"Trying" to meet people or network doesn't seem to work

[melodicintention]

I feel like I simply cannot make new well adjusted, normal friends and acquaintances when I am specifically trying to. It seems like the times I ever met people that stuck and were healthy mentally stable was when I wasn't trying and wasn't looking to make a new friend at the time. For me it seems when I am purposely putting myself out there to network or make friends, I only meet nutty people or people with a bad agenda. But when "life happens" (like for example your car breaks down and a stranger helps and turns into a long term friend) I tend to meet cool people (although these chance occurrences are extremely rare).

 

Does this seem like you too? I've mostly convinced myself to go on living my life but stop "trying" to make friends (I move around a lot and now in a new city and have only met a bunch of freaks and am tired of trying) because it just doesn't work. It seems I should go about my life and leave it up to chance.

 

Whats your take?

[PlumPrincess]

I feel the same...

 

I think most people my age are doing this cocooning and nesting stuff. That mostly leaves those much younger than me or much older (and if I have another older dude try to hit on me, I will start screaming. ). When I was younger meeting younger people felt ok and I think it was ok. But age is just not a linear function. Now I think they believe I'm a single weirdo.