Another short thread but with a positive spin !!

[kenneth1010]

Short men get the, forgive the pun, short end of the stick but it doesnt have to be this way.

 

I have had moderate success at the mating game, 5'6 but with big shoulders and an abnormal sized 17' neck. I sound top heavy looking at that statement and i suppose i am but that is just half the story.

 

Wore glasses until i was 15, started wearing contacts, until i was 20, had laser eye treatment (i was born short sighted btw). From the uk so i played rugby, football (soccer), i was a sprinter, 100m, 200m. I was quite active, sporting wise at least.

 

Anyway, back on topic, "US" short guys, its only been the last 6 months that i have, at least in my own head, changed my persona and all because of another short guy, Bruce Lee.

 

Dont instantly go, oh not him or how can i possibly be like him but i am talking about the MAN, Bruce, not the fighting legend. The MAN got his degree in philosophy and is regarded by many as being the youngest sage that ever lived.

 

He was 5'7, 130-140 pounds but the presence of the man was huge, again forgive any pun

 

Any short guys out there ( like myself) please read " The Warrior Within " by John Little ( again, i am not making this up ) and read about his philosophies, it doesnt specify about size or height but this is a man who knows the ins and outs of being a man in the western world. He fought greater issues, stuff that really mattered.

 

Please read this book, i cant recommend it highly enough, it really will show you the possibilities that lay in front of you, i wish i had just found this book about 15 years ago, when it was first released, i would be a far more confident man than i am right now. I am getting there but if you offered me a 15 yr head start, who in their right mind would turn that down??

[Leegh]

The book sounds great, but I wanted to add my two cents. Even though I am a woman, I wanted to say that I had worked with a man that was not tall, and he has been married twice, (he is married now to his second wife), and his former wife and his current wife, are both very attractive, small women. So I think men that are not tall, just need to pursue and approach the smaller, shorter women. A lot of women (including myself) don't like to wear high heels, and would prefer a man who is not tall.

[GorillaTheater]

Don't know about the book, but kudos on the attitude, man.

 

with big shoulders and an abnormal sized 17' neck

 

Oh. "neck". Read that wrong the first time.

[Forever Learning]

Kenneth1010, thank you for the book recommendation! I love Bruce Lee, I can't wait to check this book out. I agree with everything you said about Bruce. A one in a million type person, very inspiring, and by the way, so are you Kenneth. I do love the positive vibe you emit, totally awesome, thanks for inspiring me with your positive energy

[MrCastle]

Good attitude OP. If you're looking for short guy inspiration, James Dean was about 5'7, 5'8 and is still a sex symbol even now. When asked if his height would hold him back in his career he said "how do you measure acting in inches?"

 

Weird though because many actors are short. Pacino is 5'3, Daniel Radcliff is 5'5, Dustin Hoffman is 5'5, Tom Cruise is 5'6. Even Stallone who appears like this huge guy is only about 5'9 in real life. But I guess in Dean's era, being tall was a bigger deal.

 

The book sounds great, but I wanted to add my two cents. Even though I am a woman, I wanted to say that I had worked with a man that was not tall, and he has been married twice, (he is married now to his second wife), and his former wife and his current wife, are both very attractive, small women. So I think men that are not tall, just need to pursue and approach the smaller, shorter women. A lot of women (including myself) don't like to wear high heels, and would prefer a man who is not tall.

 

I think short men should pursue whatever woman they are attracted to. Just like everyone else. Being short is not a flaw or a disability, and very few women in real life actually care about it (in my experience). And truth be told, my personal success is more with my height or taller, for whatever reason.

[kenneth1010]

The book sounds great, but I wanted to add my two cents. Even though I am a woman, I wanted to say that I had worked with a man that was not tall, and he has been married twice, (he is married now to his second wife), and his former wife and his current wife, are both very attractive, small women. So I think men that are not tall, just need to pursue and approach the smaller, shorter women. A lot of women (including myself) don't like to wear high heels, and would prefer a man who is not tall.

 

I have dated women of all shapes and sizes, i even had a women who must have been near 6'3 approach me at a club to ask if i wanted to dance. She looked a little tipsy, it was a few hours after a rugby international but i froze, shook my head no and turned back around.

I seen her at another pub some months later, earlier in the day than the first meeting and she was quite attractive, even in her Welsh rugby shirt.

 

We both found ourselves avoiding eye contact, even though we both found each other attractive.

In the past i would have said "nah, would never have worked, too tall" but now i am thinking "missed opportunity, wont let it happen again"

 

I used to be terrible at noticing signs of flirting, even some blatantly obvious flirting. Holiday rep in Greece, after the first night of showing our group (lads holiday) around the island of Kos, she would make the effort to see us in the morning. The first night was quite a wild one, can barely remember anything about it tbh.

It didnt even register at the time, massive hangover btw but she said to me, "how do i look so good in the morning?". It could have been just a nice thing to say to someone, not necessarily flirting. She would come and talk to me by the side of the pool, again, something i didnt pick up on.

 

But any doubts that she was hitting on me were totally blown out of the water on day 4 when she came right up to me in one of the clubs and asked "What have i done wrong, why wont you speak to me?" She was right, i had barely spoken to her over the those 4 days, she made the effort, i made none.

My answer was not great, not even sure if i actually gave her an answer, i just froze (again). Didnt see her at all for the remainder of the holiday.

She was slightly taller than me and attractive to boot.

 

The only person who ever told me they loved me and meant it was 5'10 with great legs. It fizzled out after she told me she loved me, totally my fault, i got scared and back away from the relationship.

 

I rarely made the first move with women in the past (doing it a bit more these days) but now i think back to the women from my past, most have been taller. I know that's not hard with myself being 5'6 but i do find that trend interesting.

 

Thanks Forever Learning for your kind words, its all training, in this case training of the mind. I always tried to keep my body in shape, it never really occurred to me that my psyche would need attention too

 

Edit:

And truth be told, my personal success is more with my height or taller, for whatever reason.

 

but now i think back to the women from my past, most have been taller. I know that's not hard with myself being 5'6 but i do find that trend interesting.

Ha ha, was still doing my post and you had posted before i could finish mine Edited July 27, 2013 by kenneth1010
errors corrected

[kenneth1010]

I shall leave this thread with a quote that Bruce himself read about and found to be true to himself (from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe), the one quote that really sticks in my mind is:

 

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do

 

A simple enough idea wouldnt you say?

[Forever Learning]

Thank you for that quote Kenneth. It was perfect and awesome. Seriously!!!

[kenneth1010]

Thank you for that quote Kenneth. It was perfect and awesome. Seriously!!!

 

sincerity is so hard to spot online, so more to that reality,

 

But i will leave you all with another gem :

 

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.