Should anybody tell his girlfriend?

[oranje]

I know this might sound strange:

 

I googled an abbreviation my ex uses as a username and I found him on this player site. And he's apparently not single, yet he tries to get laid with some other women. The thing is that this poor girl is only 15 and probably very naive. She lives in a country very far away and they have a long-distance relationship right now. If she ever finds out about this she'll probably get very hurt but if she doesn't he'll probably use her or hurt her in any other way. He has been posting pictures of her and writing about all the women he's been trying to get laid.

 

My question is whether it's right or wrong to tell her since I don't really want to get involved though I pity this poor girl. I would hate to see another woman be hurt by this man but I don't want to be the one telling her even if there's a lot of proof on this website.

[ForeverHopeful1]

This is not your business. Pity her from afar. We all learn from our mistakes. Chances are, she wouldn't believe you anyway.

 

Also, stop creeping on your ex and move on. It's time to stop thinking of this horrible waste of a man, and be happy without him.

 

I would just stay the heck away from this situation, Hun. Take care of you at the moment and forget about all the other women he is trying to bed.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Ask yourself this: would you do it because you genuinely care about this other girl or is it a veiled attempt to get back at your ex? Would a part of you enjoy breaking them up/causing them stress because you are jealous?

[JAG-UR]

Regardless of the fact that he is your ex, the girl is 15. It's not right. You might be able to prevent a lot of pain by telling her.

[ChessPieceFace]

You're not obligated to act as the dating police for all of your exes. There's no right or wrong answer. Inform if you want to inform. If not, don't.

[oranje]

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This is not your business. Pity her from afar. We all learn from our mistakes. Chances are, she wouldn't believe you anyway.

 

Also, stop creeping on your ex and move on. It's time to stop thinking of this horrible waste of a man, and be happy without him.

 

I would just stay the heck away from this situation, Hun. Take care of you at the moment and forget about all the other women he is trying to bed.

 

Why wouldn't she believe me? The name is right, there are several pictures of him, he's very open about everything and there are at least three pictures of her among pictures of other women. She would make a big mistake if she waited for him to come back or waited until she was old enough to move to his home country. Once you really get cheated on you'll never trust anybody again, sadly. I hope that never happens to her, she's too young to have some man ruin her life.

 

He's a horrible excuse for a man, I'll give you that. That's also why I don't want to get involved, because I don't want a creep like that back in my life trying to get back at me. I'm finally happy with my life as it is, so I should probably stay out of it even if it hurts to see other girls being used by him.

[oranje]

Ask yourself this: would you do it because you genuinely care about this other girl or is it a veiled attempt to get back at your ex? Would a part of you enjoy breaking them up/causing them stress because you are jealous?

 

I guess the part of me that was hurt by his slander would probably like to see him pay. But I could never enjoy hurting an innocent girl to get back at him. There are better ways. I genuinely care for people in her position because I have seen it too many times already. Why couldn't he just leave this poor girl out of it.

[oranje]

Regardless of the fact that he is your ex, the girl is 15. It's not right. You might be able to prevent a lot of pain by telling her.

 

I forgot to mention that he's almost 25 which only makes it worse.

[oranje]

Good lord, pervert boy is 25 and he's playing with some 15 year old child in another country? He's a real catch.

 

I'd let her PARENTS know first.

 

I wish I could, but I don't know them and I just found out from that site. From what I read she lives with her mother and her sister and they have both met this disgusting person.

[Ninjainpajamas]

For a 15 year old, I'd expose this to her parents or the authorities...this isn't right, and she's too young to process this information to know "what it means", she'd probably still believe she was special and exception to the rule...the guy is a manipulator.

 

This guy needs to be tagged and exposed before he rounds up other young naive girls.

[oranje]

I don't think the brazilian authorities would care much since he wrote that they didn't have sex and she's 15 (it would have been different if she had been 14). He's a manipulator and he cares more for legal things like this than the girls he is with since he doesn't want to ruin his "military" career. Getting into legal problems or ruining his face are his worst fears.

 

It's hopeless since I can't get ahold of her mother, her family name is too common. I'll let go so I don't get into trouble with my partner (my ex knows him), I wish I hadn't read anything.

[Eggplant]

I'll let go so I don't get into trouble with my partner (my ex knows him), I wish I hadn't read anything.

Is your partner friends with somebody like this player? Warning: birds of a feather flock together.

[oranje]

Is your partner friends with somebody like this player? Warning: birds of a feather flock together.

 

No, they know each other from high school and they live quite close to each other (not neighbours though). My partner deleted him from Facebook when I told him about how my ex had treated me. They don't talk at all except once when we met him on the subway. That ******* approached us but he didn't seem happy at all and he just pretended being i nice guy. It was awkward and people were staring. My partner told me they weren't friends and that my ex invited him to a cadet party a long time ago to hook up with some girls before I met him. He declined.

 

My ex is very vindictive and selfish. He would never forgive me if I intervened and he would probably take it out on my partner since he knows how to find him.