Thread that struck me

[waytogo]

How do they not know? Very reasonable question.

If you are a person that would never steal, you are more likely to leave belongings somewhere believing they are safe. I learned the hard way. Actually have a family member who goes to church, acts like family is all important, but will steal from family and lie about it. She's disgusting and hopelessly jealous.

 

Back on topic :-) I wondered the same about XMMs BW. He didn't seem to be as careful as I would expect. It's possible he wanted to get caught. If he did, why? I don't know or care in that very past situation. Guess my motive is for anyone sitting in secret sidelines to think beyond the most flattering thought.

 

Does he want to be caught so she will leave him and he's free to be with you? Maybe, but there is a great quote I wish I could remember who deserves the credit, "when a man wants to do something, he does it. When he doesn't want to do it he talks about it".

 

A WMM may want to get caught to get his BW attention. Many possibilities.

 

Every person gets something out of a situation he or she chooses. The situation is only left when the person decides there is nothing left to gain from it.

[Lady2163]

I was kind of wondering why that one was locked. I must have missed something violating TOS. A moderator posted a reason for blocking mine that proved my point and yet also validated those who were against it.

 

I've never asked the question, "if you weren't with her, would you want me?". So, I'm not self assured enough to think he wants to get caught and have a life with me.

 

If he had been single when we had reconnected seven years ago, I would have leaped tall buildings to give him a whirl as a boyfriend.

[waytogo]

Hi Lady, whatever locked that thread I missed also.

 

Please take my reply to you with all gentle kind concern that is sincerely meant.

 

Why should you have to ask or wonder these things?

 

You deserve someone who is only about being with you. I realize how that sounded to me when I was in an A and couldn't picture the possibility. I swear to you, once I left the situation, so many dreams came true. Not that day, or month, or even the next month...