Iama Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I was telling my girl that I was starting to check my ex-gf too much on facebook lately and thought of disabling my facebook. She said I should just block my ex-gf (who sends me "I miss you" messages from time to time). And so I did. Yesterday she had left her facebook open on my computer.... and I saw she's been checking her ex too the last week or so. I asked her if she had when I saw her. She said NO, that she is obsessed and fulfilled with me. She said things are done once there's no contact for a long while... That's why she doesn't understand how I was checking my ex after so long. She seemed so genuine... Yet she lied to me. Should I break up with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Why don't you talk to her instead? Ask her why she felt the need to check up on her ex and then lie about it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Doesn't seem like either of you are over your ex's. Seems like a no win situation staying, as neither of you are fully commited. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 (edited) This thread is the same as all the other threads you keep posting about your girlfriend. She keeps checking out other guys and you keep whining about it. Yet as much as she knows how much it upsets you, she still keeps doing it. Actions speak louder than words. She's probably just not that into you there champ. Edited July 23, 2013 by Imajerk17 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iama Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 Why don't you talk to her instead? Ask her why she felt the need to check up on her ex and then lie about it. And I tell her I snooped on her................ I don't think any part of me would be able to accept the shame after . And no, I'm sure we're both over our exes. And I'm sure she's very into me. So much that she gets jealous even if a girl hugs me, or even for small things. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 And I tell her I snooped on her................ I don't think any part of me would be able to accept the shame after . And no, I'm sure we're both over our exes. And I'm sure she's very into me. So much that she gets jealous even if a girl hugs me, or even for small things. I'm going to ask the obvious question: why were you checking your ex's profile so much that it concerned you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 If we're both over our ex's, why the desire to check up on them so much on facebook? And on her end, why the desire to hide it? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iama Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 I'm going to ask the obvious question: why were you checking your ex's profile so much that it concerned you? I honestly don't know why. It was just curiosity. It wasn't too much, but I could see how between that and her sending me "I miss you" messages, it was a danger I would rather not go through. Hence I took care of it. She made such a huge deal out of it, yet she is doing the same. And I think her creeping on her ex is like a defense mechanism when we started having problems, since in her own words she is getting obsessed with me and she is trying to fight it. Note: She is checking on me too and more than on her ex Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I honestly don't know why. It was just curiosity. It wasn't too much, but I could see how between that and her sending me "I miss you" messages, it was a danger I would rather not go through. Hence I took care of it. She made such a huge deal out of it, yet she is doing the same. And I think her creeping on her ex is like a defense mechanism when we started having problems, since in her own words she is getting obsessed with me and she is trying to fight it. Note: She is checking on me too and more than on her ex What does she mean by that? Also, how do you know she checks on you more than her ex? Is this something she told you or did you discover this on your own somehow? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iama Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 What does she mean by that? Also, how do you know she checks on you more than her ex? Is this something she told you or did you discover this on your own somehow? When I was looking at her history I discovered it. She wasn't checking much on her ex. And then 2 things happened: 1. I gave her major insecurities by the thing with my ex. (She's cried several times in the last few weeks about it... I'm really sorry about that), but there was really nothing to be worried about... and I was taking care of it. 2. Her ex appeared on a picture with his ex. (They had had drama about her when they were together) I think both these things turned on her curiosity. I asked her about it (we both know the guy) and if this thing (him and his ex together) bothered her. She denied creeping on him on facebook (I didn't tell her I knew). And she said it doesn't bother her in the slightest, because she feels fulfilled with what she has. And at this point she is just indifferent to him. She doesn't even feel anger or anything. There's just nothing.... But yet after this very convo she creeped on him again the next day... It must be said that this guy used to send her "I miss you" messages (just like my ex) and wanted to be back with her until very lately. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iama Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 (edited) I found out my girl is still looking up on her ex. I'm feeling weird. It really eats me from the inside.... She called me over, but I know if I go there all this negativity will go towards her and I don't want that, but on the other hand if I cancel it will seem weird... Should I go? Edited July 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Similar threads merged. Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Hey man. You did snoop, don't be ashamed of it, own it. You did it so take whatever responsibility that comes with it. She may try to turn it around on you but IMO she created the bigger faux pas here. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 And I tell her I snooped on her................ I don't think any part of me would be able to accept the shame after . And no, I'm sure we're both over our exes. And I'm sure she's very into me. So much that she gets jealous even if a girl hugs me, or even for small things. if you cant even accept the shame to try to communicate and fix the situation, your relationship with her is doomed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Adele0908 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I think you kids are pretty even. The deeper issue is that you don't trust each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Appleness Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Trust your instinct. If it feels like a bad idea, then it probably is. It's better sometimes to let people assume you're "weird" rather than go and have people see you being negative. It's just my opinion though. Link to post Share on other sites
shexy Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I think you kids are even too.... you were checking up on your ex girlfriend first, btw. Then she followed YOUR lead by checking up on her ex bf. You both obviously have trust issues, and if you're both so interested in your exes, you probably shouldn't be in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Tinie Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 You probably shouldn't. You might say some stuff you'll regret later because you're angry. Link to post Share on other sites
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