krazikat Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 This may sound strange coming from a BS, but please believe I mean what I am about to say... thank you. thank you for posting your honest feelings about your affair. The love, lust, anger, heartbreak, confusion...all of it. Your posts have helped my healing after discovering my husbands affair. I have always had this image of what an ow was like...you know, the standard stereo types. I had a few close friends I grew up with who later turned into the type of ow that gives women in general a bad name...gold digger chaser types, and this just confirmed in my mind the stereo typical "OW" and in a bad movie kind of way. Then my H OW turned out to be a dirty mouthed stripper. She basically attacked me with vulgarness...it was bad, and I probably would be in jail of she had said the things she said to me in my face. Not my best moment. Reading your posts has helped me see an entirely different view on others. I see that there is real love felt, real pain, tears, etc. The image I had of an OW is now gone...I realize that on any given day, I may be chatting with an ow...be it my boss, the cashier at the store, the nurse at the doctors office, a teacher at my childs school. I realize now that people have many things that may contribute to them being an other, and that it is not just drugs, alcohol, and/or money. We are all dealing with our lives, the cards we were dealt, as we can, we all have issues, feelings, dreams, desires, obligations, etc. Anyways, let this thread be about something you have learned from the people posting on these boards. Lets keep it positive. 17 Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Best wishes to you in healing your heart (and marriage, if you so desire). 4 Link to post Share on other sites
canuckprincess Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 This may sound strange coming from a BS, but please believe I mean what I am about to say... thank you. thank you for posting your honest feelings about your affair. The love, lust, anger, heartbreak, confusion...all of it. Your posts have helped my healing after discovering my husbands affair. I have always had this image of what an ow was like...you know, the standard stereo types. I had a few close friends I grew up with who later turned into the type of ow that gives women in general a bad name...gold digger chaser types, and this just confirmed in my mind the stereo typical "OW" and in a bad movie kind of way. Then my H OW turned out to be a dirty mouthed stripper. She basically attacked me with vulgarness...it was bad, and I probably would be in jail of she had said the things she said to me in my face. Not my best moment. Reading your posts has helped me see an entirely different view on others. I see that there is real love felt, real pain, tears, etc. The image I had of an OW is now gone...I realize that on any given day, I may be chatting with an ow...be it my boss, the cashier at the store, the nurse at the doctors office, a teacher at my childs school. I realize now that people have many things that may contribute to them being an other, and that it is not just drugs, alcohol, and/or money. We are all dealing with our lives, the cards we were dealt, as we can, we all have issues, feelings, dreams, desires, obligations, etc. Anyways, let this thread be about something you have learned from the people posting on these boards. Lets keep it positive. Thank you so very much for your posting. I'm glad you are wise enough not to put all ow's in one category, I'm sure there are gold diggers preying on weak men. As for myself that's not the case, I am in love a wonderful man who just happens to be married. Does he love his wife, yes he does. I just don't think its enough for him to stop what we have. I've offered many times to walk away and that is not something he wants. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Krazikat, thank you for reaching out. It is always good to read lots of perspectives. May I ask what has happened to your marriage? I knew you were a BW, but was unaware of the OW dynamic in your case. I'm not sure if it would make it easier to forgive an H if his OW was purely sexual, as it seems was the case for you, or if it was a peer/friend turned romance. Have you figured out why your H would do such a thing? I'm sorry the OW was so ghastly. Link to post Share on other sites
canuckprincess Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Krazikat, I sent you a private message, hope that's ok Link to post Share on other sites
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