TaraMaiden Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Well, she's texted. Talking about the program we used to watch and telling me to listen to a song followed by loads of kisses You need to install a call/text blocker. Really, you do. This is going to drive you - and in turn, us - insane, because no matter how much we tell you to drop it, move on, it doesn't matter she's a bitch - you still keep labouring the point. Block, delete, deny. If necessary, send her the 'magic text': Text blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Further attempts will result in this service being charged to your account. If she texts again, respond: Text blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. A fee of 0.85 cents has been charged to your account. The charge will not be itemised as a separate fee on your bill. It's brilliant, but effective. THEN: Install/download the blocker. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Share Posted July 27, 2013 I replied. It's wrong. I've been drinking, so I only have myself to blame. I can't thank all of you enough for the help, but I obviously can't listen to the advice that's been given. I'm weak. I'll spend some time away from here & hopefully when I return, I can offer my own advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Share Posted July 27, 2013 Just listened to the song, the last chorus was 'Please forgive me, I never meant to hurt you' Figures. Thank you all. She's not worth it anymore. I'm done. Link to post Share on other sites
jesse93 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I replied. It's wrong. I've been drinking, so I only have myself to blame. I can't thank all of you enough for the help, but I obviously can't listen to the advice that's been given. I'm weak. I'll spend some time away from here & hopefully when I return, I can offer my own advice. You're not weak man :/ you just gave in, its hard not to give in if my ex messages me right now i would probably give in as well, you don't have to leave this website theres no shame in giving into your ex's text she sent you but just know you are strong enough you just cant take the pain it was giving you, i believe you're strong enough keep your head up man i'd love to see how things work out so i think you should keep in contact with this thread every now and then and let us know. everyone is here for you to support you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Share Posted July 28, 2013 I've told her I'm going to call her tomorrow. I'm going to tell her that she needs to leave me alone and that she can't text me or contact me as it doesn't help. She keeps texting me telling me to listen to random songs that have meanings about our breakup and its utter bull****. I want her out of my life now, so I need to tell her. This is a massive step to me moving on. "Leave me the **** alone and piss off you complete toilet' Link to post Share on other sites
jesse93 Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 I've told her I'm going to call her tomorrow. I'm going to tell her that she needs to leave me alone and that she can't text me or contact me as it doesn't help. She keeps texting me telling me to listen to random songs that have meanings about our breakup and its utter bull****. I want her out of my life now, so I need to tell her. This is a massive step to me moving on. "Leave me the **** alone and piss off you complete toilet' good on you man, thats the best choice you could make at this point bro you need time to heal and move on with your life or else you'll be stuck in the situation you're in right now with pain. best of luck to you bro, update us and let us know how it works out for you today Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 By all means do this, but then go complete No Contact. She's a Douche: Here's what a buddy of mine did to stop a girl from continuously harassing him: He printed out her first name and mobile number, together with the slogan "If you really want the perfect bj, call ****** on ***** ******" on lots of little business-card-size bits of paper (I think he really only used about 12...). He cut them out, and pasted them liberally all over town - particularly in public phone boxes. Within a week, she was forced to change her number. In the meantime - he changed his too. SORTED. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 I hope you've followed through with what you said you were going to do. Proof that contact still gives you nothing but pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Share Posted July 28, 2013 She tried calling me today, but I missed her call. She then texted saying he was now busy all day so won't be able to talk. I texted her asking if now was a good time, she said no, what did i want to talk about. I said about the message she sent & she replied 'it was a song that said that I'm sorry for hurting you' I replied that I'm happy, it did hurt, but I'm now better for it. No reply back. Think she's got the message. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Share Posted July 28, 2013 So, NC resumes from today. Brilliant. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 You're kidding, right? Will you QUIT breaking No Contact?? Fer chrissakes, this is worse than pouring ground-up glass into your eyes, and rubbing!! Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 You think she got what message? I don't want to be rude, Steve but all you did was send her a message that you're weak and have zero balls. Really, you had to spit on your own dignity for her to get your "message"? I hope you don't break NC, again. If this isn't rock bottom, I don't know what else it would take for your to learn or simply love yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
danlightbulb Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 OP I have been in the same situation with a controlling ex wife for over 6 years. Read this and follow some of the links through. See if you recognise these traits in yourself and your ex. You need to believe in yourself and realise you have value. Don't give your power away to another. Codependency - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Dunno if this has been suggested already but exercise helps with NC, especially team sports. Stay over at your parents house. You need contact with others to take your mind off her. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
JustAReformedGirl Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 For your own sake, don't break NC again. If she contacts you, ignore her. If you have said what you needed to say, it's time to put this relationship to rest. I know, you're hurting and you're vulnerable. I know what that's like. I know how hard it is, to stay strong when you feel like your whole world is crumbling. Steve, you are better than her. Fine, maybe she's really sorry, or maybe she just wants to assuage her own guilt. Maybe she wants to secure you as a safety net. Whatever the case, let her go. You owe it to yourself, hon. You can do better, and once you've properly healed, you will. Be strong, keep yourself busy, and above all, let yourself grieve. There is no shame in your anger or your tears. Don't bottle it up, and don't seek comfort in a bottle. It doesn't work well. It's a Band-Aid solution to a much bigger problem. Please, respect yourself enough not to let her rule your world anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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