Why do I have to put a woman in her place if she gets out of hand?

[ThaWholigan]

 

My point of the story is this: I know some of the women on this forum will insist that the dynamic the OP brought up only exists with the immature women, but I can't agree with that. My experience has told me otherwise.

 

I actually agree, strangely. Some women really adhere to this dynamic without the problems one would associate. Its never that simple.

 

Regardless, I feel it would not serve well to view it as inherently a woman thing .

[charlietheginger]

ive met lots of women never connected with any.....

many dont care about my intrest hobbies never say

Anything nice alot of women are mean bitchy rude

Alot expect a man to worship them like a princess

Yet they walk all over guys and treat them like ****....

 

Lots of women dont make a man feel desired or wanted

But simply treat a man as a wallet or finacial sypport

I speak from life experience not hearsay

 

B][/b]

Level headed? Happily married? Experienced enough to have something to offer this community?

 

Listen, I don't think you realize how you come across. You say you've dated well over 200 woman, both here and overseas, and you say this like it's a badge of honor.

 

But all I keep thinking is, 200 women and you couldn't connect with a SINGLE ONE OF THEM? American and overseas and you couldn't find a SINGLE woman who took your breathe away, who adored the ground you walked on, who was willing to build a life with you, who would NEVER leave your side? 200 woman and YOU ARE STILL ALONE?

 

You say this like a badge of honor....and all I think about is you coming home to an empty house, every night for 30 years, because for some reason, you cannot maintain a connection with a woman.

 

You say it like it's a badge of honor. But it looks like a very sad and very lonely life you're leading. If not for the pompous know-it-all way you wrote your posts, I'd feel pity for you.

 

What I can't understand is why you think you have so much more to offer in terms of advice to this community when, if polled, I would think MOST men are horrified at the idea of becoming you. A 50+ year old man, STILL trolling dating websites, who has been rejected by almost every single woman who has ate a meal with him.

 

Don't insult people like Mme or any of the other woman here who have been able to inspire love in someone else and are equally able to return it. We have done something you have NEVER managed.

 

You are not a prophet.

 

You are a cautionary tale.

Edited July 24, 2013 by charlietheginger

[pcplod]

I don't think the OP was the one who got into the caressing/punishing hand sh*t and all that. I may be wrong but I read his post as just meaning generally "laying the law" when a girl your dating is freaking out as means of seeing your reaction.

 

 

We will have to agree to disagree. I read his original post before I read any of the responses and was frankly appalled. Embarrassed to be associated merely by dint of the fact that I am a man. But really that shouldn't be rationally pertinent.

 

I accept that there are women out there like that, just as a matter of accepting that there is that potential challenge to a relationship. There are even women who responded saying that they behaved like that. All that means is that they are as appalling and as unappealing as him. Both he and they are emphatically immature, have poor communication skills and see no problem in behaving irrationally, impulsively and unpredictability and still somehow expect that their relationships should be secure and stable. It is no basis on which to either trust or respect another individual, something which I personally believe is essential to the survival of a relationship. It is inherently dysfunctional.

 

What was actually gross was his attitude to how he thought it was appropriate to deal with it. His subsequent response to the various responses only confirmed how appalling I think he is. I mean should I endorse it, applaud it, congratulate him? Not on the pain of torture, frankly. Both he and those women should be thoroughly ashamed by their behaviour It is not an achievement, it is not something to be proud of. It is not a personal achievement of note, nor an example to set to others.

 

The irony is that his post and subsequent responses ended up saying more about him than it did about the subject he raised, which inevitably ended up with the thread mostly degenerating in the way it did.

 

End of, thank goodness!

[therhythm]

ive met lots of women never connected with any.....

many dont care about my intrest hobbies never say

Anything nice alot of women are mean bitchy rude

Alot expect a man to worship them like a princess

Yet they walk all over guys and treat them like ****....

 

Lots of women dont make a man feel desired or wanted

But simply treat a man as a wallet or finacial sypport

I speak from life experience not hearsay

 

B][/b]

 

And probably you are still guessing why you didn't connect with women :rolleyes:

 

If that is what you think of women ... women won't ever feel connected to you man... It is actually funny because I have a totally different opinion on women than you do... I love women and you know what? they love me in return :love:

 

Attitude is key in the world we live and someone whit such an attitude like yours will never ever get a woman to get interest for who you are ... how can you like someone who resent you just for being a woman?

[Dusk1983]

I have never in my life seen a woman point at a short guy and pretend to barf. Not once have I seen that happen.

 

That's because you're the short guy being barfed at.

[Negative Nancy]

Yeah and I only have to laugh when the extremely dumb men on this forum tell me they're more logical than me cause they're men.

 

 

Yeah, look how "more logical" men are when they see t'n'a Their "logic" and "more rational ways" go right out the window when it comes to sex. All women know that all it takes is to get a man's d*** hard and he loses it completely. Pathetic. Look at all those high-ups, politicians, athletes, even normal CEOs who basically risked their career (and many of them lost it) or even the national security of their country just for some strange...ahem. Those stories do not speak of "more rationality" to me at all. Au contraire, women are more self-controlled and rational than men, obviously.

Edited July 28, 2013 by Negative Nancy

[love4menotu]

I would not even consider continuing to date someone who tried to "put me in my place".

 

That's not your job, that's mine.

 

And I'm no one's "little girl".

 

If you feel like you need to do this, perhaps you are dating women you feel superior to because you are insecure?

[Anela]

The idea that its female nature to need discipline is one I cannot cosign admittedly - I know and prefer a more balanced dynamic. Women tend to have differences in what they respond to I've noticed, despite everything I've read, experienced and observed.

 

 

I can't stand it when someone tries to put me in my place - whatever that is.

 

Level headed? Happily married? Experienced enough to have something to offer this community?

 

You're married now? Congratulations!

 

Funny. I feel the same way about the women of LS. I mean the long time posters. The short time posters sometimes are more balanced.

 

A number of those women - the long-term members - are in happy, stable relationships, married or dating. So I don't know why you would feel that way.

[William]

Since the thread starter has added nothing to the thread and has been MIA for a couple of days minimum, we'll consider this issue discussed and resolved. Thanks for your participation.