MM/MW not sleeping w/ BS a "myth"

[truthbetold]

I meant the long ne - post 229, that's why I didn't quote it, since it was long.

 

No, I'm sorry I know which post of mine you referred. I was speaking of 239, I meant no disrespect to YOU. I meant I understood that you likely meant "full of flavor" playful and tongue in cheek. I didn't think you were serious per se so I just didn't want you to think I was disrespecting your post as I thought it was mentioned in fun thus my

 

However her situation is no matter unfortunately. I've never been that concerned over a poster in that I thought they were in true danger, yeah most are train wrecks, you get your heart broken and move on. But the wife being a cop changes EVERYTHING and I don't think Lil gets that gravity of the situation. Since her MM has shown his jealousy he probably feels very much inferior to how the wife has that camaraderie and strong ties with the other cops. It's SO obvious to an outsider not wrapped up in his smarmy ways.

[truthbetold]

I have been thinking the exact same thing and bit my tounge so many times, but sometimes I just can't. In fact, I referenced Snapped to this situation the other day. And the fact that the wife is a cop? Fuggadeaboutit! It's going to be B-A-D- when it all comes out. I am actually afraid for Lil in this situation, and we all know the MM is gonna pull a Joey Battafuco and act like he did nothing at all wrong, will probably turn completely against Lil in order to get out of the way of the wrath of his wife.

 

When I think about this, the saying keeps coming into my head: Some people learn from their mistakes, those that don't, end up serving as a warning to others.

 

Brilliant! Exactly, I'm astonished.and I don't think it's fake as has been alluded to, but this is no game. It's sort of unbelievable though how naive one girl can be. but I guess that's the whole "Lilgirl" and thinking that's cute. Lil you're a WOMAN. he doesn't respect you calling you a LITTLE GIRL. My husband calls me Baby, and all sorts of sexy pet names but LITTLE GIRL, um NO. No one is saying "pet" names are wrong but little girl when you are 30 and a mother yourself is disrespecting YOURSELF. People want you to wake up to that. Demand the respect back for yourself.

[bentleychic]

Brilliant! Exactly, I'm astonished.and I don't think it's fake as has been alluded to, but this is no game. It's sort of unbelievable though how naive one girl can be. but I guess that's the whole "Lilgirl" and thinking that's cute. Lil you're a WOMAN. he doesn't respect you calling you a LITTLE GIRL. My husband calls me Baby, and all sorts of sexy pet names but LITTLE GIRL, um NO. No one is saying "pet" names are wrong but little girl when you are 30 and a mother yourself is disrespecting YOURSELF. People want you to wake up to that. Demand the respect back for yourself.

 

I'm curious, what if she really IS a little girl? LOL I picture this skinny, petite little wisp of a girl standing next to this big hulking man. LOL

 

I'm a LOT smaller than MM and a good deal younger, too. I wouldn't care if he called me little girl, depending on the context. Now, if he called me little *itch, we'd have a problem. :-p And definitely no "Whose yo' daddy???" thing, either. :-p

[So happy together]

I'm curious, what if she really IS a little girl? LOL I picture this skinny, petite little wisp of a girl standing next to this big hulking man. LOL

 

I'm a LOT smaller than MM and a good deal younger, too. I wouldn't care if he called me little girl, depending on the context. Now, if he called me little *itch, we'd have a problem. :-p And definitely no "Whose yo' daddy???" thing, either. :-p

 

I would never call my MM daddy, but I am almost as tall as he is almost 5'10, so for him to wrap me up and tell me I'm his babyluv, makes me feel feminine and I like that... He makes me feel feminine anyway though. But he doesn't make me feel like a thirteen year old standing next to a fifty year old pedophile. I'm more than five, less than ten years younger.

[bentleychic]

Mine calls me doll and I LOVE it. I wouldn't get butt hurt about little girl, though. I know he's commented before that I'm "just a little ole' thing". lol (He's a good ole' country boy, ftr.)

[So happy together]

I'm older than my SO, so if he called me little girl then we would have to be in the middle of roleplay, or something. Size wise I am 5'3, he is 5'6, and we are both average frame. I imagine when people see us together they may think we are little.

 

That's okay... I'm an amazon...

[Lady2163]

No, I'm sorry I know which post of mine you referred. I was speaking of 239, I meant no disrespect to YOU. I meant I understood that you likely meant "full of flavor" playful and tongue in cheek. I didn't think you were serious per se so I just didn't want you to think I was disrespecting your post as I thought it was mentioned in fun thus my

 

However her situation is no matter unfortunately. I've never been that concerned over a poster in that I thought they were in true danger, yeah most are train wrecks, you get your heart broken and move on. But the wife being a cop changes EVERYTHING and I don't think Lil gets that gravity of the situation. Since her MM has shown his jealousy he probably feels very much inferior to how the wife has that camaraderie and strong ties with the other cops. It's SO obvious to an outsider not wrapped up in his smarmy ways.

 

I seriously believe Lil is in a bdsm little relationship and they just don't know it.

 

Consensual? Yes. Safe? Not so much. Sane? I don't know exactly how that is defined in bdsm.

 

Some men want a girlie girl to pamper and fuss over. It's safe to say cop wife is not the pampering needing type of woman. Lil is younger than MM, several years, almost enough that he could be of an age to be her father.

 

I think it appeals to him to be the daddy and it appeals to her to be treated like a princess.

 

And I wasn't the least bit offended! It was funny.

[truthbetold]

I'm curious, what if she really IS a little girl? LOL I picture this skinny, petite little wisp of a girl standing next to this big hulking man. LOL

 

I'm a LOT smaller than MM and a good deal younger, too. I wouldn't care if he called me little girl, depending on the context. Now, if he called me little *itch, we'd have a problem. :-p And definitely no "Whose yo' daddy???" thing, either. :-p

 

That's irrelevant. She's described herself as a petite. That still doesn't make her a "little girl" it makes my skin crawl.He could call her Baby and not get the same reaction. But this situation is far more serious than just a run of the mill MM having an affair and calling her lilgirl.

 

THE WIFE IS A COP. If anyone can see that and still think it's sane for her to carry on ESPECIALLY inserting herself with the kids. IT'S NUTS. No grey area, pure black and white NUTS.

 

Even though it may be a far reach that the wife will go all SNAPPED. (she can though people do crazy things in heated situations) The wife as a cop as access to things other people don't. She can DESTROY Lil's life. She likely knows judges, she knows people who keep records, DMV etc...Lil messed with her kids and thought it was all cute?? Seriously I'm a calm person and it makes me nuts to think how incredibly naive if not bold that is. I don't have a dog in this race, but I truly hope we can wake Lil up. This is one of the worst train wrecks I have ever read about and the catalyst that makes this one so much more a wreck is the wife being a COP. Seriously I can't believe Lil thought this had a hope of working out with a happily ever after.

 

The fact that MM's family supports this mess, only shows where he got his messed up tendencies, it is not proof of a green light to a blissful happily ever after for the "princess".

[HopingAgain]

I would never call my MM daddy, but I am almost as tall as he is almost 5'10, so for him to wrap me up and tell me I'm his babyluv, makes me feel feminine and I like that... He makes me feel feminine anyway though. But he doesn't make me feel like a thirteen year old standing next to a fifty year old pedophile. I'm more than five, less than ten years younger.

 

I've called my husband "Daddy" in *ahem* certain times in the bedroom, and I know some are creeped out by that sort of thing, but its really more of a Latin hot blooded type submission thing like "Aye Papi!" not being called a LITTLE GIRL in either a sexual way or in a submissive way within a sexual relationship, that would creep me right the hell on out....

[truthbetold]

I've called my husband "Daddy" in *ahem* certain times in the bedroom, and I know some are creeped out by that sort of thing, but its really more of a Latin hot blooded type submission thing like "Aye Papi!" not being called a LITTLE GIRL in either a sexual way or in a submissive way within a sexual relationship, that would creep me right the hell on out....

 

Sing it sister! I sometimes dabble in the lighter parts of BDSM so I get it. Babyluv, Doll, Dollbaby, punkin, (punkin,not me personally but hey acceptable! and a whole host of other pet names are all COOL. Even to say "you're just a lil ole thing" is not the same thing. Calling her lilgirl diminishes her as a WOMAN. She has admitted that he thinks it's "cute" if she tries to give him work advice. He humors her by asking for her advice because it makes her feel important and gets him what he wants.

 

Regardless this is not major point of this. It was merely brought up to "add" to the inappropriateness of his viewing of her. It's their whole dynamic collectively not just one piece.

 

In case you missed it, ladies seriously you give your guy something special and he turns around and gives it to his wife for HER desk and LAUGHS about it with you. You don't find that offensive???? I'm gobsmacked that in this situation anyone with any sense of kindness for their fellow human being and caring for others on this planet would just turn a blind eye to this train wreck and say "eh, it's her life" when it's CLEAR she needs help pronto in extracting herself. Now, one month, 6mos, 2 years however long she intends to hang on, it's going to end badly.

[So happy together]

Sing it sister! I sometimes dabble in the lighter parts of BDSM so I get it. Babyluv, Doll, Dollbaby, punkin, (punkin,not me personally but hey acceptable! and a whole host of other pet names are all COOL. Even to say "you're just a lil ole thing" is not the same thing. Calling her lilgirl diminishes her as a WOMAN. She has admitted that he thinks it's "cute" if she tries to give him work advice. He humors her by asking for her advice because it makes her feel important and gets him what he wants.

 

Regardless this is not major point of this. It was merely brought up to "add" to the inappropriateness of his viewing of her. It's their whole dynamic collectively not just one piece.

 

In case you missed it, ladies seriously you give your guy something special and he turns around and gives it to his wife for HER desk and LAUGHS about it with you. You don't find that offensive???? I'm gobsmacked that in this situation anyone with any sense of kindness for their fellow human being and caring for others on this planet would just turn a blind eye to this train wreck and say "eh, it's her life" when it's CLEAR she needs help pronto in extracting herself. Now, one month, 6mos, 2 years however long she intends to hang on, it's going to end badly.

 

What do you think of a simple 'Girl".

[truthbetold]

I would never call my MM daddy, but I am almost as tall as he is almost 5'10, so for him to wrap me up and tell me I'm his babyluv, makes me feel feminine and I like that... He makes me feel feminine anyway though. But he doesn't make me feel like a thirteen year old standing next to a fifty year old pedophile. I'm more than five, less than ten years younger.

 

And that's cool (babyluv) but it's entirely different than a little girl, in the context of how he dismisses her as an equal. My husband is 6'3" I'm 5'6" so unless I'm in my 4-6 inchers he's still a good bit taller. I'd still be wearing his balls as shoe toppers if he disrespected me. But lucky for me, I was blessed to figure out the frogs and creeps early on. A guy worthy of you would never dream of disrespecting in any way. He's not just disrespectful of Lil with the name, it's in many actions. This guy is hugely PA bordering on complete wiener since he left her to fend for herself.

[truthbetold]

What do you think of a simple 'Girl".

 

Really no problem with that. I hesitate to say this, but I have seen in loving marriages someone being called baby girl and it was DIFFERENT. There was no disrespect just love.

 

I think I explained in my other quote from you. There is a bigger dynamic here than just the "pet" name. It's his treatment of her.

 

Did you miss the part about the gift she gave him? Do you think that's cool he did that?

[So happy together]

Really no problem with that. I hesitate to say this, but I have seen in loving marriages someone being called baby girl and it was DIFFERENT. There was no disrespect just love.

 

I think I explained in my other quote from you. There is a bigger dynamic here than just the "pet" name. It's his treatment of her.

 

Did you miss the part about the gift she gave him? Do you think that's cool he did that?

 

That makes me feel bad. I would end the R if my bf did that to me.

[truthbetold]

Calling me "sweetheart" is off limits to me. That is what my mom calls me. That and some Korean endearments.

 

 

 

LOL, what?? I think I may have missed that one.

 

Yes, and that's what compelled me to post when I checked in and saw her falling deeper in the rabbit hole.

 

I remember she was hurt but brushed it off. It's NOT normal to give your guy a gift and for him to give it to someone else as a eff you.

 

This goes deeper than killing time on a message board. I'm from the cloth that we are all here to help each other. So when I go to sleep tonight this very human poster is going to say a prayer for another very human person in Lil I hope for once the rules can be broken as it could be deemed much of this is "off topic" and it saddens me because there's a real person out there in cyber space that needs real help and not sugar coated that this is okay. As I've said and let me beat the horse one last time, the wife is a COP and Lil has been with her kids. It changes everything. Seriously how can anyone say any different?

 

Lil it may not seem like it. but a WHOLE lot of people CARE about you. We wouldn't post from our heart if we didn't. I hope you let us know you're hearing us. I'm sorry if it seems like an avalanche just came down and it's hard to hear, but this guy is not worthy of you. Find YOUR worth and find happiness, not this mess.

[sad puppy]

For anyone that refuses to believe that sexless marriages are fairly common, all you have to do is google it. You will find tons and tons of people, both men and women, complaining that they are in long term sexless marriages. And by that, meaning, no sex ever! For years and years. Just google it, if you don't believe it.

[So happy together]

Yes, and that's what compelled me to post when I checked in and saw her falling deeper in the rabbit hole.

 

I remember she was hurt but brushed it off. It's NOT normal to give your guy a gift and for him to give it to someone else as a eff you.

 

This goes deeper than killing time on a message board. I'm from the cloth that we are all here to help each other. So when I go to sleep tonight this very human poster is going to say a prayer for another very human person in Lil I hope for once the rules can be broken as it could be deemed much of this is "off topic" and it saddens me because there's a real person out there in cyber space that needs real help and not sugar coated that this is okay. As I've said and let me beat the horse one last time, the wife is a COP and Lil has been with her kids. It changes everything. Seriously how can anyone say any different?

 

Lil it may not seem like it. but a WHOLE lot of people CARE about you. We wouldn't post from our heart if we didn't. I hope you let us know you're hearing us. I'm sorry if it seems like an avalanche just came down and it's hard to hear, but this guy is not worthy of you. Find YOUR worth and find happiness, not this mess.

 

You know, as much as this thread has flown the coop, it's been a great thread.

[Goodbye]

For anyone that refuses to believe that sexless marriages are fairly common, all you have to do is google it. You will find tons and tons of people, both men and women, complaining that they are in long term sexless marriages. And by that, meaning, no sex ever! For years and years. Just google it, if you don't believe it.

 

 

I do believe in sexless marriages. I just don't believe the exMM was in one. He is/was far too horny a man to live in such a way.

[MissBee]

Mine calls me doll and I LOVE it. I wouldn't get butt hurt about little girl, though. I know he's commented before that I'm "just a little ole' thing". lol (He's a good ole' country boy, ftr.)

 

I'm 5'4 and more on the petite side, so I've gotten teasing comments from the last guy I was dating about me being " a little and short thing" esp compared to his 6'2 frame...however, little girl...no way! In presence and personality, definitely nothing about me reads "little girl"...although I have a baby face . I think the problem is probably that he does not in fact treat Lil as a woman and as his equal, but as a little girl he can give toys to and tell what's what....which is what most seem to be squirming at, and her willingness to play into it when she's a grown woman with her own child. Her willingness to relinquish all power and allow "daddy" (who does NOT have her best interest in heart btw, based on her stories of him) be in charge of everything. It's a dangerous position to be in, and especially since her ex-husband was an abusive man, it seems like it's a problematic stance Lil has adopted overtime, relinquishing control to the men in her life, which they abuse. In the bedroom, you play whatever role playing games you want, but if in regular life your partner doesn't treat you as an adult equal, but approaches you like a child and even nicknames you "little girl", and let's not add this man's other behaviors which Lil has told us freely about, which wins him no points...it's quite another dynamic. I don't think it's the nickname alone which turns heads but EVERY OTHER THING she has said about him, her and their relationship.

Edited August 2, 2013 by MissBee

[Pierre]

For anyone that refuses to believe that sexless marriages are fairly common, all you have to do is google it. You will find tons and tons of people, both men and women, complaining that they are in long term sexless marriages. And by that, meaning, no sex ever! For years and years. Just google it, if you don't believe it.

 

I agree, there are plenty of sexless marriages, but it generally takes two people to get there. It take two people with similar desires. It is hard for me to believe that a man or a woman that loves sex stays in the marriage.

 

Ideally, someone that loves sex, but is in a sexless marriage should be on an exit affair.

[LilGirlandOW]

As far as intimacy my MM is more into the kissing/cuddling/intimate touches over sex. As great as our sex life is, his ideal time spent with me would more involve sitting on his lap, cuddling in his arms and sweet kisses, chatting and joking around.

[MissBee]

My MM is a couch sleeper, bought a couch for downstairs rec room for that specifically.

 

I agree every man wont sleep with anything with a vagina.... I know some TMI about BS's lack of "grooming" down there for the past almost decade that makes MM cringe.

 

LMAOOO this man is really something else.

 

By the way, do they have any spare bedrooms in their home?

[LilGirlandOW]

I'm not so sure that MM gave her that nickname, rather, Lil wants to be taken care of, babied, bossed around, and gave herself that name.

 

He has a lot of sweet names for me, his little girl being the main one.

[MissBee]

I'm not so sure that MM gave her that nickname, rather, Lil wants to be taken care of, babied, bossed around, and gave herself that name. Problem is, she has decided the best man to take care of her, is this cowardly loser, who treats her like a possession, disrespects her, and will likely be her demise. Especially, once MM's cop wife finds out.

 

I think she has said he calls her his little girl .

 

But yes to the rest.

[Pierre]

He has a lot of sweet names for me, his little girl being the main one.

 

You are very cool LG.