Facebook makes me sick (literally)

[Thierro]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous. I feel very negatively about Facebook in general.

 

I try to be open-minded about it and not let it get to me, but it does. I find it VERY difficult knowing that my girlfriend is using it. I wish she would stop, I wish there would be a girl that doesn’t feel the need to use it, but seeing that only 7 percent of people on the internet do not use it is shocking.

 

I feel like I want to break up with her because she is using Facebook. It may sound silly, but it’s messing with our relationship. I become mad, irritable and very anxious when she brings up Facebook. I try to deal with it and keep calm about it but I feel like I am building op tension and it needs to come out sometime.

 

I really don’t know what to do. I wish people would stop using it.

[steveT95]

Have you had a bad experience with facebook or social networks?

[jesse93]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous. I feel very negatively about Facebook in general.

 

I try to be open-minded about it and not let it get to me, but it does. I find it VERY difficult knowing that my girlfriend is using it. I wish she would stop, I wish there would be a girl that doesn’t feel the need to use it, but seeing that only 7 percent of people on the internet do not use it is shocking.

 

I feel like I want to break up with her because she is using Facebook. It may sound silly, but it’s messing with our relationship. I become mad, irritable and very anxious when she brings up Facebook. I try to deal with it and keep calm about it but I feel like I am building op tension and it needs to come out sometime.

 

I really don’t know what to do. I wish people would stop using it.

 

Are you sure its Facebook in general that does this to you? I don't think Facebook should make you feel this way i could understand if you dislike facebook because of the stuff your girlfriend posts on it, because at one point in time when me and my gf were together the only reason i made a facebook was to see if she was doing stuff i wouldn't like, because i had a feeling she was and once i added her the stuff i found pretty much broke my heart at the time. so are you sure you hate Facebook itself or just hate the stuff she puts on facebook does she seem flirty on facebook? The only reason i can see why you hate it is if you had a bad experience with it before.

[Thierro]

After a day my ex broke up with me she registered on Facebook, Twitter and Hyves. Just in a couple of day’s she befriended a lot of people on there (to my knowledge she never had any friends -It was just the two of us). Poking guy’s, flirting with them, setting dates. Not only that, but a couple of friends also experienced similar things: Cheating through Facebook. Everytime I see a Facebook logo or icon it reminds me of losing someone, betrayal. It’s making me want to tell my girlfriend to stop using it. I trust her, but I don’t trust Facebook.

 

But it’s not just that. I don’t understand why you would want to make your life so public. I believe it’s messed up to be able to go on Facebook and look for my girlfriends profile and read about her life day to day. Why does everything needs to be so open?

 

Is it wrong for me to think that I would like to have a girlfriend that doesn’t use Facebook? Is it wrong for me to believe that it shows a stronger character and identity/personality if people don’t use it?

[Midnight_Princess]

I dont use facebook I deleted mine two years ago cause it just causes too many problems in relationships. In saying that, face book isnt the problem its the people who use it. My current boyfriend uses it, not often though. At the start of our rship we had issues regarding it. Thats over with now but i still feel a bit paranoid about it, so i know how ya feel! Does she know your real feelings on it? Please dont make an account to keep an eye on it, youll drive yourself crazy.

Best of luck

[Ryan R.]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous. I feel very negatively about Facebook in general.

 

I get a similar feeling. Every time I see the front page of Facebook, I feel extremely "claustrophobic". I don't know why. Maybe its because I'm bombarded with so much information at once.

[carhill]

One question to ask is why electrons make you feel 'sick' (literally)

[steveT95]

90% of the pain from my break-up was caused by facebook and my exes use of it. I would find it difficult to trust another lover that uses it. But it would be even more difficult to find a lover that doesn't use it.

 

I Facebook profile doesn't have to be as open and revealing as some are. It is the users choice.

[jesse93]

After a day my ex broke up with me she registered on Facebook, Twitter and Hyves. Just in a couple of day’s she befriended a lot of people on there (to my knowledge she never had any friends -It was just the two of us). Poking guy’s, flirting with them, setting dates. Not only that, but a couple of friends also experienced similar things: Cheating through Facebook. Everytime I see a Facebook logo or icon it reminds me of losing someone, betrayal. It’s making me want to tell my girlfriend to stop using it. I trust her, but I don’t trust Facebook.

 

But it’s not just that. I don’t understand why you would want to make your life so public. I believe it’s messed up to be able to go on Facebook and look for my girlfriends profile and read about her life day to day. Why does everything needs to be so open?

 

Is it wrong for me to think that I would like to have a girlfriend that doesn’t use Facebook? Is it wrong for me to believe that it shows a stronger character and identity/personality if people don’t use it?

 

I understand this completely, and it is very true I hate pretty much all social media type things Facebook causes loads of problems when i added my ex there was a guy saying i love you to her and she was saying it back they flirted and talked about talking on the phone it hurt me beyond belief and yet i stuck around like a puppet and she was controlling my strings, another one i hate a lot is Instagram, yet another problem i had my ex gf posting all these pics of herself and having the same guy that was on her facebook saying i love you commenting on all her pictures saying she has a nice body, and shes beautiful and misses her. She never would get rid of that guy for me.. i even said "me or him" and she wouldnt get rid of him this went on for 4 years on and off she accused me of not trusting her and they were only friends personally i call bs on that anyway.. makes me very angry thinking about it. but i understand what you mean these social media sites just cause problems tbh makes you vulnerable and makes you lose trust in your lover when you see **** like that.

Edited July 26, 2013 by jesse93

[iouaname]

Stay away from it! What's the point if it makes you anxious? I made it a goal of mine to stay away from ANY social media for 30 days. I am 10 days into it and I feel great! It's so much nicer not having to see everything going on in other people's lives. The constant need to compare yourself to other people is unhealthy, and I definitely am happy with my decision to remove it from my life.

[kenneth1010]

I left FB on Xmas day , as a gift to myself but that was 7 months ago, i recently re-activated my account for no real reason apart from reading a book called " The Warrior Within ", which focuses on Bruce Lee and his beliefs, not his skill as a fighter.

 

Bruce basically said that " to close oneself to any and all possibilities is to deny what makes human beings human ".

 

Not his words but my interpretation of what i have read about the man.

[Els]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous. I feel very negatively about Facebook in general.

 

I try to be open-minded about it and not let it get to me, but it does. I find it VERY difficult knowing that my girlfriend is using it. I wish she would stop, I wish there would be a girl that doesn’t feel the need to use it, but seeing that only 7 percent of people on the internet do not use it is shocking.

 

I feel like I want to break up with her because she is using Facebook. It may sound silly, but it’s messing with our relationship. I become mad, irritable and very anxious when she brings up Facebook. I try to deal with it and keep calm about it but I feel like I am building op tension and it needs to come out sometime.

 

I really don’t know what to do. I wish people would stop using it.

 

I hate to say this, but this goes WAY beyond a normal disdain for social networking.

 

Have you talked to a professional about your obsession with this? I don't mean this offensively - I'm serious. There's nothing wrong with preferring not to use social networks or preferring someone who doesn't use social networks, but the sheer extremity of your reaction to it (anxiety, nausea) etc requires help.

[Radu]

Stay away from it! What's the point if it makes you anxious? I made it a goal of mine to stay away from ANY social media for 30 days. I am 10 days into it and I feel great! It's so much nicer not having to see everything going on in other people's lives. The constant need to compare yourself to other people is unhealthy, and I definitely am happy with my decision to remove it from my life.

 

Good thing LS is not social media then, huh ?

[Emilia]

After a day my ex broke up with me she registered on Facebook, Twitter and Hyves. Just in a couple of day’s she befriended a lot of people on there (to my knowledge she never had any friends -It was just the two of us). Poking guy’s, flirting with them, setting dates. Not only that, but a couple of friends also experienced similar things: Cheating through Facebook. Everytime I see a Facebook logo or icon it reminds me of losing someone, betrayal. It’s making me want to tell my girlfriend to stop using it. I trust her, but I don’t trust Facebook.

 

But it’s not just that. I don’t understand why you would want to make your life so public. I believe it’s messed up to be able to go on Facebook and look for my girlfriends profile and read about her life day to day. Why does everything needs to be so open?

 

Is it wrong for me to think that I would like to have a girlfriend that doesn’t use Facebook? Is it wrong for me to believe that it shows a stronger character and identity/personality if people don’t use it?

 

I hate to say this, but this goes WAY beyond a normal disdain for social networking.

 

Have you talked to a professional about your obsession with this? I don't mean this offensively - I'm serious. There's nothing wrong with preferring not to use social networks or preferring someone who doesn't use social networks, but the sheer extremity of your reaction to it (anxiety, nausea) etc requires help.

I agree with Els but would take it further and say that you have serious controll issues as I mentioned it in another thread.

 

I remember you also posted about a previous (much younger) girlfriend's parents who banned - or tried to ban - her from seeing you, I gather because of said control issues.

 

It's something you need to investigate in my opinion because your comment that you thought it was wrong for your ex girlfriend to seek friends when she had none before is the comment of a potential abuser. I get the impression from your posts that you seek to isolate your partners.

[sillyanswer]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous.

 

I really don’t know what to do. I wish people would stop using it.

 

People aren't going to stop using it just to spare you some discomfort, sorry.

 

I have a suggestion for what you should do given your extreme reaction to this: go and seek help from a mental health professional. I'm serious.

[NomiMalone]

I can completely understand where your negative feelings for Facebook stem from. Facebook itself is not evil. It's the people who behave inappropriately on there in ways that cause harm to others (intentionally or otherwise) who are the culprits.

 

If you feel that badly about it, unfriend/unfollow people who might post things that give you grief. You don't have to put yourself through anything that makes you unhappy, regardless of what the rest of the world is doing. Believe me, your life would not be worse off for it!

[Eve]

It was a nightmare to monitor when the kids were younger. Glad I don't have to do that anymore. That really put me off FB. Aside from that, it's ok.

 

Mainly I go on to play Candy Crush.

 

Gosh, that game is seriously addictive.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[iouaname]

Good thing LS is not social media then, huh ?

 

Was this sarcasm? I don't consider LS social media. The anonymity of LS makes it a much more comfortable setting than Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.

[Emilia]

Was this sarcasm? I don't consider LS social media. The anonymity of LS makes it a much more comfortable setting than Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.

That's a dangerous mindset. If you spend longer time here and end up befriending people the anonymity will cease.

[hippetyhop]

Just get rid of Facebook.

 

I did and it is great. It is time consuming and just another thing to worry about. I used to wonder how my friends who didn't have it could live..now I can't imagine going back.

[Els]

Just get rid of Facebook.

 

I did and it is great. It is time consuming and just another thing to worry about. I used to wonder how my friends who didn't have it could live..now I can't imagine going back.

 

You people are missing the point.

 

That's like telling someone who gets anxious, mad, and nauseous whenever he even thinks of the beach: "Well, just don't go to the beach!"

 

See, that's not the POINT. It's normal to dislike stuff. It's not normal to get such extreme reactions to stuff that you dislike.

[iouaname]

That's a dangerous mindset. If you spend longer time here and end up befriending people the anonymity will cease.

 

I disagree. I don't use LS as a substitute for social media. For me, they serve entirely different purposes. I would not find LS useful to me if not for the anonymity, so I have no intention of letting it cease.

 

Respectfully, I think your line of thinking is more dangerous. It seems pessimistic and creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Edited July 26, 2013 by iouaname

[hippetyhop]

You people are missing the point.

 

That's like telling someone who gets anxious, mad, and nauseous whenever he even thinks of the beach: "Well, just don't go to the beach!"

 

See, that's not the POINT. It's normal to dislike stuff. It's not normal to get such extreme reactions to stuff that you dislike.

 

Then what actions are to be taken to the reaction? Either get rid of it, or go seek counseling. If a person says "I don't like the beach" and they get upset THINKING about it, then a trigger just of that nature is red flag to go get some help. If this person has a gripe just thinking about Facebook, perhaps that is an eye opener that they have an underlying problem they need help addressing.

[iris219]

I don’t know what it is about Facebook. Seeing the frontpage, just Googling a logo of Facebook or seeing ‘Like’ Icons make me feel extremely anxious and nauseous. I feel very negatively about Facebook in general.

 

I feel the same way, though not quite as intense as you do. I hardly ever go on FB because when I do I feel like I've visited a dirty place and need to shower.

 

I wish it didn't exist either. It doesn't add much good to the world. I should just delete mine. Have you considered getting rid of yours?

[beautifulearth83]

Dear poster, I agree with you completely. My life got ridiculously worse after joining facebook, and is now getting better since deleting my account. I don't use any social media. And I'm afraid that it's disease is spreading into every day life, but luckily there are still some people out there who are still real.

 

You will enjoy this video: http://mashable.com/2011/11/06/louis-c-k-thinks-social-media-sucks/

 

And I too hope that people stop using it. Apparently there are a lot of people out there who have brain cells to spare. But I'm too far aware in life and understand easily when something is only going to do damage.