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hi there to everybody. i am in need of some help with my present situation here. it is all good and all that and i am not either happy or sad but just a neutral feeling all the time. i tend to get all melancholy alot of the past and i miss it alot and i seem unable to pull myself to the present and move on. there is nothing special in the past just that it seemed easier with life and now days life seems so hard. i moved to this new state and i have a wonderful boyfriend, we are in our 30's and have a great thing going. i have a hard time moving on because where i moved from things were just simpler. it was a small town versus this huge city and i am a small town gril at heart and always have been and i think i always will be. i miss the easyness of driving around out there, how it only took five minutes to get anywhere in that town and now how i have to find my way on the highways, which btw i avoid! i miss my little house out there the el cheap rent! the closeness of the community. we live in this huge house out here and i drive forever to get anywhere and i have started getting panic attacks while driving now.

 

i just do not know how to move forward out here and i have been here for a good two years now! i struggle each and every day with this and i just cant seem to get past my memories of how easy life use to be versus now and i just do not want to leave my boyfriend and he would never leave here since his whole family is here and i get along great with them and he does not even know how i feel each day, he knows i miss back home but he does not know what an internal struggle i go though each day with everything. i have tried to tell him but he just dont get it. does anyone else "get it" that can offer some advice?

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Hi Jannie!

U have not another option - only speak with your boyfriend again.

Not from point of poor girl ( UR at your 30th you say) , without demonstrations and cheap effects.

Try to say him how important to you (hopefully to you both) being together and how U need his support. He knows where U from but possible he doesn't understand HOW heavy is for U being there.

 

I was born and grew up in big city and in my 25th I had experience of living in country-style place. I got it very possitive at the beginning but after 3 monthes I felt so horrible - close being dead from this "quet life". it was opposite to your situation but similar feeling.

 

Good Luck!

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