Provider or lover?

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We've seen many articles that are featured on newspapers these days, the numerous reports on divorce. Women fighting court cases with wealthy men over alimony and whatnot. I personally think, in a Singaporean context that men have been supplicating women since adolescence. Think about it, haven't we once thought that we could impress a girl and possibly , maybe get her attention by giving her a pricey little Tiffany and Co necklace before? Most of the time, you'd probably get a "aww, so sweet, thank you." before she goes on to unwrap her other pricey gifts from other Mr Generous-es. It's important to note though, I'm not advocating you to be a plain jackass. Being a gentleman is PART of being a man.

 

A woman basically needs 2 kinds of men at different phases of her life. A provider, or a lover. A provider is usually who 80% of woman would marry especially here in Singapore. A provider is man who is stable financially, who is old enough, reliable. Women feel that their material needs are taken care of by these men.Think about it, many young girls are dating much older men these days, and what's the similarity between these men besides their age? Well, the answer is in their balances in their bank accounts. However,women like to rationalize their actions and of course they'll never admit to being materialistic, so they use much familiar terms like "maturity". I don't want to scare you guys, but it is a fact that women these days have CHOICES, it's a given. I've personally experienced and heard of women cheating on "good men" like these, because ultimately in life, there is something called TEMPTATION.

 

And that brings us to the Lover. The Lover the fun, no strings attached, no stress, good-in-bed kind of man that all women love. I would say at all stages of life, women LOVE men like this. who doesn't like feeling appreciated? Typical scenario. Couple is married for a few years, flame has died, or maybe the wealthy husband isn't around much. The lady meets a Lover. Is this scenario new or hard to imagine? No, some of you might have even experienced it yourselves before.

 

 

So does that mean, one can never find true happiness in marriage or a relationship? Nope, the trick is to ALWAYS have the lover in you and not just be a plain provider which most men tend to lose upon getting into a relationship.Remember, the lover is ingrained naturally in women, they naturally have the choice. Keep your value, don't neglect it just cos you think you've "Got" her.

 

 

 

- quoted from rpsdating.com