What can your WS never ever do again! (light relief)

[Queen of Sheba]

Well, this is all so horrible I have to find a glimmer somewhere. What are the things that your WS can now never do? The things that s/he moaned about before but did for AP. The things they wouldn't do, supposeldy couldn't do, didn't want to do and now, if they can do it for them they can damn well do it for you! And no, I don't care that affair is all about excitment and doing things differently. Remorse is showing that you will do anything to show how sorry you are and that includes doing the same and more than you could do for your AP!

 

For me so far it is:

1) He went shopping with her for over 7 hours. He will say one hour of that was driving not with her!!! For 19 years he has hated shopping. Can't last an hour without moaning. Apparently because he needed new clothes (he did but that's irrelevant!) he needed to keep going back to the same shop to look again at the same place. Never ever will he moan again at shopping. If he dares it will be more than his life is worth! It was "only shopping" I was phoning hospitals he was so late. I think this is also worthy of yet another story for the rubbish WS come out with when discovered thread.

2) Never ever telling me he can't look up places to stay on the Internet so can't surprise me. He still tells me this and yet he could look up places to stay for his dirty week end and in fact somewhere else for a dirty week. He was telling me that he needed a week away to help his depression when obviously it was purely for a week of shagging. He didn't actually do this week because he didn't think it was worth the money! But had it been not only had he looked places up he would have had to book it without me knowing because if he had asked me to book it I would have done a single room.

3) Not pick up on hints when out shopping. Apparently she didn't ask for the necklace or the perfume, there are "ways of asking". Sadly I hinted at something recently, got turned down and I hadn't even asked, it was "I'm not paying for that!" It wasn't about the money of course, it was about the gesture because it was something for me to treat me that I wasn't going to do otherwise, he could have earned a few brownie points but nope, still not thinking about remorse. So this one isn't happening but did for her!

 

To say nothing of the other things he can do for himself nothing to do with the affair but won't do for me!

Edited July 24, 2013 by Queen of Sheba

[BetrayedH]

I only had three rules:

 

(1). No lying

(2). No contact

(3). No cheating

 

She broke the first two (multiple times) which left me with no trust about the third. We divorced.

[Queen of Sheba]

I only had three rules:

 

(1). No lying

(2). No contact

(3). No cheating

 

She broke the first two (multiple times) which left me with no trust about the third. We divorced.

 

Ah!

So much for the light relief! I have those rules, yet to see if he can do them and I still think there are many things that he has to do to show I am more important than the affair than just not lying and nc!