Lady2163 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Even though I am single, there are adjustments I've had to make to cover the affair. Semantics - I never referred to the married man I'm seeing as 'my married man' until posting on here. Actually, I gave him a nickname years ago. My friends and family know I'm seeing someone, they know it's long distance, he's not going to move, neither am I, so there's no need to introduce him or get too friendly with him. Until posting on here, probably in the last seven years I have called it a relationship twice. I refer to it as a friendship and after my reaction the first time he said relationship, he avoids it. I've been a notorious commitment phobe for many years. I'm not really adjusting to the abbreviations. I initially read a sentence like 'The BS of the MM is nuts' as 'The bullshyt of the moral majority is nuts'. Obviously not the exact sentence, but it did fit... I don't like betrayed spouse for both the crudeness of the abbreviation and the fact it automatically paints her as a tragic figure. I don't know statistics on the number of women (or men) who are team players in letting the marriage deteriorate and the number of people who just married cads. From personal experience, I would say its about even, with a very small percentage of that being actual abuse or neglect of the cheating spouse. I suppose if the abbreviation for MM and MW was changed to 'Affair Significant Someone' there could be a lot of fun with that. What adjustments have you made and what semantics have you adopted in your situation? Link to post Share on other sites
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