nneehhaa Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Hello, I would like some advice on my relationship. I have had a 5 year relationship with my bf. Now we are at a stage where we need to decide if we want to marry each other. He has always been nice to me. He has also always been honest that he is confused about if I am the best one for him. I am the only woman he has ever been with. He wants to try to date other people and decide. However, he I have heard from most people that if a man is confused about the relationship, it is not worth it. I am now confused, what should I do..Simply break it off clean? Let him date others? Even he misses me, But I do not want him to get back with me just because I cry, plead and beg him. He has gotten used to that and I guess he wants me to do that this time as well. He has even gone to the extent of saying, I am with you because you love me so much and I would not want to hurt your feelings by breaking up with you. I do not want to be in a relationship like that. Tell me what I need to do plz. I am 23 and he is 27. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted October 29, 2004 Share Posted October 29, 2004 Tell me what I need to do He's not sure after this time that you're the right one, so let him go. No begging, no pleading, keep your dignity. Just say, "It's for the best." Grieve and move on. The paradox is that just when you are finally getting over him and seeing light ahead, he will come back begging for you. At that point, you probably won't even care anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
smile2006 Posted October 30, 2004 Share Posted October 30, 2004 It's a really tough situation, but I think you should break it off and start moving on with your life. If you've been together 5 years and he is still uncertain, then you probably aren't meant to be together. Besides, you're young and have a lot of time ahead of you. It will hurt a lot and be really difficult, but just have faith that you can find someone who wants you as much as you want him. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author nneehhaa Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 So I tried to break it off and he called and cried and i told him he can call when he feels like..I count see him crying.. but how do i get over him if he calls me everyday.. He even went to extetn of saying..oh when i have my next gf, i'll cheat on u with her..i was so shocked....how could he even think i am so vulnerable... Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Don't let him call you and cry, at ALL. This just prolongs the torture for both of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nneehhaa Posted November 3, 2004 Author Share Posted November 3, 2004 I would liek tips on how to forget someone who have only been with and your only dream was to spend your rest of your life with this person! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 Search for The Lost Guide to No Contact right here on LS. Link to post Share on other sites
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