it'smehello Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 You were engaged and your fiance is from money and you are from money. With that being said, his parents and your parents are going to buy you both a big house to live in when you get married. Yes or no? I would say no because it was given to us, not earned and I do not really see the value in that. However, I would be really jealous of a couple that had this happen to them! Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 well if You are born to it...maybe it has always been Known, that when you marry you parents will buy you a house. It really depends on the circumstances of the families. Plus it is a huge tax break for the parents. Link to post Share on other sites
kiwi29f Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 That would be nice. I think I would let them help us buy a house, not actually buy it for us maybe put down the down payment. They want to do that so why not at least let the, help. I didn't come from money, my husband came from a very well off family but not "rich". We've been married for 2 years & still rent an apartment that we're quickly "growing" out of so it would be really nice to have help getting a house, but I can understand wanting to earn it for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
JessicaAlmond Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 My Boyfriend and I are outgrowing our apartment as well and buying a house. He comes from a well off family as well (not rich) and they offered to help but we wanted to prove we could do it on our own. I love the fact that now OUR house is OUR house. That we bought together. Its the best feeling. Now the decorating thats alllll me:) Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 Originally posted by it'smehello You were engaged and your fiance is from money and you are from money. With that being said, his parents and your parents are going to buy you both a big house to live in when you get married. Yes or no? I say no because they would probably feel they had some sort of "control" over your lives.........like if HIS parents bought the home and you two fought, who do you think would probably be asked to leave, and vice versa. Plus I think u have to earn things for yourself in order to really be able to appreciate them they would they should be appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
fredrolin Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 when your parents die you will get some money anyway, right? might as well let them spend it now since you need a house. I don't believe in that "you have to earn it to appreciate it" crap. It depends on your personality and upbringing. Plenty of rich kids who have had everything handed to them know how to appreciate things. Besides part of getting rich is to provide a better life for your family. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 Originally posted by it'smehello You were engaged and your fiance is from money and you are from money. With that being said, his parents and your parents are going to buy you both a big house to live in when you get married. Yes or no? I would say no because it was given to us, not earned and I do not really see the value in that. However, I would be really jealous of a couple that had this happen to them! !! If you can get it---GET IT!! I used to be so proud of the fact that my husband and I did everything ourselves. We never borrowed money from family for our downpayment on the house or needed a co-signer for a car loan, etc. But after struggling for so many years now (since my husband stopped working over nine years ago) If I had a well-off relative pop out of the woodwork and offer me a nice new house or something, I would be ALL over it! Just because something is given to you, doesn't mean you are a slacker and not capable of earning it yourselves, it just means that you are very fortunate to have parents who are able to do for you the things that most parents would like to do for their children. I say go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
GirlDown Posted October 28, 2004 Share Posted October 28, 2004 i agree with fredolin. i am an appreciative "spoiled brat" myself. i know one day that i will expected to provide for myself simply for pride and practical reasons, but it's nice to know that i will never want for anything i can't have. my father worked hard for what he is and what he has, and likes to share it with his family. big deal. a lot of parents do. i say take it, just don't be a jerk about it and there's nothing wrong with you. good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 If they want to give it to you, go for it. Take it with the appreciate and understanding that this is a true gift. Only a very few get to experience this. Paying for a mortgage, etc.. is very stressful and fiancial problems are usually one of the main things couples fight about. Link to post Share on other sites
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