Sun Devil Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend Link to post Share on other sites
maestrok Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend You have to also take into account what kind of girls those "low quality guys" are getting and what kind of girl you want. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 These girls aren't always lower class girls. A lot of them are college students looking for a good job, yet they are dating guys with criminal records Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 You assume that I act desperate in real life despite not meeting me face to face. I know not to act desperate around women. When I get a number, I usually text her an invite to something fun I am going to. I don't continually call or text her Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend I don't think that you act desperate in real life. SD if you are college age it may be one of a few things. There may be a girl or girls there for you but, if you stick only to one circle, you won't meet them. If you are just young and living in a city the same applies. You need to go where you can meet new people. Get a wing man or wing woman who understand you are out to meet a special lady and go out with them. All people want those who others want. It is a very special person who can exude enough sheer confidence to win over strangers by themselves (That is why being a salesperson or James Bond takes a special person.) Link to post Share on other sites
davyvfr Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Are you attending college at Arizona State University? (Judging from your username) Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Meh... I went to a singles party on Friday the 19th. There were 2 dozen women there and I wasn't impressed by any of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrTurk Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 (edited) You're having trouble because you're so desperate. It's emanating off you in waves. When you get a phone number, you're probably overly attentive and call a lot. if you do actually land one, you will hold on for dear life and crush the life out of her You shouldn't be having this much trouble, you're right. Until you stop caring so much, you'll continue to have this issue In other words....those of us that refuse to play games, and refuse to act like d*cks....we can pretty much forget about ever having a girl give a f*ck whether we exist or not. Girls can sense desperate guys a mile away. It's not appealing But no girl can sense a jerk that wants to use her for sex...funny how girls can only sense desperation...but never sense any of the traits that break their heart. . Edited July 25, 2013 by MrTurk 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan R. Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 But no girl can sense a jerk that wants to use her for sex...funny how girls can only sense desperation...but never sense any of the traits that break their heart. A girl may not be able to sense who and who isn't a jerk but they can easily sense hesitation or lack of sexual confidence. The thing that separates "jerks" from normal guys is that they lack hesitation and they are sexually confident. In other words, they have balls. I'm still working on that but to imply that women only like jerks is missing the point. Link to post Share on other sites
MrTurk Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 A girl may not be able to sense who and who isn't a jerk but they can easily sense hesitation or lack of sexual confidence. To be honest...I think women have no problem sensing when a guy is a jerk. The thing is, they are attracted to them, even if they dont want to be. There is thread after thread on here with women dealing with idiots...and they cant stop dating the guy even when 50 people respond and tell her to ditch him. Women dont like jerks, they dont go out searching for jerks....but they will always be attracted to them. And that is the mystery of it. I think most women if given a choice, would choose a guy with a bit of arrogance, and jerk to him, over a guy that gives her complete freedom and free reign to do as she wishes. Many women admit that they respect a guy that puts them in their place every so often, and keeps them under their thumb to a certain degree. Its just female nature. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted July 29, 2013 Author Share Posted July 29, 2013 I see guys with worse personalities than me get girls. I know guys who abuse women and are almost never single for long. Women say one thing yet do another Link to post Share on other sites
Salvatore85 Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 I see guys with worse personalities than me get girls. I know guys who abuse women and are almost never single for long. Women say one thing yet do another While you're online whining about not being able to get those girls those losers are out TALKING to them. You want a girlfriend? Then grow a pair and go after what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 A girl may not be able to sense who and who isn't a jerk but they can easily sense hesitation or lack of sexual confidence. The thing that separates "jerks" from normal guys is that they lack hesitation and they are sexually confident. In other words, they have balls. I'm still working on that but to imply that women only like jerks is missing the point. It isn't a black and white sort of balls/desperate either/or of extremes. Link to post Share on other sites
The Duchess of Malfi Posted August 7, 2013 Share Posted August 7, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend Finding a romantic partner varies significantly from person to person. Can you share some things about yourself, what you're looking for, and what you've done so far to try and secure a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 7, 2013 Share Posted August 7, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend You're being too nice to them. Link to post Share on other sites
pcplod Posted August 7, 2013 Share Posted August 7, 2013 I don't understand. I am able to make friends of both sexes, but can't get a girl to fall in love. I have a large social circle, but I am not closer to finding love. I see low quality guys who are boring and have no lives or future get girls. I don't understand how to get a girlfriend The social skills needed to befriend another person, whether male or female, are a world away from those required to intimately and sexually attract a mate. The former will not cut it, as you have discovered. You simply do not behave in an alluring manner that instinctively appeals to a woman in that way. It is a process, it is a game. Think miner bird mating behaviour and other similar behaviour. Then you might get the idea. Link to post Share on other sites
ZX4 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 You know, very often people with money struggles wonder why its so hard to make money. They cant seem to wrap their heads around why they were given **** hand in life, and why others are so blessed. Some call it a poor-mans mentality; when a underprivileged person doesnt understand prosperity, and chooses to do nothing about their current circumstances, instead of educating themselves and putting a little effort in. They feel sorry for themselves, and remain stagnant. You have a similar mentality. You think you should be able t snap your fingers, and be surrounded by women, or maybe just a specific woman, that will love you, **** you, and fall in love with you. And if it doesn't happen, you bitch about, while simultaneously remaining still. But what you dont quite understand is, women are people. Every persona has their own set of motivations, successes, and hardships; us humans come equipped with our own personal baggage. If you want a girlfriend, get rid of the self-destructive thoughts, get out more, start viewing women as people, and start asking them on dates. You seem like you dont have much experience in the love department, so the first step for you is to go out with as many women as you can, without any predefined intentions; go out, have fun, talk to new people. Once you get used to playing the field (for lack of a better term), you can start trying to find a woman that has all of the qualities you desire. (Start making your wish-list now.) Link to post Share on other sites
Donna_Day Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 Hey Ryan Sometimes the choice of the date venue can effect the relationship moving forward. I find that so many guys drop the ball when we actually go out on a date. I'm a bit of a geek so I've created a quick survey to see if other people feel like me. It's all about dating and choosing a venue. Take a look and even fill it out, might give you some pointers https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Q2l...RneIk/viewform x Donna Link to post Share on other sites
Mr_Flay Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Best advice: Stop looking for a woman, and find a passion. The problem with this advice is that, if you stop looking and focus on other things, nothing will happen in the romantic sphere. Then you'll wake up 5-10 years later and curse yourself for not having struggled tooth and nail to meet people, 'cause now there are few single people left. You gotta put in the effort and try every now and then. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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