GoldenArm Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 First of all thank you for your patience to read this I understand I won't come off as a good guy buy your help is needed. So basically 2 and a half years ago I started see this girl behind her boyfriend of 6 years back. She then broke up with him and we got in a relationship a few months later we were together for a year and a half and she cheated on me with him on a few occasions in this time. So I split up with her and went to Australia for 6 months in December last year to play cricket. During this time she continued sleeping with her ex. I came back in may and we started seeing each other and then got back together. Recently she has been acting so hot and cold one day she will want to see me and get annoyed if I'm busy doing something else then the next day she doesn't think we should be together doesnt think we are doing the right thing and says she wouldn't care if I left her to be with someone else. So yesterday I thought I'm talking this out with her and she said to me I won't understand what she had with her ex was very strong etc and they apparantly still have loving feelings for one another but they know they can't be together. She tells me she loves me and can see herself having a future and marrying me. My gut tells me to run that she is just telling me she loves me etc just to make me feel better when I reality she loves and wants to be with her ex ? My heart tells me she is in a lost place she does want me and to persist ? But what I don't get is for a year before she broke up with ex and did stuff with me she use to say to everyone how she wasn't attracted to her ex anymore he was boring and the only reason she was still with him because of security and the bond that he had with her son. And she cheated on him with 4 different people in 6 years. So I don't get how she can still love him ? Please help I'm so lost, confused and don't know what to do ? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 So you've been dating a serial cheater and you're wondering why things aren't working out? Where is your self respect? You knew she was a cheater from the beginning and she kept cheating even when she was with you. She'll keep cheating even if you "win her". What you can do is move out of this dynamic forever, find someone who respects you enough to be honest and loyal, and learn to respect yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenArm Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 I know and that is what I think but she hasn't done anything wrong this time round ? Just the hot and coldness. I can't seem to keep away from her :/ Link to post Share on other sites
HiddenUser Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 I didn't even read all of your post. Only you know the ins and outs of your relationship, but I learned the hard way that any woman who cheats to be with you, is going to cheat on you. I don't even feel sorry for you. You knowingly slept with a woman who had a man in her life. I guess you reap what you sow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenArm Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Yeah I know I did wrong and I know that it is usually the case as it is here. But I can't just seem to stay away from this woman. I don't know why but my mind seems to enjoy being hurt and being around the poison ? Link to post Share on other sites
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