ice_solid_2k4 Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Hey guys, I had a question for you guys. I had a thread called "My First Date Goes Wrong" ( http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t50249/? ). I forgot to add that this girl I met was from work. I've been working with her for almost 4 months now. So I asked her out and she didn't call me, but I think she may have lost my number. I did write my number on a small piece of paper. We work in a retail store, so whenever we clean up at the end, we talk to one another a lot. When I asked her out, she did think about it for a moment, so I found that very weird. Then she said if it would be okay if she brought her sister and her friends; I had no problem with that. Well tommorow I have the same shift with her, what should I do? I know someone gave me advice if I see her next time, but this person assumed that I have only known this girl for 1 day. I apologize that I did not give out all of the information. She is 2 years older than me, since I am 18 and she's 20. She does flirt with me whenever we are around one another. Like one time, I was cleaning up, she walked by me and she messed up whatever I was doing and started to giggle. Well, I think she may have lost my number because she doesn't seem to be that type of person. Also, why would she want to stand me up if see her 2-3 times a week. Well, I see her tommorow at work and I'm wondering what should I do. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Ah...if you ask a girl out and she insists she brings her sister and friends, that's not a good sign. At all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 ah...dats a very good point...so wat should i do when i c her? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 my whole approach to this "first date" was just to have her realize that i am pretty fun to hand out with...but i'll just forget about her...no point wasting time on her...or any other girl...i've been tryin to get girls since i was 12...and 6 years later...no luck... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 What's your rush? You're 18. That's when the fun begins anyway, usually. Hopefully you're mature enough to handle it all. Girls are a HANDFUL, let me tell you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted October 29, 2004 Author Share Posted October 29, 2004 thnx for helpin me feel better...but it ain't really helpin lol...the perfect girl for me will ask me out...i'mma just stick wit dat lol... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Um...no...that's not how women work. Most of them, anyway. We guys have to do it. Stop looking. Stop trying so hard. That's basically when you will find something incredible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted October 31, 2004 Author Share Posted October 31, 2004 can anyone else give me some advice...props to the person who actually offered some... Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted October 31, 2004 Share Posted October 31, 2004 1) She didn't seem all that interested when you asked her out. Well, get used to that. There are lots of girls (and even some women) who will be playful and flirt and make eye contact and do a hundred other stupid little things to get your attention. It's easy to think those things actually mean something, especially if you're feeling desperate. They mean nothing. Trust me, you'll know it if a girl is interested in you. You can play around and flirt, because it's kind of fun, but if you don't get something real to go along with it, then just let it drop. Make her bring something real to the game. 2) Another thing: you laid your cards all out on the table. You can't think too much about it if she doesn't respond. You have to be encouraged that she at least likes to flirt with you. Some other girl might do more than just flirt if you're that fun to be around. Just don't take it personally when things don't work out. Don't think of them as a "waste of time" just because they aren't interested in you. That tells me you put way too much on her, and she might have sensed it. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted October 31, 2004 Share Posted October 31, 2004 I´d say (as a girl), she likes hanging out with you, but she doesn´t want to be alone with you which clearly indicates: she is not interested in you romantically. She is asking if she is allowed to bring people with her which means, she needs escort so she´s not alone. I might have done the same if I wanted to hang out with someone and appreciated him as a friend, but don´t want him to get the wrong idea, I will mention that I´m in love with someone, I will ask if I can take other people with me, etc. Chances are, she only likes you as a friend. There´s a tiny little possibility that she´s insecure about it and just said she wants to bring other people with her, because she doesn´t want to deal with the unknown alone. I might have also done that.... Yes, I can be very silly sometimes. Anyway, I´m an exception in many ways and my guess is, she wants you as a friend. I tell you something, if you have been in love with her for such a long time and it still hasn´t worked out, then try to find someone else. One of my best friend had this guy run after her for years. They dated when they were 15, 16 and then she broke up with him. After 10 years they got together, she had dozenes of boyfriends in between, he probably didn´t date anybody. I think she did the first move and silently I was just rolling my eyes at her. It ended again, just as I thought it would, and I have to say, even though she´s my friend, her behavior was kind of crappy. All I´m saying is, don´t concentrate too much on your friend, there are more women out there. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted October 31, 2004 Share Posted October 31, 2004 I just wanted to remark, the title of your thread, ahem, reveals some self-confidence, so I´m sure you´re not going to have problems to find someone else Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted November 1, 2004 Author Share Posted November 1, 2004 well when i saw her at work...she didn't say anythin to me...and just kept lookin at me...but looks away as i look back at her...and when i was walkin as she passed by me...she pokes me in the left side of the chest...talk about weird... Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 Ok, hang out with her and her friends, see how it works out and when you feel there´s more and she´s comfortable with you, then ask her directly for a date. Say: I´d like to invite you to a nice dinner without your friends. If she says no and only wants friendship then at least you´ll know what´s going on. kooky Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted November 1, 2004 Share Posted November 1, 2004 To me it sounds like she likes you as a person, enjoys flirting a little with you but is not romantically interested in you. Don't get discouraged, there is plenty of ladies who would like you out there! Then she said if it would be okay if she brought her sister and her friends; You could go out with them anyway, one of her friends might be a hot babe! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ice_solid_2k4 Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 that was my plan b...she's pretty hot herself...and i'm pretty sure her friends are hot too...but since the whole damn thing didn't work out...i feel awkward around her now lol... Link to post Share on other sites
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