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Pierre

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Instead of an affair, I am very close to leaving. I have never been so unhappy as I am now. Since we've been married he's changed into a complete arsehole.

 

We didnt even have sex on our wedding night, or the whole week after.

 

That will not be easy with two kids and the fact that you are in love with your H.

 

 

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I love him. I like sex, and when it's good, it's very good. I find him super attractive. Maybe I have a high sex drive :-/ x
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That will not be easy with two kids and the fact that you are in love with your H.

 

 

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I did say that, I do love him. But I don't think it's fair living like this anymore. Arghhhhh I don't know what to do :( I can't cope with being moaned at, being told I'm lazy ect!!! When it's him that does **** all round the house or with the kids.

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So he's just in from work.. This is how it goes

 

Him "where's kids?"

Me "upstairs"

Him "your a in a ****ing good mood"

 

The goes upstairs.

 

 

Wtf?!!!!! I said one word!!!! I'm sick to death of this!!

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So he's just in from work.. This is how it goes

 

Him "where's kids?"

Me "upstairs"

Him "your a in a ****ing good mood"

 

The goes upstairs.

 

 

Wtf?!!!!! I said one word!!!! I'm sick to death of this!!

 

I believe that if H treated you better you would be less irritated about the sex. Have a serious talk.

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I believe that if H treated you better you would be less irritated about the sex. Have a serious talk.

 

Very very true.

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I believe that if H treated you better you would be less irritated about the sex. Have a serious talk.

 

I would have a serious talk and require him to go to marriage counseling. If he won't go to the trouble of marriage counseling, that is telling.

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maybe this thread has not fallin too far down the forums. I am wondering how your weekend might have went with your hubby! :) Did you get a chance to talk to him... did anything improve?

 

:)

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maybe this thread has not fallin too far down the forums. I am wondering how your weekend might have went with your hubby! :) Did you get a chance to talk to him... did anything improve?

 

:)

 

Weekend was good. We didnt have kids on sat so went and looked at motorbikes for son. On way back, we got abit touchy feely, ended up pulling over and having abit of fun in the car! Ha, haven't done that since before our first. Was fun :)

 

Sunday we spent the day with the kids, brought all duvets n pillows downstairs and watched movies all day.

 

So today feels very relaxed :)

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Weekend was good. We didnt have kids on sat so went and looked at motorbikes for son. On way back, we got abit touchy feely, ended up pulling over and having abit of fun in the car! Ha, haven't done that since before our first. Was fun :)

 

Sunday we spent the day with the kids, brought all duvets n pillows downstairs and watched movies all day.

 

So today feels very relaxed :)

 

YAY! :) that is great. I think its bullcrap all this conversation about how much sex you may want or he may not want.... that is you and hubby's business. At the end of the day it all boils down to closeness.... whether sexual or not. Kind words can go a long long way. I would give almost anything to have our "DATING" days back, like they were before we had kids... and jobs... etc. But that is not possible. We have to adjust to the changing circumstances. You understanding he is exhausted, him understanding you are .... well you know. HAHA. ;) Then the two of you finding that middle ground. I hope things continue being awesome! :)

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So it's gone back to how it was :( he's been speaking to me like ****e all weekend. Like Sunday, I decided to make the house spotless, cleaned every single room, thrown rubbish things out. So because I didnt want to walk the two miles to my sisters house, I was lazy!! While I was cleaning he was "busy downloading films"!

 

Last night I said can I have some kisses n cuddles from my hubby before I go sleep (no sex!!) and he said no, I don't want a kiss or cuddle, and pushes me away :(

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You watch porn to fill the gap in your life. You see desire, fun, lack of inhibitions and unhindered desire,and it's what you want.

 

Just thought I'd "answer for you" to this question:

 

Originally Posted by Pierre

Have you considered the fact that you are hypersexual. Wanting sex more than once a week is OK, but IMHO. porn addiction is not healthy.

 

Why are you addicted to porn?

 

And no, I don't think she is 'hyper-sexual'. If a man were to post that he likes sex once a day, hardly anyone would bat an eyelid or be too surprised.

 

"Wanting sex more than once a week is OK"....? My life, most guys would happily have it far more frequently - and that's STILL OK!!

 

And she craves sex daily, because she doesn't get it as much as she would like, so she craves sex daily.....

If she had more regular sex, the desire might not be so prevalent, and the porn not so 'watched'....

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It's not even the sex, I can live without that I think, it's the cuddles, hugs, coming up behind me and holding me, Jesus I could cry just writing it. I feel so unloved. I literally have my kids telling me they love me and that's it.

 

I'm off to my friends house tomorrow for Girly chat :)

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It's not even the sex, I can live without that I think, it's the cuddles, hugs, coming up behind me and holding me, Jesus I could cry just writing it. I feel so unloved. I literally have my kids telling me they love me and that's it.

 

I'm off to my friends house tomorrow for Girly chat :)

 

I knew it!:cool:

 

 

In the end women need attention.

 

Your poor H does not have a clue.

 

 

Why did you present your case pretending you are starving for sex. You want attention and when you get that attention SEX happens.

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Your poor H does not have a clue.

 

Well, except that she asks him for it. He has no good reason to not have a clue. He was happy to lavish attention on other women, even just emotional attention.

 

Whatever. I don't get the "poor H" aspect of this. I agree that he sounds like a jerk. He's unhappy for whatever reason and he's taking it out on her. Like a five year old.

 

And the hypersexual thing made me laugh out loud. There's nothing abnormal about wanting sex more than once a week, particularly when yes, there's a deficit of affection in general.

 

Why anyone is defending the H here is beyond me. Sometimes the man really is the one withholding sex.

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Well, except that she asks him for it. He has no good reason to not have a clue. He was happy to lavish attention on other women, even just emotional attention.

 

Whatever. I don't get the "poor H" aspect of this. I agree that he sounds like a jerk. He's unhappy for whatever reason and he's taking it out on her. Like a five year old.

 

And the hypersexual thing made me laugh out loud. There's nothing abnormal about wanting sex more than once a week, particularly when yes, there's a deficit of affection in general.

 

Why anyone is defending the H here is beyond me. Sometimes the man really is the one withholding sex.

 

I said "poor" because the H does not understand women. So this "poor" means he is a fool.

 

I said hypersexual because OP stated the following"

I want sex at least once a day. My sex drive has always been high. I'm addicted to porn, and watch it 2x a day. I'm like a man sexually lmao

 

Sex on a daily basis is fine, I have done that and more. But, she added her addiction to porn and that seemed a bit over the top. I think OP was trying to sound like a very sensual women, when in reality she (rightfully so) needed attention from her H.

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I am not sure what the cause/effect relationship is... but if I tell my gf she is lazy will I get more nookie? :laugh:

 

Lmao.. That's very true! Maybe I should deny him completely!

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It is to me.

Been together 8 years, 2kids, house, bills ect.. But surely that doesn't decline your sex life?!

 

yes..... yes it does.... be glad for once a week after EIGHT years! I really really hope for that come 8 years down the road..

PLUS KIDS?! you're kidding right? lol if nothing else, that statistically has been proven to put a damper on a couples sex life...

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