little help

[matt305]

I started dating this girl when i was 20 we met at a party and after that were inseperable for over 3 years. things were great for about 2 1/2 and then because of myy job and school i didn't spend as much time with her as i had been, i was really tired alot of the time and we would sit around and talk and go out to eat and that kind of stuff. we took classes together, and she worked with me 2 days a week. she told me she loved me constantly and i loved her a lot.

 

a few months ago she started getting mad at me over nothing and then saying she was being stupid which she was becasue the stuff she got mad about was dumb. then she tells me that she is going out with her mother's cousin and i learn after we break up that she went to a party.

 

well the day after the party she calls me and is crying for three hours telling me how great i was for three years and something about her dad being great before he got married. and then she had a list of these things i was doing, nothing really to her we never really fought over anything we got along really well, we were together three days before we broke up still telling me she loves me and hanging all over me.

 

we went through alot together a bunch of my friends died through the years and her grandmother died and she has a dysfunctional family life. it came out later that i was suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, very irritable, not eating or sleeping and soem other stuff nothing really terrible bad i was still good to her i never took my problems out on her i just didn't feel like doing very much. luckily i got help very early before it got ugly. she said she knew something was wrong with me obviously i had changed i just don't know why she wouldn't say anything to me about how i was acting, what she needed from me, or anything she acted like everything was fine and was really happy to see me. even when we broke up i was really nice about it and was like will go our own seperate ways and she cries and is like your my best friend. she literally cried for three hours, and said about ten sentences.

 

then i talked to someone she works with, we all go to the same school and are in the same fraternity that is how i met her she is my fraternity brothers sister. he sadi after we broke up she did nothing but smoke cigarettes for 3 days, and then she starts dating this guy right away, ironically everyoine says he is just like me except he isn't very loyal kind of trashy. the weird thing is that now she is totally different she never used to drink even though she had every oppurtunity to with me, now she drinks everyday, this girl she told me was trashy and she didn't like is now her bestfriend, even the guy she is dating she is the one who told me how all his friends treat their women and she is right becasue i know one of them although i have ever met this guy. she even started dressing completely different. what in the world is going on here. i have had over ten girlfriends and a bunch of flings but this was different we thought alike, we had the same interests goals and just about everything was perfect and we have our first rough spot and she runs away without even trying to work it out. i was the first guy she slept with,

all her friends keep telling me i'm the right guy for her, and everytime they mention my name her eyes light up and she gets a big smile on her face.

 

she had me sign up for some of the same classes as her which we normally did so now i see her all the time i catch her looking at me but everytime we talk she is guarded and distant, she use to be a really high class person that didn't want to go out and party and act like that and then all of the sudden she does. i don't even bother talking to her anymore. i told her friends to stop telling me about her but the last hing i heard was that this guy hits on everything that moves and when they tell her all she does is say no he didn't, she was worried about that with me the whole time we were together even though i never talked about other girls and went out of my way to not really talk to any at partied unless she knew them becasue i knew how she was, what is going on here?

[SoleMate]

what is going on here?

Lovers' quarrel?

 

Could you edit your post and summarize the issues? Doing that will get you much better advice.