Boyfriend checks out other girls and tells me... is this okay?! HELP!!

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[font=arial][/font][color=green][/color]Okay I don't know what to do. I've never done this before... post on a forum, I just feel a little down, and I want to see if it's something that I should be disappointed about. Well here goes : I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He and I get along so well, and he really cares about me and of course I care about him. I mean, he makes every attempt to call me and we talk for hours on end. One of the longest conversation we had was for 8 hours, on the phone! And I generally hate talking on the phone. Needless to say we tell each other everything. He's in med school right now, so the fact he has time is amazing. Anyway, he and I were talking about how the physical thing isn't working out... that we need to see each other more often. He told me really off handishly "Yeah seriously, it's like... I get so turned on the phone and I can't do anything. It just makes me think about it all day long the next day. All I do is check out girls, and just get so turned on." I felt so upset , but I didn't say anything, because I'm not the type to make big deals out of things. I mean, I was audibly upset because of the change of the tone in my voice, but I told him it was no big deal. But the more I think about it, the angrier I become. I mean... I don't go around checking out other guys... I don't get turned on by them. I just don't understand him? Shoot, I make every attempt to not even give guy's the time of day ! Anyway, I just feel unloved, is this something all guy's do and just don't verbalize? I almost would have preferred if he hadn't told me because at least I wouldn't have to get this imagery of him walking around checking out other girls. He sensed that I was not very happy about it and told me "at least I'm honest about it ..." but that doesn't seem to reconcile things. Another thing is this ONE time we were together... he saw this girl walking by and was like... wasn't she hot? He was just joking around... but it made me sad, like what the hell? Who cares if she's hot. I thought she was hot too for that matter, but what the hell? I mean ... even as a joke it's just not the right thing to say when you're out with your girlfriend whom you haven't seen in a few months. I just wanted to make every moment with him count and he goes and ruins it by saying something just really stupid. Am I just being over sensitive? I let things slide too easily, someone help !!!!

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talk to him about it because nothing we can say can justify what he said to you except for him. he needs to know your limits, what can you handle what bothers you. he loves you and he will listen so just open up to him and tell him the truth.

best of luck.