Crying Sister

[Naive]

I am going through the hardest moment in my life. My dad told me I had to move out over the weekend, which I did. I wanted to spend sometime with my little sister because from now on it's not going to be the same. We are used to spending all our time together. I was brave all the time until I was taking her home and she started to cry that broke my heart and I let it all out. My sister is the most important person in my life and it hurts to have to leave her

 

I cried all through out the night and now I am at work and as I type I am crying. I try to be tough, but I can't.

 

We lost our mom to cancer about 9 years ago and since then I watch out for her. Now I feel like she's all alone and so am I I never thought it would hurt so much. I feel like if half my heart has been taken away.

[Barby]

Hi Naive! I'm so sorry that you are going through this, I'm also sorry about the loss of your Mother.

 

Is there any reason why your father is kicking you out? Does this really have to hinder how much time you spend with your sister? Can you bring her to your place wherever you'll be moving. Maybe pick her up from school and spend time with her, ect?

[tiki]

Oh Naive...this is so horrible. My questions are the same as Barby's. Can you still see her and spend time with her? Sure you can!

 

I helped to parent my baby brother at age 13. I moved out at 18 when he was 5 and I felt like he was ripped away from me! We grew further apart (naturally) over the years, but I was like his 2nd mom.

 

Let us know how things are going. Will your father reconsider?

[tattoomytoe]

ditto on the above questions...

 

how old is your little sis?

 

be strong.

[Stone]

Is there any way possible you can talk to your Dad about seeing her on the weekends?

 

Did you already make plans to live somewhere else?

[Naive]

Hi girls,

 

My dad told me to get out because we have been having a lot of conflicts between each other. My stepmom brought her sister and niece to live with us and my aunts got mad because that's the house that my mom left for my little sister and me. There's no way that he will change his mind. He moved to the back house and rented that one. Now my dad, stepmom, her sister, her niece and my little sister live in a single home. He went through all that trouble just to get me out.

 

Now I moved into my aunt's house. So I don't even have my own house to take her to I'm going to try to get her on weekends but knowing my dad he'll say no.

 

What I don't want is for us to grow apart. I feel like she needs a mother figure and although I am young I have played that role very well. It hurts me to know that she's hurting.

 

She's only 11 and I am 21. This is the time when she's going to need me more. We were always together so this is going to be extremely hard. I would take her to eat after I got home form work or we would hang out in my room watching tv or reading. On weekend we would go and visit our family. So going from all that to only weekends it's a hard blow!! When I told it would be okay she said, "it's not the same" She cried all the way to the house and that broke my heart. She's my little princess.

[PatientOne]

Naive, I'm so sorry for what you've been going through.

 

One thing that stands out from what you said though- is the house partly yours? Perhaps you should see a lawyer to find out what rights you have in this situation. It might seem like a pain, but if you have a stake in this property, you owe it to yourself and your sister to make sure she isn't eventually forced out when she gets older.

 

Hang in there girl.

[Naive]

My mom intended the house to belong to us, but she trusted my dad to do that. He asked her not to do a will and so she didn't because of that we legally have no right to the house.

[Stone]

Talk to a lawyer and see "if" there is anything you can do about it for "the childs best intrest" depending on the state some have guardian ad leitem programs that will determin the best intrest for the children Did your mother have a will? Do your aunts still see your sister? Have you had a civil conversation with your father? Why don't you write him a letter to avoid confrintation?

[tiki]

Naive, do you think he will ever change his mind?

[Naive]

Even with all the pain he's causing my sister and I, I don't want to give him problems. I just hope that his conscience moves his heart at least a little If my mom would have left a Will everything would have been very different.

[Naive]

Originally posted by tiki

Naive, do you think he will ever change his mind?

 

 

No Yesterday that I took my sister home he saw that she was crying and all he said was, "you forgot to give me the keys". He clearly is more happy like that. At this exact moment I wish I could disappear. I feel so lonely. She's the only person that I feel honestly cares for me.

[tiki]

No!!! You've got LS!

[Naive]

Thank you so much tiki. Believe it or not it means a lot to me. I know that you don't know me and I don't know any of you, but just by answering it makes me feel like I have someone to talk to. I can let it all out here. I thought that it was going to be a long time before I posted a real big problem on here, boy was I wrong!!

 

All other problems that I've had seem so insignificant right now. Forgive me if I am being such a cry baby, but she's the only important person in my life. She's what motivates me. My support and my happiness.

[tiki]

You are not being a cry baby!

 

Pray that your dad changes his mind. I have faith that he will!

[Naive]

I will, but I doubt he will change his mind. Regardless, he already leased the house out.

[Naive]

Hi everyone,

 

I feel better today. Yesterday my little sister called me as soon as I got off my job, it's like she knows my schedule, we talked for about 20 minutes. I'm going to pick her up this weekend Which makes me happy and sad because I know that when it's time to drop her off my heart is going to break into pieces again I am going to see her today for a bit because I have to go vote right across from my old house.

[tiki]

It will work out! She is sooooo lucky to have an awesome big sis like you! I'm thinking of you often. Keep us posted.

[Mr Spock]

Naive, STOP pandering to your LS name.

 

If your Dad was molesting your little sister (god forbid) you'd have NO PROBLEMS asserting your legal and family rights.

 

 

Getting screwed out of a house that is rightfully and legally partly yours is just plain old DUMB. As offspring, I do beleive you are legally entitled to part of your mother's assets upon death. Of course, all my legal knowledge comes from watching T.V. so the best thing do to would be to CONTACT A LAWYER AND SORT THIS SH*T OUT.

 

Your mother, is dead. And I am very sorry you had to deal with that. Your Dad has a new woman. He is over your mother. And, sometimes, a person who HAS suffered a tragic loss of a partner, screws over remaining family members to keep that relationship. What if your Dad started to deny you access to your sister? Already it's apparent that family loyalty isn't his strong suit.

 

He's made trouble for you allready. The fact that he's your father and you love him, and your mother does not constitute a good reason to be a doormat.

 

Remember, a lawyer acts for YOU. He won't do anything until you give him the go ahead.

[Naive]

Thank you tiki

[Naive]

Originally posted by Mr Spock

Naive, STOP pandering to your LS name.

 

If your Dad was molesting your little sister (god forbid) you'd have NO PROBLEMS asserting your legal and family rights.

 

Well, that would never happen so I will not even compare it.

 

 

Getting screwed out of a house that is rightfully and legally partly yours is just plain old DUMB. As offspring, I do beleive you are legally entitled to part of your mother's assets upon death. Of course, all my legal knowledge comes from watching T.V. so the best thing do to would be to CONTACT A LAWYER AND SORT THIS SH*T OUT.

 

I wish it could be like that believe me, but it's not. I work for a lawyer who does Probate and unfortunately my mom did not leave a Will, therefore, I am screwed!!!

 

Your mother, is dead. And I am very sorry you had to deal with that. Your Dad has a new woman. He is over your mother. And, sometimes, a person who HAS suffered a tragic loss of a partner, screws over remaining family members to keep that relationship. What if your Dad started to deny you access to your sister? Already it's apparent that family loyalty isn't his strong suit.

 

Because I don't want him to deny me access to my sister I take all his s#it. It's hard to do anything when you don't hold any power.

 

He's made trouble for you allready. The fact that he's your father and you love him, and your mother does not constitute a good reason to be a doormat.

 

Remember, a lawyer acts for YOU. He won't do anything until you give him the go ahead.

 

It's hard to do ANYTHING against him because even when he does this S#IT to me I love him too much to cause him any pain. My family tells me to sue him for money my money he received for me from my mom's social security that he never gave me, but I've never been able to go through with it. At times I wish I could get the b@lls from somewhere to act, but I cannot, it's not in me. I love him to much for that. Hopefully he'll realize that he's doing a lot of emotional harm to my little sister and me