Does your AP know you're here?

[canuckprincess]

I'm just curious if anyone's AP's know they post on a forum if so do you tell them what you write? Or if they don't know would they be upset with if they found out?

[hippetyhop]

Nope. xMM has no idea I'm here.

 

He'd be able to tell by the content of my posts that it is me--but that is about it.

 

Will he be upset? I can care less.

[Lady2163]

Not yet. We won't be talking until next week.

 

I will probably not tell him or just gloss over it.

 

I've changed and altered enough details, he would recognize its me, but I doubt anybody else would.

[canuckprincess]

Not yet. We won't be talking until next week.

 

I will probably not tell him or just gloss over it.

 

I've changed and altered enough details, he would recognize its me, but I doubt anybody else would.

 

If you told him would he be upset with you?

[Lady2163]

I really don't think he would be. I've altered enough details that it can't be determined it is either of us.

 

Right now, I'm choosing not to tell him because my current plan is to ease out of the sexual interactions. Since my relationship is long distance and he's a workaholic, it may be months before he realizes we haven't done schedule checks to plan our next meeting.

 

After seven years, there is still plenty of innuendo and flirting on the phone, but the crux of our conversation is day to day talk and just general chatting.

[LilGirlandOW]

MM has no clue I'm here, if he came here it would be painfully obvious who i am lol. He;s not the internet forum type. I think if BS came here it would also be painfull obvious too who i was

[Got it]

During the affair I was more on another site and yes he knew about it. I would push him there to read so he could get a big picture understanding of the whole thing. It wasn't easy reading for him but he did it and would occasional read there.

 

Now, he is aware but really has little interest to read though we are completely transparent with each other's stuff so can easy log in. I will talk to him sometimes about comments, topics, etc.

 

We have had a pretty transparent relationship from day one.

[Silly_Girl]

During the A I told him I was posting, told him my user name. We sometimes read my threads together and sometimes other people's.

[canuckprincess]

During the affair I was more on another site and yes he knew about it. I would push him there to read so he could get a big picture understanding of the whole thing. It wasn't easy reading for him but he did it and would occasional read there.

 

Now, he is aware but really has little interest to read though we are completely transparent with each other's stuff so can easy log in. I will talk to him sometimes about comments, topics, etc.

 

We have had a pretty transparent relationship from day one.

 

Mm and I also share everything, well at least I think he does.

[So happy together]

Mine knows.

[Sarabi]

I don't think he knows I'm here...if he knows I don't care

There is not much for him to get offended or upset about, I haven't said anything exceptionally nasty or incriminating about him/them...& if he does I'm sure I have all of you, my lovely friends here to protect me

lol

[hippetyhop]

To add to mine..to be quite honest, I felt guilty at first posting here and more or less airing out his dirty laundry.

 

Now since its been a few weeks, I feel utterly relieved.

 

Thank you everyone for your support! xoxo

[bentleychic]

No, he doesn't know. I have tried not to post details that would make MM *or* BW know that it is him I'm talking about if they'd ever come across this place.

 

I think he wouldn't be upset by me being hurt, but probably hurt at some of the things I have said in regards to our relationship, etc. Though I try to be very up front about how I feel with him, not normally as brutally honest as I talk about it here.

[MissBee]

Not currently in an A but:

 

Posting on an anonymous board is great because it's anonymous...it's kind of my thing I do for myself that's not for everyone in my life to be a part of.

 

My sister sees me on LS sometimes and asks about it and I tell her what it's about. If my SO saw me on it and asked about it, I'd tell them what it is, as it's not a secret but it wouldn't be something I just disclosed off the cuff like that. LS does come up sometimes in my conversations with friends, for example: some topics I read about, in real life conversations with friends I will remember them and say "On this message board I participate in, this person said XYZ or there was a topic about XYZ...what do you guys think?" That's the extent of it though and I don't delineate all that I do and talk about here and the name of the site etc.

[Cocochai]

I had no clue a website like this even existed... If I told anyone who was going through the same things we're going through they'd probably rush right on this site.

[krazikat]

I have no clue.

 

When I told the bs, I told her about this place. I told her how it had helped me and that the infidelity forum helped see her side. I don't know if she ever came here. I don't know if she ever told him a out it. I have no clue. I don't care.

 

I told ow about this site during our one "normal" convo where she was crying to me. I asked if she had anyone to talk to, she said no, so I told her to come here, that she was not alone in her pain. Not sure if she ever checked it out.