Penniesfromheaven Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 If any man offers money.......take it...you deserve to have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 It seems like he is an upper class man who takes care of everybody, I am confident that his children are financially taken care of and who knows maby him and his wife have an agreement, I have SEVERAL clients that have mistresses and wealthy weoman that have boytoys while they are both married, I think sometimes there is an understanding about the realtionship like a business deal, witch may be what this MM is starting with the origional poster by offering her money, gifts ect... I am sure the wife has an idea of whats going on... Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 Originally posted by KissMyTiara Stoneheather is absolutely correct. I know what I am doing, I know the pros/cons, the immoralness of my and my MM's behavior, how I'll be hurt in the end, BLAH BLAH BLAH. That's what all the OTHER posts are for!!! So, yes, back to my question... This was a ONE TIME offering, so perhaps I am crazy overanalyzing here racking my brain with the possible motives behind his gesture, but here are my options: 1. FACT: He's the patriarch of his family, he feels like it's normal and expected for him "take care of others." Literally, he pays for soooo many other things his family (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, etc., not just the nuclear family) needs, and we have become very, very close. So, perhaps he feels some sort of duty to "take care of" me as well?? 2. FACT: He thinks nothing of dropping big time $$ down on football games and trips to Vegas. So, perhaps he sincerely just wanted me to have a good time?? 3. FACT: Sometimes I can sense that he thinks I am thinking of getting ready to bolt. So, he's trying to guilt me into sticking around?? 4. Perhaps he's trying to alleviate his own guilt by making me more comfortable financially (but for the previously stated reasons, doesn't make much sense)... as in, "Jeez, I'm not being the greatest guy to Kiss, but this is something I can do to ease her mind..." 5. Like 3, he's hoping to be able to manipulate me into needing him?? Guys, you MM out there...did you ever offer/give cash/stuff to your OW?? Here's another thing - when I made the comment about "I am not a whore" he brought up how I buy HIM things all the time. Very, very true... Not even for a special occasion, but just because. So what makes this return of the same seem seedy? I've read some of your posts and remember that this mm lied to you about being married when you initially started seeing him. It could be any one of or more likely a combination of the reasons you've thought about here, I would guess that 3 and 5 might be good possibilities, or if he is starting to have stronger feelings for you other than sexual maybe 1. If it makes you feel uncomfortable don't accept it. It's up to you. If he buys you dinner etc. I guess you accept that? Or do you contribute financially also to the expenses when you see each other? If you buy him things also, then maybe he is reciprocating ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author KissMyTiara Posted November 3, 2004 Author Share Posted November 3, 2004 I think he's reciprocating, or at least doing what he can and what he's used to doing in showing affection and care. I'm not taking anymore cash, and we do usually take turns on paying for dinners and the like...and I have bought him gifts, whereas he just showers me with attention. Link to post Share on other sites
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