Jcishere1993 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I feel really weird. I'm 20 never had a gf and have depression and anxiety. Asked people on here if one girl liked me they said no she did not. It feels like no1 likes me. I'm kinda stuck in the middle of nowhere. And feel suicidal everyday and unattractive what do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
eddyctv Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 You need a serious self-esteem boost. If you don't find yourself attractive, no one else is going to either, and I'm not just talking about your physical attractiveness. If you are all depressed, and not smiling and happy, no one is going to be attracted to you. A good way to break out of your self-esteem slump is to join a gym, or get some exercise equipment. If you are heavy, concentrate on losing weight. If you are a string bean, bulk up! You have to work on YOURSELF to make yourself feel better. Once you do that, the women will come along. Dont stress too much about not having a girlfriend...sometimes it's better to be single. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 If you're feeling sucidal then you need to seek professional help, no one here is qualified to help you through this online. You can't base your self worth on what someone else thinks of you. Just because one person doesn't like you doesn't mean someone else won't. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 The fact that you feel suicidal every day, is actually a good thing. You know why? Because nothing has yet convinced you to follow through. You're still here. And rightly so. Because contemplating suicide? Over trivia like this?? Jeesh, hun, get a grip! Permanent solution to a temporary problem, okay?? What the hell is it with young people nowadays who believe self-fulfilment and validation only comes with, and entails having, a GF/BF, getting laid and being in a relationship by the time they hit 20 - !??! Jeesh - there are some people at least 5 years older who haven't had relationships! What's so important?? You guys need to relax, hang loose, enjoy the free and single life a little and be a bit more relaxed and laid-back, because - trust me - when you finally settle down, find a girl, get engaged/married and have kids, payments on a car, mortgage on a house and a busy urban commute to a 9-5 job you may actually hate - you'll be harking back to these good ol' days when all you had to worry about - but really - was which jeans to wear on saturday.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Mango Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I've felt pretty lousy before too. In my opinion you should focus on your friends right now. Being depressed and having anxiety are basically red lights for dating. Most people won't be going for you in that sort of state, unless it's manageable. Friends are awesome because they don't need to be attracted to you, and the really good ones will accept the problems you're facing. Once you get over your slump (and you will) you'll be much more free to pursue girls. It sounds weird, but by being more overall happy with yourself, others will begin to see you in the same light. I once went through a major depression, for non-dating related issues, and also thought: "Man if only I had another GF right now, things would be easier". Not really what you should be thinking. My friends and family helped me get back on my feet, not a GF, and once I did I met a girl pretty quickly. I second Philosoraptor on what he said. Link to post Share on other sites
ddspike21 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I feel really weird. I'm 20 never had a gf and have depression and anxiety. Asked people on here if one girl liked me they said no she did not. It feels like no1 likes me. I'm kinda stuck in the middle of nowhere. And feel suicidal everyday and unattractive what do I do? what do you feel is unattractive about yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
InsaneTrombone Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 You need to work on yourself before anything like dating. You need to learn to be a little bit selfish, treat yourself better. Work out, do whatever makes you feel better first. When you feel you are ready to go to the next step, then tackle dating. Nobody will love you if you don't love yourself first. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Share Posted July 24, 2013 I'm in an awful state mentally I been rejected by couple girls my life is pretty damn boring and hellish. I know a gf will probably cure me how do I get 1. The rejections ate me alive Link to post Share on other sites
shexy Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 If you're really feeling like that, please seek help immediately. A gf is NOT going to make you feel better. Believe me. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ChessPieceFace Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Stop investing time and emotions in girls that don't like you / reject you. If you do that, it will already be a big improvement. Being with the right person in a relationship that works may give you a sense of fulfillment, but you aren't going to get there from where you are. Seek help. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bson1257 Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I'm in an awful state mentally I been rejected by couple girls my life is pretty damn boring and hellish. I know a gf will probably cure me how do I get 1. The rejections ate me alive 1. Be handsome 2. Be attractive 3. Don't be unattractive Link to post Share on other sites
New User Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I'm in an awful state mentally I been rejected by couple girls my life is pretty damn boring and hellish. I know a gf will probably cure me how do I get 1. The rejections ate me alive This isn't a place that can really help you with that issue. You need to seek help immediately. Link to post Share on other sites
Seductive Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 If this is real, you need to call 911 or an emergency line if you're struggling with thoughts daily. These thoughts will just hamper your dating life. Having a girlfriend will not make you happier. It may boost your ego temporarily, but your depression will come up again. Next thing you know you might feel your girlfriend isn't giving you enough attention or doesn't like you enough. Rejection is a part of life. Even beautiful people get rejected, because not everyone is going to think they're beautiful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Share Posted July 24, 2013 I'm 20 and bad things keep happening to me, women keep playing me, I keep gettingbrejected, calllee ugly alot wheni asked ppl to rate my looks. Now I need psychiatric help to get over the pain what do I do. The thing is I don't approach the women they approach me and through cunning acts try to destroy my self esteem. It doesn't happen anymore tho. My hands feel numb, I feel depressed suicudal everyday Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Mango Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 This is the 6th thread you've made now. I don't know what to tell you besides all the good advice so many people have already tried to give you. But I'll give it a shot until something sinks in. Though this should seriously be the last thread you make regarding this issue. 1. See a therapist. You're obviously seeking help/advice here, but a real life professional will help more with your depression. 2. You're 20, which IMO is young, don't act like your life is over. 3. Don't ask people to rate your looks. The only opinion that matters is your own. 4. Women don't go out of their way to destroy self-esteem for fun, there is probably another reason things aren't working out, most likely your bleak outlook on things. Wouldn't be the first time a girl approaches a guy to then do a 180 when she finds out he's depressed. 5. Stop focusing so much on dating/girls. That's not all there is to life and it happens to all people in different ways and at different rates. 6. Focus on yourself and your own life. The happiness you get from yourself is the pie. No amount of whip cream (dating) will save a crummy pie. I hope some of this helps, but I really urge you to speak to friends, family or a therapist. Link to post Share on other sites
petall Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Take this in the best way but you should seek professional help judging from your post history. Have you tried talking to your parents, school etc? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jcishere1993 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Share Posted July 24, 2013 And just plain weird, depresed, suicidal, no hope, ugly, unattractive, worthless, weird like I've dont so much wrong, but mostly heartbroken, depressed all the time. I've been struggling with this problem for I would say over a year now, I was fine before etc for a long time I was happy. I see a psychiatrist but he just gives me medicine to mask these feelings. What do I do? I also feel rejected. This has been a chronic problem I constantly do self harm etc aswell Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I think you need a counsellor, some of them are very good, I have been mentally ill, nobody mixes with mentally ill people, I am a 5'3" weedy woman, but still they ran away... I think you need to make plans to start a new chapter, anything is better than living thru what you describe, a counsellor can support you through these new moves, make a few descisions Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 go seek professional help. it really works. your feelings have nothing to do with what kind of person you are. so go get help, and let the attractive side come out!! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I thinbk we have a mental case here. The OP is neither acknowledging nor responding to nayone, ever. I'm of the opinion he is best left alone, because he's either a t-r-oll, or he's actually mentally incapable of processing anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Sidz Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Would you mind sharing how old you are? Link to post Share on other sites
Seductive Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I'm 20 and bad things keep happening to me, women keep playing me, I keep gettingbrejected, calllee ugly alot wheni asked ppl to rate my looks. Now I need psychiatric help to get over the pain what do I do. The thing is I don't approach the women they approach me and through cunning acts try to destroy my self esteem. It doesn't happen anymore tho. My hands feel numb, I feel depressed suicudal everyday Don't ask people to rate your looks. People on the internet are mean. If women are approaching you, they must like you initially. A lot of guys complain about not being approached. Even if a woman is destroying your self-esteem, why would you want to be with her? It's a blessing that they're walking away from you and you don't have to put up with them. There's nothing more of a turn-off than insecurity and depression, regardless of how hot you are. Unless, you want attract someone that wants to fix you. "Fixers" usually see you as some kind of project they can micromanage anyway. Like the other posters said, just relax and have fun. You deserve real love, but that starts when you show that you are READY to receive love. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.Mango Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Would you mind sharing how old you are? He's 20, which you'd easily find out from all the other threads he's started with the same premise. Not to sound mean but I don't think you're willing to accept anyone's advice here Jcishere1993. If you took this seriously, you'd also be willing to take our advice seriously and not keep reposting the same thing over and over and over again. Cause that doesn't seem to be helping it seems. At this point you're starting to sound like someone who wants everyone to feel sorry for you. Though it's not wrong to sulk, over doing it won't help anyone, including you. Please take some advice and see a counselor/psychiatrist and talk it out. I've rarely heard of a professional giving a patient drugs to "mask" the feelings. Generally they'll prescribe an anti-depressant that helps with the natural chemistry in your brain. It doesn't change you, it actually more akin to taking something for hormonal reactions. Often times depression can be triggered by some natural imbalance of chemicals in your brain, which you have no control over. The anti-depressants help restore some balance so you're not feeling like crap all the time and can actually work at yourself and your life. If you're feeling like you're incapable of making any changes because of how you feel then it might be in your best interest to start a low dose of anti-depressants. (Speaking from experience and from working in the medical field) Beyond that try to just focus on yourself and doing things you enjoy. Nobody is going to get you out of this rump but yourself, all you can hope for is some support. Now please, go and do something about how you feel, 'cause posting online in a "dating forum" is not likely to make any difference. Link to post Share on other sites
T3h L337 d00d Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 You should talk to your family about this. Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 weird, depresed, suicidal, no hope, ugly, unattractive, worthless, weird like I've dont so much wrong, but mostly heartbroken, depressed all the time. Two questions ... 1. Would you date or even be friends with someone with these qualities? 2. How long do you want to go through life like this? Change comes from within. Link to post Share on other sites
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