eltonsgurl Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 I have been best friends with Candace since I was about 10. I'm now 19, and we even lived together for a while. All the sudden she never calls, never writes (I'm away at college)- nothing. I confronted her about it and she got all huffy. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
greenlove Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 I had a best-friend like that once. I tried everything I could do to get her attention and she ignored me. I even broke down crying in front of her once b/c it affected me so much and she didn't respond. See she was like my little sister and I never did know why it happend exactly. I lost base with her for a long time but never gave up on establishing a friendship again, any chance I had to communicate to her and send my intersest in seeing her I did. She moved away and I bumped into her uncle and asked him to pass on my # to her and she called and we've been talking since. The point is I loved her very much that I didn't care if she rejected me I still showed her how much I cared and other then that there was not much I could do..until she contacted me. I would try to find out why she was upset and confront her about it. Talking things over might clear it up and maybe they don't have to result to so many years lost like my friend. (Sounds like a boyfriend dosen't) Link to post Share on other sites
hulavie Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 Originally posted by eltonsgurl All the sudden she never calls, never writes (I'm away at college)- nothing. I confronted her about it and she got all huffy. Do you mean to say that you try to talk like normal, say 'Hi' and such but she's totally ignoring you as though you don't exist. Or are you feeling that the two of you are just not as close as before..... used to call each other 4 times a day but now only contact each other once in 8 months..... which is it? I know my examples are exagerated but if you could clarify what the situation really is. I hope you didn't wake up one fine day and asked "What don't you talk me anymore" because initiative can go both ways. You could have called/wrote her first as well. An alternative to just asking her anything is to just start talking about some 'regular topics' you guys always love talking about and see how she reacts. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 This is a sign of a missing link of positive communication. It takes both of you to solve it. No one of you alone can do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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