pteromom Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 The other thing is I have mention before that I have health issues, and I had a social security hearing yesterday and my lawyer told me he thinks I will get social security disability. Ever since yesterday my husband has been calling me 2 or 3 times a day. I have not answered because I feel all he is calling for is to see if I got approved. I am looking at getting a large back pay amount. Both my sons and a few friends are telling me that he probably wants to see if he can come home now that I will have money. I don't think that is the case. I think he thinks he is entitled to some of the money. One or the other, but either way, he wants to get his hands on that money. I think you are letting your emotions rule you a little too much here. Let's look at this logically: - He's had employment issues. - He's got a drinking problem. - He has your family living in a 5th wheel. - He's had two DUIs. - He left you. - He is OK letting his sugar mama pay his way. - Now that he knows you may be getting money, he's suddenly interested in talking with you. - His "lets be friends" talk is just a way for him to get what he wants from you (support and friendship) while still getting to sleep with someone else. He is NO prize. Just reading about him is making me a little sick. You can do better. What would I do in your case? I would file for divorce and show your children that you deserve more than him. I understand that you are hurt. But his decision to leave you does NOT mean you are unworthy of love. It just means he is a sleaze. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Cory, He had our son come get him this weekend and get our boat. He claims he wants to work on it. He told our son that he wanted all his tools so he could work on it. I gave in on the boat because it was costing $20 to store it but I did not give in on the tools. He told me over and over I could have everything so now he can have the ow buy him stuff. PT, I know you are right. My head tells me I am better off, it is just my heart that is not agreeing. I do feel like I am unworthy of loving. I know that is not the case but I still feel that way. I am feeling like I will be alone for the rest of my life because I don't think I could ever trust anyone again. I shouldn't get joy out of this but he looked horrible. He looked like he hadn't shaved in days or showered. I did not say a word to him. He did take a saw but told my son he wouldn't if it was going to make me mad. My son son told him it would be ok. I don't know why it would matter if i was mad or not, that hasn't stopped him until now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted October 6, 2013 Author Share Posted October 6, 2013 Yesterday was 5 months that my husband left me for the ow. I wish I could say it was easier then 5 months ago. We had a 2 hour conversation a week ago. After I got off the phone my first thought why couldn't we have talked like that months ago. There was no yelling, no asking why he did this, we just talked about every day things. It felt nice to talk to him like that again. Was that a mistake for me to do that. He called one of his sisters yesterday and tried to invite himself and the ow over to her house. He was shot down cold by her and it pissed him off. His whole family has told him they want nothing to do with her. They have told him he is welcome but she is not and never will be. He told his sister that they should back him and not me. She laughed and said who do you think you are telling me how to feel. I am disgusted with what you have done and that they would not cut me out of there lives. I really wish I could move on but I am still having a hard time. I go to sleep thinking about him and wake up thinking about him. I am thankful that I have his family because I lost my parents and brother years ago. There are days I feel so alone and miserable. I just hope with time it gets better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted October 23, 2013 Author Share Posted October 23, 2013 Cory, Thank for your support. I wish I could say that I am doing ok, but I would be lying. I am trying to heal from this pain but my heart is still hurting. I had another 2 hours conversation with my husband on Monday. He called to fill me in on his upcoming trial. I asked him if he minded if I came to the trial and he said no but she will probably be there. I told him so. I just don't want to see the pain in your eyes. I asked him if he planned on marrying this woman and he told me I haven't made any decision yet on anything. I told him we needed to sit down and decided who gets what and now he is back to saying I can have everything. I will be seeing him on Saturday for our granddaughters first birthday and scared that it will cause me to back track on the healing process. Thanks for your concern. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted November 1, 2013 Author Share Posted November 1, 2013 It went ok. It was nice to see the grand babies. On another note my husband was found not guilty on his DUI. They found him not guilty on a technicality because the police officer didn't follow procedure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted November 5, 2013 Author Share Posted November 5, 2013 Cory, I wish I knew what I was going to do. My husband told my boys that he is looking for a job and wants to start paying the bills. Even through he was found not guilty the dot still revoked his cdl, so no more long haul driving. I hope he follows through on paying the bills. I have asked him several times to get together to discuss dividing up property and all he will say is you can have everything, but won't talk about filing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted November 6, 2013 Author Share Posted November 6, 2013 I have a question for everyone. My son talked to his dad the other day and he told my son that the other woman offered to give me her old car because I don't have a reliable car. I am so angry that he would even think that I would take anything from her. She has bought my husband but I am not for sale. My question is this woman is school teacher and I am being told that she has been talking about me to her coworker and bragging about what she did to me and my marriage. She is proud of what she has done. I have been told to contact the state board of education and report her for ethics and morals. I have not a done it because I am not a bad person but what would any of you do? I feel like she is committing slander. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted November 6, 2013 Share Posted November 6, 2013 I have been told to contact the state board of education and report her for ethics and morals. Pointless. It's not unethical to have a relationship outside of school with a married man. I feel like she is committing slander. You would never be able to prove it, and would waste money and effort trying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sheri Posted December 2, 2013 Author Share Posted December 2, 2013 I wish I could say I was doing better but I can't. I just can't seem to move on with my life. I spent Thanksgiving with my husbands family because they invited me and not him. He is very angry that he had no where to go for the holiday. His family has told him that he is not welcome with her. I don't want to cause issues with him and his family but they are the only family I have. My husband came over yesterday to get the rest of his clothes. I asked him why he did this and he told me he was tired of being alone. He told me I caused him to fall out of love with me. I asked him when he fell out of love with me and he told me when he met the other woman. I am just waiting for divorce papers. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 My husband came over yesterday to get the rest of his clothes. I asked him why he did this and he told me he was tired of being alone. He told me I caused him to fall out of love with me. I asked him when he fell out of love with me and he told me when he met the other woman. You do not need stupidity in your life like this. Know that you deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
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