bentleychic Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Madame. Your DeLorean awaits...! Seriously, I wonder if I would do things differently. Oh I told mine the other day, don't get me wrong, I love you, I don't regret loving you, but I certainly regret the circumstances/situation that we've put ourselves in. If I didn't love you as much as I did, I would have been gone long ago. I wouldn't do this again...not as the situation is currently. I wouldn't encourage this kind of relationship to my worst enemy. It's too hard, hurts too much. I'm not sure he knew how to respond to that, but I certainly don't mince words with my feelings. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hippetyhop Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Oh I told mine the other day, don't get me wrong, I love you, I don't regret loving you, but I certainly regret the circumstances/situation that we've put ourselves in. If I didn't love you as much as I did, I would have been gone long ago. I wouldn't do this again...not as the situation is currently. I wouldn't encourage this kind of relationship to my worst enemy. It's too hard, hurts too much. I'm not sure he knew how to respond to that, but I certainly don't mince words with my feelings. Why didn't I think of something like that.... Nicely put. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hippetyhop Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 I wonder if I loved dude. I said it. He says it to EVERYONE (groan). But if I did, I wouldn't be over him this quickly. I dropped him like a hot potato and it all seems like a distant and very strange dream I had. I was sleep walking. Before xMM started contacting me again, that is how I felt. I "cried" one day (the day I sent him the email) and after that, I was good to go. Yes, I was upset that I miss my friend, but, considering how our A was toxic, it had to be done. It doesn't make it as easy with him contacting me. Soon that'll come to a halt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 KARMA??? How about Karma for the person who took the vows before God? I know the OM/OW didn't have a gun to their heads to in my opinion, these people who don't mind stepping out on their spouse will get their Karma from a nagging spouse (If they find out about the affair), and alimony. The reason why they cheat is because they can't face the REAL reality of making a marriage truly work during the bad times. Other wise they wouldn't cheat. But NO, I've been cheated on when I was loyal to my BF and it still feels like crap even though I wasn't married. Karma for knowingly messing with a MM/MW... NO I don't believe it it because you can be cheated on w/out being involved as well. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Exactly! The so-called karma is actually self inflicted punishment. Karma: You're not punished FOR your sins; you're punished BY them. Please, all read my signature (item 3). You've all pretty much more or less got the wrong idea, but for a few of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Well in that case I think we've all had a share of Karma with the NC... The crying, and the hopes of something more to come out of the bread crumbs your getting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Well in that case I think we've all had a share of Karma with the NC... The crying, and the hopes of something more to come out of the bread crumbs your getting. Everything you think, say and do - is Karma. karma is not 'result, consequence, come-uppance, retribution or revenge.' It's simply Volitional deliberate, Action. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaintedLuv Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I don't think Karma is just "around the corner" waiting for every person that has done something bad. I'd be lying if I said I'm not paranoid about being cheated on whenever I finally get through this emotional mess/pain and get into a new relationship. Being involved in this A for the past five and half years has been hell and is definitely out of character and one of the worst things I've participated in my life. I think I've been tormented and hurt enough by him and I've certainly beat myself up enough to doubt anything else could possibly happen to me. Maybe that's naive. After all, I'm the fool that gets left behind after falling for his story while he gets away with murder, his wife finally gets the baby she wanted and everyone lives happily ever after but me. I don't think one person can take anymore pain- even if it was somewhat self inflicted. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazy_Love Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Having grown up in a devoutly Catholic home, yes, I worry that is going to bite me in the rear end. I deserve it. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 If you're catholic, being "Guilty" is an associated pre-requisite. It's your solemn God-given duty to BE guilty, dammit. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I don't believe in karma in the way the word is usually used. There are consequences to all choices and actions, and you have to take them. Sometimes things lie beyond our control and it can go in our favour or not. Sometimes our horse on the carousel is going up, and sometimes it's going down, but there'll be a fair bit of both; as long as you remain true to yourself dealing with those ups and downs will be a thousand times easier and simpler. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HighheelsAries Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 As you sow, so shall you reap. You mess in someone else's relationship and cause heartache/ unhappiness, expect the same to visit you sometime.... I had a cheating friend - married twice, had multiple affairs, ONS. Hurt women and walked away- no real consequences. He hated himself and changed. Tried to be a better man. Met the woman of his dreams was in love and he would do anything for her. Then some sk@nk sends him explicit sexual email, one of the women he cheated with. New girlfriend sees it and dumps his @$$. He didnt do anything wrong- he wasnt unfaithful, but with his history, karma did catch up. So watch out, watya gonna do when it comes for you?? Link to post Share on other sites
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