Ssgrimes Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 I have been away for a couple of weeks, because it helped me move on when I wasn't thinking about all the craziness all the time. But the crazy just erupted the past couple of days. I was getting to a point where I felt good, I felt stronger, I could see the light at the end of the tunnel and then BAM.... I am back into the crazy. Last week I was contacted by xMM via text, first time I had heard from him in about 3 weeks. I thought I had his number blocked from my phone company, but apparently I didn't. He contacted me, and I asked him to please respect my desire to have no contact with him. He sent 3 additional texts, and I did not respond to them. Yesterday he sends me a text questioning him if I sent him a text last week because his wife said that I did. I told him that he texted me. Obviously, when confronted, he said that he didnt text me. During this exchange I get a text stating that it was his wife and she wanted to know if he was telling the truth. I was honest with her and when her next question came about any specifics about our relationship I downplayed it. I was thanked and that was the end of it. At that point I was sick to my stomach and just wanted to get out of the conversation. I am so angry and just want to slap the crap out of xMM. I am wishing that I didn't cover for his sorry ass, but I just didn't want to get mixed up in any of the drama. I am getting to my better place and now I feel all the negativity again. I knew this was always a possibility, and I guess that now that it has happened I can get back to taking v=care of me and continue moving on. I am hoping that this will be the end of it.....praying that it will be the end of it. Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 Welcome back (despite being under these circumstances). First of all--congrats on not answering the previous texts. I know that had to be hard :/ You are getting stronger! Although you may feel guilty for downplaying your R with him, you at least let her know that he was the one who texted you first. Don't see this as going three steps back. From hereon out, she can decide how much of her H she believes. On the bright side-- you stayed out of the drama of the "he said she said." It was likely worth downplaying. P.S.--call your phone company and make sure he is on the blocked list 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 25, 2013 Author Share Posted July 25, 2013 Welcome back (despite being under these circumstances). First of all--congrats on not answering the previous texts. I know that had to be hard :/ You are getting stronger! Although you may feel guilty for downplaying your R with him, you at least let her know that he was the one who texted you first. Don't see this as going three steps back. From hereon out, she can decide how much of her H she believes. On the bright side-- you stayed out of the drama of the "he said she said." It was likely worth downplaying. P.S.--call your phone company and make sure he is on the blocked list That call will be made, but she now knows my number and I am still nervous that another attempt will be made. I guess that is the price I have to pay for my part in all of this. I think that what hurts the worse is feeling like I was thrown under a bus, a mega bus at that. But I really shouldn't be surprised. The past couple if months have really been eye opening about how selfish of a man he is. I don't need someone like that in my life and he is making it painfully obvious that his character is less than noble. Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 That call will be made, but she now knows my number and I am still nervous that another attempt will be made. I guess that is the price I have to pay for my part in all of this. I think that what hurts the worse is feeling like I was thrown under a bus, a mega bus at that. But I really shouldn't be surprised. The past couple if months have really been eye opening about how selfish of a man he is. I don't need someone like that in my life and he is making it painfully obvious that his character is less than noble. If she attempts to call you, then get her number blocked as well. She is likely done contacting you. WS are very selfish. They play their cards right to get what THEY want and do not care about how it affects their BS or the AP. However, AP do not necessarily see that at first--something such as the end of an A or things they say or do generally trigger that first. Link to post Share on other sites
Praying4Peace Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 You shouldn't have downplayed it. You should have told her that your first instinct is to downplay it to avoid creating drama...but....and just told her. If she texts back and asks you again, you should help her out. It's one thing to find them and tell them, but different when you are asked. He had no problem throwing you under the bus (and it was a LIE) so you're just telling the truth. Sorry it must suck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ssgrimes Posted July 25, 2013 Author Share Posted July 25, 2013 You shouldn't have downplayed it. You should have told her that your first instinct is to downplay it to avoid creating drama...but....and just told her. If she texts back and asks you again, you should help her out. It's one thing to find them and tell them, but different when you are asked. He had no problem throwing you under the bus (and it was a LIE) so you're just telling the truth. Sorry it must suck. Yes, it does suck. I replay what I could have done over and over. I think if I was in her shoes I would want to know but when it was happening I didn't really know what to think, much less what to say. I think this has opened her eyes quite a bit to the situation and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see the amount of communicating that went on between us the past couple of years and she can see the probability/possibility that he is not being honest. I verified that he was being dishonest withher during our brief exchange. Have any others been contacted by BS, pre or post DDay, and what did you do? Link to post Share on other sites
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