broknheart13 Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 Trying to get over a 10 year relationship.. It's week 3... and I want to better myself and have started exercising and making plans of what I want to do with my life. I'm making a big move and starting my life over in a new city. But I keep getting these down moments where I don't want to do anything except for lay in bed and watch shows on netflix. I've probably lost 5 lbs on an already thin frame and in being with someone so long (since I was 15) I don't know how to be on my own or how to motivate myself, because my significant other was always the person to help and push me. I just want to be a better person and learn from everything, get over it (I know this will take a lot of time) I did wrong in this relationship so that I can grow and stop sulking. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to help motivate myself? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 I understand where you're coming from, and it's not easy to get out of that. IT's like there is a magnet on your bed, in the fridge, etc. It's so much easier, you hope that you'll find a way to start dreaming again. You were with somebody for awhile, so it might take some time, but I'd consider following your interests, doing something creative and finding a way to own yourself. Write in a journal and make peace with the past, create new goals for the future and enjoy the moment. I know it is easier said than done, but with everything you do, if you just ask yourself "is this helping my situation?", you'll get along. And by the time you're on your feet, you'll be an even more independent and strong person, and find somebody to match, if that is what you want. But what do I know I usually suck at relationships lol Wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
setsenia Posted July 30, 2013 Share Posted July 30, 2013 Take the things you have done wrong and find ways to improve upon them. Focusing on "what you should have done differently" isn't constructive. Use that knowledge and apply it to your next experience. Everyone makes mistakes. We don't grow if we don't make mistakes. There is always someone else and bettering yourself to make your next relationship a different experience is what you need to do. I know it can be hard, but shift your focus onto "what you should have" to "what i will do differently". As far as motivating yourself. Ask yourself what you want from life. What are your long term goals? Set a plan in motion with incentives thrown in and treat yourself along the way when you accomplish them. Link to post Share on other sites
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