Cocochai Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 My XMM drives a company truck and sometimes I see them driving by my building so, it brings back memories of us always talking or me hanging out with him. I'm doing the stay "away NC" but it irritates me or I find myself thinking he'll let me know when he's near (which is what did this past Mon). It's my job so its not like I can just say move me somewhere else. I get sad we can't at least be friends. I have to at times cry it out in the bathroom. Why does it feel like a life partner died on me.... He's married not my widow. How do you cope with moving on in places that reminds you or just coping in general? Link to post Share on other sites
fanine Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 Coping is hard. Just taking it one step at a time. I do suddenly find my eyes filling with tears unexpectedly. I also find this far worse than even my divorce, after 9 years with a man.... Re things that remind me of him, I have decided though I cannot get away from that. We both live so near too. Rather than avoid these things, I am embracing them. His first language was spanish and I was trying to learn it. Well god damn it - I will not stop now. I am going to do a language course. I stay away from places I know he might be at, but other places, well I am just going to go there. I do get a knot in my stomach when I am in such places, but that will go over time. If I avoid things that remind me of him, then I think it will take longer to accept this whole thing, as I cannot avoid them all forever. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cocochai Posted July 31, 2013 Author Share Posted July 31, 2013 I must say crying it out does help! Thanks for the encouragement. I'll never ever deal with a M man again... Not that I intended to for this one lol Link to post Share on other sites
fanine Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 I must say crying it out does help! Thanks for the encouragement. I'll never ever deal with a M man again... Not that I intended to for this one lol I find throwing the odd thing helps too! Obviously not something that can be easily broken I have to let it out sometimes, either a good cry, a punch of a pillow etc. To release that tension. I never intended to get involved with a MM - he told me he was single when we first met anyway! This was the first time I've been involved with someone that I have met in a bar - not through friends/work etc. I am very wary of meeting someone again that has no joint connections. In the past other boyfriends etc already knew someone I knew, so there was no hiding of their real life. Lesson learned hey.... Link to post Share on other sites
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