grassisorisntgreener Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 So I'm sitting at my desk, AP is also at work, 1.5 hours away, but we listen to the same radio station at work. Right now the radio host/dj is going on and on about affairs and how women are whores and they never should have gotten married and on and on and on..to the point I had to shut it off because I was so uncomfortable (read, feeling guilty). And I know AP was listening to the same topic (unless by some chance he wasn't in his office at that moment)... it seemed so awkward, even though we aren't even in the same room. Another awkward moment was on his couch once, we were cuddling, kissing probably and the song "Stay" but Sugarland comes on... that felt really weird considering I was going home to my "real life" that same night. Have any of you had really awkward things happen during your affairs? This thread isn't a judgy type of thread, I am not in the mood for lectures. Can we keep it light? Maybe even find humor in an otherwise terrible situation? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I found out about one of my dad's affairs while my exAP and I were together, and there was a lot of drama going on between my parents because of it and I was venting to him about it.....AWKWARD!I'm venting to my affair partner about my dad's affair ...and his response was to say "I'm so sorry babe...." or something like that and how if I needed anything...LMAOOOOOOOOOOO I remember also getting angry at him too, because I felt in that moment the reality of our situation, and I was like wtfff....you're just like him! How dare you try to offer sympathy when you're a cheater too?? I wondered if he felt awkward or guilty or was oblivious about his own situation? And I was also thinking to myself, what exactly are you doing? But thinking back it was totally hysterical to be upset about infidelity and cheating in your family and who you lean on and vent about it to is your own affair partner ..smh. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Awkward moments are unavoidable in all walks of life whenever we are dishonest. happens to all! Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I think it's your guilt that creates the awkwardness. I don't recall ever feeling awkward in my A. I felt a lot of other things, but not awkward. Being with him made the most sense to me and it was the best place to be at all times - having to go back to reality excluded. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I think it's your guilt that creates the awkwardness. I don't recall ever feeling awkward in my A. I felt a lot of other things, but not awkward. Being with him made the most sense to me and it was the best place to be at all times - having to go back to reality excluded. The affair universe was perfect. At least for you. Not everybody can do that. Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 It wasn't perfect at all, but it wasn't awkward. One of the characteristics of being in love is the lack of awkarwdness, that fine tuning and ease with each other. I felt angry, annoyed, frustrated, rejected and probably many other, but not awkward. That's why I think OP feeling awkward is about her not comig to terms with being the OW, or otherwise called the slut who's breaking a perfect family. That's the moment to end the affair. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I'm convinced that anytime you bring sex into the equation, you're going to have awkward moments. Hopefully, they're humorous and not crawl in a hole die of embarrassment. Link to post Share on other sites
affairaddict Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 The whole affair was awkward / nerve wracking red faces flustered like teenagers meeting up anyway. We both said we enjoyed feeling like this.. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 (edited) So I'm sitting at my desk, AP is also at work, 1.5 hours away, but we listen to the same radio station at work. Right now the radio host/dj is going on and on about affairs and how women are whores and they never should have gotten married and on and on and on..to the point I had to shut it off because I was so uncomfortable (read, feeling guilty). And I know AP was listening to the same topic (unless by some chance he wasn't in his office at that moment)... it seemed so awkward, even though we aren't even in the same room. Another awkward moment was on his couch once, we were cuddling, kissing probably and the song "Stay" but Sugarland comes on... that felt really weird considering I was going home to my "real life" that same night. Have any of you had really awkward things happen during your affairs? This thread isn't a judgy type of thread, I am not in the mood for lectures. Can we keep it light? Maybe even find humor in an otherwise terrible situation? You want humor in this? There is NOTHING funny about hurting self and others. Edited July 27, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Well...speaking of an awkward moment... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I think awkward moments happen for the MP in the A, because there are 2 parallel universes going on at the same time. I remember when I was in my A, I am a fMOW and BS, I just couldn't ever get comfortable with it. I always knew it felt wrong and then would try to push those moments of shame out of my mind until I was home again. Now looking back (and it is 5 years since my A ended) I can say that during the A I was miserable trying to juggle two lives, not only that but I am not a selfish person and my act of having an A was purely selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
psm04 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Have any of you had really awkward things happen during your affairs? This thread isn't a judgy type of thread, I am not in the mood for lectures. Can we keep it light? Maybe even find humor in an otherwise terrible situation? The most awkward moments for us were whenever someone else asked a question about or mentioned one of our spouses in front of the other person. That was always kind of weird, to have to explain to someone what our weekend plans with our spouses were going to be, in front of the AP. It was one of several doses of reality. As far as feeling that way during certain songs etc., not really since we are both married adults who made a conscious decision to do what we did. If one of us was a bad person of some sort for doing that, then so was the other. The dj sounds like an *******, for saying how women are whores. Hello? How about the men? Do they have no responsibility at all? Yet again another example of how the women involved are stereotyped. Not bashing you at all, OP.. Just venting about the DJ :-) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Psm, I wanted to let you know I liked what you said about the DJ being a jerk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
psm04 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Thanks :-) He is!!! Link to post Share on other sites
whereamigoing Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Funny awkward: the first fart. It was perfectly quiet in the room. I tried to blame the dog only to realize the dog wasn't in the room. I turned red I'm sure. He looked at me with a look of shock and then burst out laughing. Still makes me smile. Just plain awkward: hanging out in town we ran into an old friend of his and BS. The friend asked about how MM was doing and about BS. We were introduced and it was all very friendly stuff. MM was very apologetic after but it wasn't anything to be sorry about...just awkward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I think my funny awkward moment was when we were being intimate and I coughed or sneezed at the wrong time and caused an unintentional....fall out. Link to post Share on other sites
LilGirlandOW Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Ok this is TMI, but... My MOST embarassing moment with MM was getting my AF during sex. It was no big deal to him, I wanted to die. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
zevahc Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 We ran into my parents once during lunch...they later asked me if she was married...and said she was cute. I'm single...so they are always on the lookout...then actually a few weeks ago my mom asked again...I think she didn't remember she had already asked since it had been almost 2 years...it's awkward and also stirs guilt up. Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 The only awkward moment was in the early days when the head of another section at the place I worked at the time asked me loudly across the room just before a meeting started if I was having an A with MM. The Chair cut her off to start the meeting, and looked disgustedly at her for her unprofessional behaviour, and after the meeting she rushed up to,apologise to me and explained that she fancied him herself and had made a move some years earlier and been brushed off, so she was insanely jealous. Link to post Share on other sites
LaceyS Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 My moment was when he and I were out in public, and a friend from school recognised him - and asked if I was his wife, as 'you've done well for yourself haven't you'. It was a little bit funny. Link to post Share on other sites
MMY Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 Having the cleaning lady at the hotel walk in on us!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 The only funny/awkward issues we've had were a few times when we were together, he ended up with such horrible flatulence due to things that I brought for us to eat, that he didn't even want to stay in the same room as me. He was so embarrassed. :-p He still, to this day, has not passed gas in front of me. Refuses to. He says he'll wait until I have a ring on my finger so I don't get scared away. :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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