Lady2163 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Call it payback or revenge, have you ever facilitated it and what did you do? Feel free to give humorous examples. I have done revenge twice. One boyfriend borrowed money. I didn't know he essentially packed his trash, did some nesting and prepared his house to move the other woman in. I never would have loaned him money if I knew he would break up with me two months later and move her in a month after that. I never had any complaints or reason to hassle him about monthly payback. He was on time...the first two months. The third month he was a few days late, then the fourth month he didn't pay, they were planning their wedding. I contacted him excessively through phone and email, begging him to pay. He eventually told mutual friends I was stalking him (they didn't know about te money). So, I sold his loan to some more "organized" collectors. They only gave him 30 days to pay his loan, whereas with me, he had two years. I think he had to sell a car. My own second revenge, I will wait to tell, but an older woman I worked with once told this story about her cheating boyfriend. They were together three years. He resisted moving the relationship beyond seeing each other a couple of times a week. He was neglectful, never there for her in tough times or celebrations. She put up with a lot from him. She knew he wasn't married or living with someone else. When he broke up with her, he told her, "I don't love you, I'm never going to love you and I deserve to move on and be happy." Two weeks later he and the other woman flew to Vegas and got married. It bothered her for years that he just threw her away and that he cheated. She moved across country, married the love of her life and was seemingly happy. Yet, she never felt justified or vindicated. She knew since ex didn't love her, nothing she ever said to him would really matter. Flash forward many years or so after the relationship and she is back in the area. She was driving past a local post office and got an idea. She wrote an anonymous letter to the wife that went something like this: Dear Mrs. Doe, Your husband has been having an affair with my wife for over a year. I'm sick of it. After the holidays, I'm leaving her. She can't stand to be alone. I thought you'd want to know. She mailed it so it arrived on Christmas Eve. The wife threw him out on Christmas Eve and no amount of pleading could convince her he wasn't cheating. I thought that was pretty viscious, but my co-worker said she never lost any sleep over it (they didn't have children), she was a better wife because from that point on, she never had any self esteem issues. And she felt redemption for actions of both the other woman and the cheating boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ssgrimes Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Right now I am at an all time low and am feeling like revenge would be such sweet justice. But I Also know that I won't follow through with these feelings because it really wouldn't do any good but make me lok like the psycho other woman. So far I have taken the high road and don't want to stoop to what I would consider his level... But the thought of it right now sounds wonderful 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lady2163 Posted July 26, 2013 Author Share Posted July 26, 2013 My co-worker found a certain peace from it. When I first hit on the idea to sell my ex boyfriends loan, I had a rush of great satisfaction that he would be under stress and negative emotions. I was resentful that his final cheating ass act was to try to turn mutual friends against me. By the time I did it, I was kind of apathetic. I had my money. I changed my phone number, moved apartments and went away for a couple of weeks. He couldn't contact me and neither could the friends who had taken his side. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Revenge is always fun to think about. Especially when they really REALLY deserve it! I can't recall ever attempting to exact revenge on someone. Not my style. I'd rather put my energies in to myself and whatever healing I need. I'm happy to be the one who DIDN'T do something mean. I'll still dream about it though 3 Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I wouldn't do any type of revenge that would put him, myself, nor the BS in any type of imminent danger. Those two have children together. If it hits the fan hard enough, you never know how someone under that kind of pressure and stress will react. Honestly, I didn't think of any either. I knew what I got myself into. He never pulled any of the stuff that some of the other WS pulled on the OW. My only revenge on him was ending it unexpectedly and pretending everything was okay leading up to it. In a way, I compare it to a BS finding out that her WS is cheating and they had no idea. I am hoping it was a huge eye opener that hit him blindsided and he is suffering just a fraction of how I am (just by missing him--although I highly doubt it). Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 The best revenge I could ever do is LEAVE with a full blown NC. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 The best revenge I could ever do is LEAVE with a full blown NC. Then do it (if you haven't already). That is what I am doing right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Then do it (if you haven't already). That is what I am doing right now. Day one of NC lol 3 Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Day one of NC lol Excellent :D One day at a time. Think about it this way--he likely had a hold on you during the A. I bet it was on his terms. When you can call, when he can see you, etc. The ball was in his court. Guess what. Not anymore. The ball is in YOUR court. How YOU take it from here will decide nobody's fate but your own. Let him know you aren't playing his games anymore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 My freshman year of college I suspected my boyfriend of 3 years was cheating with a senior who lived in his apt building (cougar!). Anyway when I was in town visiting for the weekend, I actually found her student picture ID card on the floor of his closet. I took it and said nothing to him. Before I had to head home, I stopped at the campus library and used her ID to check out all the biggest fattest hardcover books I could find that had prices of $30+. Took them home with me, and hoped after she accrued huge late fees, she'd have to also pay to replace them. Broke up with the bf when I got back and never told him what I did. A few years later he did admit "it was just sex" with her since we were long distance. Whatever! LOL Not a life-altering situation but it still makes me chuckle at my little act of immature revenge. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hippetyhop Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 My freshman year of college I suspected my boyfriend of 3 years was cheating with a senior who lived in his apt building (cougar!). Anyway when I was in town visiting for the weekend, I actually found her student picture ID card on the floor of his closet. I took it and said nothing to him. Before I had to head home, I stopped at the campus library and used her ID to check out all the biggest fattest hardcover books I could find that had prices of $30+. Took them home with me, and hoped after she accrued huge late fees, she'd have to also pay to replace them. Broke up with the bf when I got back and never told him what I did. A few years later he did admit "it was just sex" with her since we were long distance. Whatever! LOL Not a life-altering situation but it still makes me chuckle at my little act of immature revenge. Bwhahaha. That is pretty good! Nobody got hurt Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 This is why most men think women are crazy. Personally, the best revenge you can give someone is moving on with your life without them and having and amzing and productive life.! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
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