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miss_jaclynrae

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I had my wisdom teeth removed today, and sitting here, face swollen, hopped on meds, I got to thinking...

 

For those of you in serious relationships, was there something in particular that made you realize this person or relationship in general was different?

 

 

 

 

 

 

I fully believe one of the big things that has made this relationship different from all others I have been in is the comfort I have in telling him everything and for the first time ever, being myself 100%.

I have quite a few health problems, and sadly, my teeth are destroyed. It has always been something I have hidden, even when I was married I was embarrassed that they were so bad. I have never let any guy I have dated long term know about any health issues I had.

 

From the beginning of our relationship, he has always accepted me for who I was, and I felt like I was able to be myself. He knows everything about me, and has been such a huge support.

My biggest fear in being with a guy and having him find out about my teeth and other problems, was him not seeing anything there long term.

 

 

There are tons of other things that make this relationship different, but even today, feeling crappy and looking gross, my man shows that he truly adores me no matter what, and is so proud of me for spending a **** ton on money on my teeth! :laugh:

He worries about me and I just honestly... I am so happy that I have someone who cares about my health and happiness equally.

 

Anyone else have something specifically that made them realize why this relationship was different?

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So sorry to hear about your health problems, but... what a lovely post! I'm really happy for you :love:

 

Yes! ...to the 'being yourself 100%'. Without a doubt. Yes, it's different.

 

I felt jaded after 2 broken hearts, and I was not prepared to play the dating game.

 

He is the only one I have told EVERYTHING to. The weird thing is I have opened up about quite sensitive, emotional matters with exes before, but with my guy it can be 'toilet stuff' through to the greatest grief I ever felt. And I can talk about my own insecurities ("babe, I want to get a little bit of electrolysis done before the wedding....", "you don't need to, but fine, if it makes you feel better"), no matter what they are, and they will NEVER EVER be used against me, even subconcsiously, they will only ever be raised with kindness, or as part of a discussion. I am totally and utterly safe and he really does love me with all he has.

 

Swooooon!!!!

 

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So sorry to hear about your health problems, but... what a lovely post! I'm really happy for you :love:

 

Yes! ...to the 'being yourself 100%'. Without a doubt. Yes, it's different.

 

I felt jaded after 2 broken hearts, and I was not prepared to play the dating game.

 

He is the only one I have told EVERYTHING to. The weird thing is I have opened up about quite sensitive, emotional matters with exes before, but with my guy it can be 'toilet stuff' through to the greatest grief I ever felt. And I can talk about my own insecurities ("babe, I want to get a little bit of electrolysis done before the wedding....", "you don't need to, but fine, if it makes you feel better"), no matter what they are, and they will NEVER EVER be used against me, even subconcsiously, they will only ever be raised with kindness, or as part of a discussion. I am totally and utterly safe and he really does love me with all he has.

 

Swooooon!!!!

 

:D

 

This is so sweet!!! :love:

Being with someone who not only accepts you for who you are but supports you and lifts you up is so important.

I am so happy for you!!!!

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I love this post. It reminds us to be thankful for what we have. You sound very lucky! :) Hang on to this one!

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For those of you in serious relationships, was there something in particular that made you realize this person or relationship in general was different?

 

First of all, great post!

 

Secondly, to answer: I think it's when I realized (similar to what's been said above) that I could just go forward with the relationship in complete honesty. And on top of that, to know that I'd get that same honesty/truth in return. The baring of souls, loving each other warts & all -- that's true love. It's staggering when it happens.

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Anyone else have something specifically that made them realize why this relationship was different?

 

On one of our first dates, we went to a Journey concert (which alone was awesome and told me we might be sympatico). Walking back to his car when it was over, this random guy (possibly homeless?) made some kind of comment when we passed by. My now-husband engaged in some banter back and forth with him, and his demeanor -- friendly, warm, ready-to-laugh even with a total stranger -- told me that there was something different about him. :)

 

Four years later: I dropped some dry cleaning off the other day. DH usually does this errand so the account is under his name. When I gave his name, the clerk, totally unprompted, said, "Your husband is such a great customer. So many people come in here grumpy, but he always has a smile on his face and he just brightens up the room."

 

I'm so proud to call that man my husband. :)

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Like you, I knew he was different by the way I was able to open up to him and tell him everything about myself. I had never felt that safe with any person, male or female before. He's not judgmental of me because he sees the strength of me and the good in me and in times when I'm confused or troubled he is my rock.

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miss_jaclynrae

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I love all of these responses. :love:

They make me happy.

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Ah the wisdom teeth..I got mine out a couple months ago. Hope you get back to normal soon.

 

Ever since the first date, he always made me feel so comfortable. I felt like I could be myself from the get go. I'm naturally kind of shy at first (especially with guys), and eventually open up, but I feel that with him that happened much faster.

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It's too soon to know for my relationship (we've only been together for six weeks), but my boyfriend is really awesome about my health problems too, I have a chronic pelvic pain syndrome which means I am sometimes unable to have sex and often very unwell due to morphine side effects, he never makes me feel guilty for not being able to have sex (I truly make it worth his while when we can do it ;) ), and always tries to care for me when I'm sick from the morphine or in pain. It's only early days but the way he cuddles me and whispers that I should never apologise when I'm feeling insecure about the pain and saying sorry for not being able to start/continue sex, just melts me. He puts my health and wellbeing above wanting to get his rocks off, which is more than I can say for an ex of mine!

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For those of you in serious relationships, was there something in particular that made you realize this person or relationship in general was different?

 

Anyone else have something specifically that made them realize why this relationship was different?

 

Being that this is under the marriage forum I assume that married folk can apply. :p

 

Just under three and half years later (Two of which are being married) I can honestly say that she still excites me. The having plenty of stuff in common really helps.

 

My last serious relationship ended due to the passion fading and having very little in common played a huge part.

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For me it was simple, we have passion without drama. When I realized that I just thought wow. I used to be one of those people who equate passion with drama and thought drama was just...a part of relationships. I found things very different with him, how refreshing and eye-opening.

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Lots of things in common, feeling completely at ease being myself, and for me what has clinched it is that even when we disagree, or argue, it feels like we're disagreeing or arguing towards a common goal. It's never ugly, I still feel safe and loved, it's just a day to day issue that needs working out.

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I dunno. We met. I was a survey taker in a mall. He took a survey with me. I was just so attracted to him. He picked up on that. We spent about 6 or so hours after work in a Dennys talking. He kissed me good night at my car and said he'd call me. I went home and my flatmate asked how it went and my answer "if I ever get married he's the one"

 

I just knew. This was befor cell phones or texting. I had guys tell me they would call and never do even if we had a good dat. I never doubted for a second that he would call. I don't know what was different. It wasn't a real date even. He told me later that he knew too. It was so casual. Like ho hum I met my future spouse tonight. It was two years later we married. Not that we didn't have a lot of excitement in there:bunny:

 

Sometimes you just KNOW ya know?

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