How Often Would You

[Leigh 87]

Guys,

 

What would you do IF..

 

...You met a girl overseas, you spent just one afternoon and night together (no sex).

 

You both lived near each other in your home country. You only spent one day together. You were due to travel for another few months. She had to fly home.

 

If you were really into this girl, but did not always get wi fi unless you went into specific places that have it, how often would you feel like messaging her on facebook?

 

 

If you were travelling the world, and seldom had wi fi, how often would you bother facebook messaging a girl who you met for just one day, IF you were really into her?

 

This guy does not like one night stands or random hook ups, by the way. They want meaning with sex.

So it is not one of those guys who will party and hook up all the time. If they were like that, I would not bother making this thread, haha! It would be obvious what would happen.

 

Any thoughts?

 

I am treating it like he is just a really cool friend I just met, and who I will catch up with in a couple of months.

 

I get nervous and my heart sort of jumps when I get a message from them, but it is what it is: a dude I just met.

[Leigh 87]

We talk daily right now.

 

But if, after saying goodbye for the day (or night, due to different time zones) he doesn't write me in 2 or 3 days..... that's just normal right?

 

Given we just met once but both felt a spark that he definitely wants to pursue back home, it's not indicative of him no longer being into me?

 

Some people are silly and say that jf he takes 2 days to write me, then he's just not that into me. .

 

 

I think Facebook is hard.... it's hard to know how excited or ...into you a guy is

[Leigh 87]

I work once a week for a nice Indian family.

 

I was going to move. But I drove the 5 hours there to make sure it was a fine idea to move there........

 

It was a house in the middle of nowhere. Literally. No other houses for miles.

 

So. I came back from overseas and got a part time nanny job here instead. While attending college.

 

Socializing after my anorexia, where it took years to get social again, is something that really enhances my life right now. I'm glad I didn't move.

 

The guy and I send messages back and fourth daily.

 

Though I'm glad he's not here until September... as the time to work on myself is much needed. Through therapy and othe things.

 

We'll see what happens when he gets back.

 

I'm just going to enjoy his messages when I get them. I shouldn't read into it or really wonder if I'm on his mind or not.

 

It's hard when you like someone. I don't tend to 'like' many guys.

 

I get all nervous when I get a msg from them.

[thefooloftheyear]

You are being too needy...just focus on yourself and let things happen in an organic way..

 

TFY

[Leigh 87]

I find myself getting annoyed when it shows he's online on facebook, and yet he doesn't send me a message.

 

We talk back and fourth most days but sometimes he's online, hours after our last conversation, and he doesn't feel the need to..... talk to me. Even though hus online.

 

I just have this thing, where I wrongly assume that if a guy is that into you, he will want tl send you a message when he's online.

 

Yet when I write this all out, I can see that I'm being silly and the dudes just met me. For Christ's sake.

[c.jude]

I find myself getting annoyed when it shows he's online on facebook, and yet he doesn't send me a message.

 

We talk back and fourth most days but sometimes he's online, hours after our last conversation, and he doesn't feel the need to..... talk to me. Even though hus online.

 

I just have this thing, where I wrongly assume that if a guy is that into you, he will want tl send you a message when he's online.

 

Yet when I write this all out, I can see that I'm being silly and the dudes just met me. For Christ's sake.

 

If his phone is connected to facebook, it could just make him appear online even if he isn't? My phone does it all the time. If I so as to touch my phone, it makes me appear as though I'm online. That one night doesn't make him obligated to talk to you all the time. Just chill, girl and enjoy life

[Leigh 87]

The thing with Facebook is... it was blatantly obvious that he was really into me when I was with him.

 

It's when you're communicating via text or social media that you just can't pick up on their interest levels. Sometimes they make it obvious. But not always. Some people aren't big on writing messages.

 

He did say on facebook that he was very interested in me. And that thinking about us and what could be makes him happy and gives him hope.

 

So now I just wait until he comes back. Then I'll actually see if he is still eager to even see me again.

 

I'm not in the mood to date anyway. It's an important time in my life where I have to seriously focus on myself. He just came out of no where.

 

So. I won't be dating while hes gone. But that's not because I'm deliberately holding out for him. I'm not I a place to date, ideally. Not unless omeone really special came along and we couldn't help but be together.

 

It's funny when you only meet someone once yet really like them.

 

You can get the tendency to have unreasonable expectations. ...... like wanting them to talk to you every time their online.

[Leigh 87]

I'll give you an example.

 

He's online now. He's phone does show it when he is on chat. This is confirmed as the times we talk he always tends to respond when it shows his online.

 

So. I ended the last conversation. .. it didn't officially end really. It was me who has sent the last message though.

 

He's on now. Yet he doesn't feel like responding to my message.

 

I suppose even if a guy is into you, they won't necessarily keep messaging back and fourth for hours! !!!!!

 

I mean... the series of messages do have to stop eventually. Otherwise he'd just keep talking to me every miniute he's online. Which I'm sure he has other things to do, such as message his friends.

 

Logically, I do know that I shouldn't even think about this.

 

It's when I really like a guy that I start to worry about such ridiculous things, as him nkt responding to my last message straight away. Even though he's online.

[Leigh 87]

Okay. End of thread. He's definitely not interested anymore.

 

I tend to talk a lot on facebook. That and something I said must have put him off.

 

Trust me. He was very interested to begin with.

 

Oh well.