bentleychic Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 I actually got some good news last night that is more proof of being headed towards "the goal" so I'm on the upward side of the roller coaster today. :-p However, it's almost the weekend so I'm guessing that won't last long! Keeping very busy with friends this weekend, though and that should help. (The weekends that the kid's are with their dad are harder on me b/c the house is quiet and I realize how alone I am.) Link to post Share on other sites
Pastypop Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 I'm bored out of my mind! Before my thing, all I did was work a boring job and raise kids. That's it! I had fun when he was around. We went out drinking, movies, ballgames, day trips, lunches and had the same hobbies. I really enjoyed having someone to hangout with, confide in and the overall companionship. He also confided in me and asked for my advice on handling a situation that really paid off for his family. I can not really think of anyone who ever asked for my advice or ever confided in me before. It didn't last very long and ended years ago. NC has never been broken. Now, it's back to raising kids and working a different job that I can't stand. Gained all the weight back that lost too and can't get it off. But, on the upside, I'm not sitting around waiting while he is running at least a hour late, no longer living a dishonest life and don't have to worry about losing it all anymore. Life is definitely much easier that way. Only 7-10 years to go and hopefully my kids will be grown up enough that I can finally have my life back and not living one that someone else wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Only 7-10 years to go and hopefully my kids will be grown up enough that I can finally have my life back and not living one that someone else wanted. May I ask why you are living the life someone else wanted right now? Are you currently married? I spent many years in a miserable marriage, living the life that someone else wanted me to. I finally realized that this is my only life and I am responsible for my happiness. And that's when I left the jerk that treated me like crap for so many years. LOL My kids are much happier now. My exH and I like each other a lot better now, too. You deserve happiness. Stop living what other people want you to and find that happiness. (Preferably not with a MM b/c it likely won't mean happiness!) Link to post Share on other sites
trailrunner1975 Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Quiet for me so far. She was stringing me along and I finally said it was time for me to go. She tries to contact from time to time, I give a one sentence polite reply and that's it. I have no desire to contact her nor hear from her. Sad part is we were best friends though now I am not sure who she really is. Who she was was great, but that isn't who I dealt with at the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Ups and down. Sometimes I'm doing great since the NC but its hard because I still miss even tho his actions showed his true character. Is it normal to feel a certin way on marriages now that you see how people behave while in a M and not happy until the BS finds out? Then they realize how much the M means to them while the OW/OM is left out in the cold? Link to post Share on other sites
trailrunner1975 Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Quiet for me so far. She was stringing me along and I finally said it was time for me to go. She tries to contact from time to time, I give a one sentence polite reply and that's it. I have no desire to contact her nor hear from her. Sad part is we were best friends though now I am not sure who she really is. Who she was was great, but that isn't who I dealt with at the end. It has been 5 years since it all fizzled, so I am indifferent now. Link to post Share on other sites
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