A relationship without Trust....Boyfriend cheated

[shellso]

OK first off my boyfriend and I are vary serious...marriage serious when this happened.

We had a house party and one of his friends brought his new fling over. My boyfriend was so drunk and ended up all over her full fledged making out on our deck, and he was on top of her on the couch! He even asked me if it was OK and 'Why are mad" This was a week before our anniversary and he was SO disgusted in himself afterwards.

 

The B!+(# even came along to our camping trip which was on our anniversary!!! RUDE!!! I totally embaressed her for being so slutty as to cheat on her man as well as going after a taken one etc. He also got his ear-full and I was going to leave.

 

Anyways we have gotten on better terms and I'm wondering if I'll ever be able to trust him again. Before that happened I was totally cool and now I feel like I need a private investigator whenever he leaves the house. (Complete exaggeration) I just feel like I cant trust him and I think I have A Dam good reason for it. There's no way in hell I'll allow him to get sh** faced with his friends when I'm not there but let alone cheating on me when I AM there!

Again we are now on better (not the greatest) terms. I still need to deal with my emotions.

 

Please if anyone has ever cheated on you and you tried to work it out, let me know how it all ended up and your emotional experiences.

[tattoomytoe]

this will be soo hard! but what you are going through will make you smarter!

 

first- at least he was totally drunk..that way it kinda lessens the chance that he does this sober. And at least you were there, and he didn't really Sneak around.

 

But he did do this, they were his actions.

 

You need to ask yourself if you want to deal with him any longer. And- assuming he never does this again- can you forgive him?

 

The trust, well it will slowly return. This cheating thing happened to me in july....and I am just now really getting over it, like forgiveness and all.

 

I have been on ok to good terms with my bf. But For me, I am just now getting recovered emotionally from it. And actually our relationship is better as i allow myself to heal.

 

so give yourself time...maybe it will take longer or shorter, before You truely feel better.

[faux]

I hope that people with better experiences in "working it out" will post, because I do not have anything good to say. I do not tend to try to work things out with a person who cheated on me, as I have never had success with it before. Trust, to me, is very important in a relationship.

 

If you think you want to, you can keep trying to take your relationship day by day. In time, you will find out if you can ever trust this man again. I think that you will be the only one able to answer your own question, as to whether your trust can be rebuilt.