "old" down the line so many of them will run...I'm not saying this to the OP guy though, he seem pretty mature. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This poster's history over the past 3 or so years is full of threads and questions about new dates and so forth. So, what gives? In the OP he says he's been dating this woman for 5 years. OP, what's the real situation here? How are we supposed to help if you won't level with us? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This poster's history over the past 3 or so years is full of threads and questions about new dates and so forth. So, what gives? In the OP he says he's been dating this woman for 5 years. OP, what's the real situation here? How are we supposed to help if you won't level with us? It did kind of sound like a troll thread 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 My girlfriend is 18 days older than me. She is too old for me. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This poster's history over the past 3 or so years is full of threads and questions about new dates and so forth. So, what gives? In the OP he says he's been dating this woman for 5 years. OP, what's the real situation here? How are we supposed to help if you won't level with us? Oh god, not another trollster.... Link to post Share on other sites
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