Why do people have issues with introverts?

[Ire3]

Why consider yourself the victim? Put yourself in the position of power and judge them for their incessant impertinent babble. I prefer meaningful conversation in tasteful doses and will not succumb to their onslaughts of small talk! Well, that's my attitude.

[MercuryMorrison1]

Why consider yourself the victim? Put yourself in the position of power and judge them for their incessant impertinent babble. I prefer meaningful conversation in tasteful doses and will not succumb to their onslaughts of small talk! Well, that's my attitude.

 

Love it. I couldn't have stated my inner feelings better.

[soccerrprp]

Let me start by providing this opportunity to further explore the INTROVERT IN YOU, in all of us really, but, of course to varying degrees.

 

Great book: Quiet, the power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts - By Susan Cain

 

Anyway, it is "vocally" a very extroverted world. That is, it is valued more it would seem. Studies often show that the more vocal in a group is regarded more favorably than the more quiet members even if the more extroverted are wrong.

 

People see introverted people as less confident, less of a leader-type and more uncertain. All characteristics, in relationships, that are hindrances. Even for other introverts, they often seek out more out-going partners.

[ZX4]

I think some of you are confusing "shyness" or "insecurity" with "introversion"; Some introverts, like myself, have no issues with speaking to people, or being the life of the party. We just understand that we have our limits.

 

Before I was confident in myself, and before I learned to speak clearly (When I was a teen, I never spoke more than a few words to anyone -even teachers- and so when I started to build my own confidence I had a hard time learning to speak in a clear and concise way.) I always blamed my lack of social skills on my introverted nature.

 

But honestly, that couldn't have been farther from the truth. I was just a nerdy kid that was afraid of the rejection that could come from social interaction.

 

Being an introvert means that you:

 

1) Spend the majority of your time "in your own head"

2) Gain energy, and clarity from being alone, and doing solo activities

3) Don't need constant social or human interaction to feel sane

 

Shyness is another can of worms, that is not directly related to being an introvert.

[vla1120]

I'm an introvert who has learned to hold my own in social situations over the years. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. My H always criticizes quiet people in social settings. It has always driven me nuts. I don't know why people care so much! I always told my husband "Maybe he/she didn't find the conversation intellectually stimulating."