he is willing to pay me to get out of his life!

[jannie]

we got into this huge fight today about some dumb stupid website he wanted me to look up for him and find some info which i did and it was the wrong info so he thought i just did not want to do it for him. so he pulled up the exact same info! so in the process he was extremely pissed off at me and since i live in his house and basically have no where to go, he sent me an email saying that he felt so mad at me that he was thinking of giving me $5000.00 so i could leave!

should i be angry with this? he is/was basically willing to pay me off to get out of his life.

 

i know it was only in anger and not so sure he would really do it but just the fact that our love can be bought out by him makes me feel so sad then on the other hand i feel like taking him up on it theni wold be no better right?

[SoleMate]

Ummmm...wow. I take it he is your bf? And your relationship is dead, but you are financially dependent so you continue to live with him? The $5000 is definitely insulting, but perhaps you can try to view it as a "severance package" to enable you to make a transition, possibly to be repaid at some far future date when you can do so without hardship.

 

Take the money and use it to help yourself build a new life, including financial independence and ability to self support as your prime goal. Also make sure that you have a signed note from him mentioning the amount and stating it is either a free and clear gift, OR payment for services rendered. Good luck!

[Wolvesbaned]

which i did and it was the wrong info so he thought i just did not want to do it for him. so he pulled up the exact same info! so in the process he was extremely pissed off at me and since i live in his house

So basically this man was pissed off because you tried doing him a favor by looking up sht for him & he gets angry for not doing it right although he makes the same mistake himself. Plus, even though you are his girlfriend, you apparently don't feel very "welcomed" in your surroundings. Even though it's technically his place, you live there too so it's your home (at least for now).

 

What's the point of a live-in boyfriend if you can't play house nicely?

 

Take the money & think of it as a little payback for all the sht you had to put up with! You're probably better off without the guy.

[moimeme]

The man is obviously a loser. Take the money and RUN. Nobody deserves to be abused for trying to help out.

[dyermaker]

Refuse his money, and end the relationship.

 

Taking his money will only cause problems for you later down the road.

[dizi]

I have to agree with everyone but Dyer. If you are financially unable to leave him without it, you need that money. Take it and don't turn back. If he's going to react like that for something SOOO petty, you're better off leaving! Makes me wonder how he reacts to you about the 'big' things. Taking the money won't cause problems in the future as long as you get a note from him saying it's a gift. Take care!

[emmy lou]

a shame when people have to post the same exaggerated, "woe is me" tales using countless different usernames, year after year, trying to gain sympathy from newcomers who aren't onto their perpetual attention-seeking game. your poor boyfriend, someone should pay him to remain with you.