leavethepieces Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I've posted here a couple of times, including my whole story. The affair with my coworker has been over for about a month and a half now. I'm moving forward with repairing my marriage and as far as I know, he is in the middle of a divorce. The last time we had spoken was a phone call that ended with him hanging up on me almost a month ago. I have tried to move on but seeing him every day has been so painful and has proven to be a strain on repairing my marriage. (Let me add in here that I came clean to management and HR about what happened - there were no consequences, but I did it so they could understand why I needed the two week leave.) He had originally promised me that he would quit to "make it easier on me", but of course went back on his promise. So I gave my two weeks notice and today is my last day. I made the announcement this morning to all my coworkers and wouldn't you know it, 30 minutes later he comes by my desk. "I'm sorry to hear this." To which I replied: "Not sorry enough." "Well, I wish you the best" Me: "Sure." Obviously, I'm pretty bitter. I didn't expect today to be this difficult and I definitely did not expect him to say anything to me. UGH. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I'm sorry you have to go through this. I don't blame you for being bitter. How awful. I hope you give yourself a nice, fresh start. Link to post Share on other sites
So happy together Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 Leave, That really is tough. I'm proud of you though, if it makes you happy. After today you won't have to see him anymore and you'll be able to begin the healing process. I know it sucks. Chin up. xx Link to post Share on other sites
awkward Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 Sorry you had to quit your job. I hope your next job will be better and leaving that environment will help you heal. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 It is sad for you to leave your job, but it is a self-inflicted injury. Link to post Share on other sites
Author leavethepieces Posted July 31, 2013 Author Share Posted July 31, 2013 Thank so much for the kind words and support. I do agree, this was a self inflicted wound and this is my consequence. It does burn to see him go on without the same consequences especially since I now see that I was very emotionally vulnerable and he preyed on that. But it is what it is, right? I can't wait to move on with my life. I have a phone interview this afternoon. Here's to hoping it goes well! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 HR and management know about your affair with him, others in the office may suspect. There will be a consequence to him, his actions, loss of a valued employee will be a direct result of his poor choices and behavior. Management and HR will not forget this when they need to select a person for a new management position, they will remember. Make your husband feel safe, your doing the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Breathless Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I feel for you. I walked away from my job the day after DDay so I have some idea how you are feeling. Being bitter and angry at your xMM is normal as long as you realize that you should be just as bitter and angry at yourself too. One thing I realized was that making the decision to leave my job was the 1st step of healing and rebuilding myself. Blessing in disguise! Good luck today on your interview! Link to post Share on other sites
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