lostsoul469 Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 Well I've been pretty miserable the last month. The separation is still fresh to me. Confidence, ego, and everything ripped from me. She has been in an A for 5 months now. I go out to a pool party and I start talking to the prettiest girl there.We hit it off and I'm feeling great. The first time in this time span that I have not thought about her. I get home fall asleep. I have a dream that I get home and the wife is there. She starts talking to me. We reconcile and we are as happy as we can be. I wake up... I'm the happiest I have been in a very long time. The best feeling. Euphoria wears off and I'm back to square one. I have done so many things this last month that would have never done. I succeed feel great and proud. Then something happens when she pops up and its ruined. Link to post Share on other sites
sabre80 Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 Hate to say it man but **** like this is going to happen to you for a while. Immerse yourself in work/hobby/education/fitness. That's what I did. Its over 2 years since I divorced. I hardly think about her now. And eventually you will reach a point where you are happier with your new life than your old one. Link to post Share on other sites
JustSomeoneHurt Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Hi, I would like to offer some advice because I seem to run marathons in my relationships of dreams like this. I also tend to be a very nostalgic person. It is a phase caused by deep connection and missing. The reason I say it is a phase is because it will pass, but it will pass a lot quicker if you shake it off the second it pops into your head. Feelings must be the biggest obstacle known to mankind because they will have you believing white is black and black is white. But it will fade in time, and the dreams will stop. The only other thing I want to say is, I know how badly those suck. They leave a gash and it was only a dream. You cannot express in words the sadness you feel. But rest assured, it is a phase. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxinthesnow Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 That really does suck. Some days I still have random moments where i think about an ex from years back and for a moment I still remember all the hurt and other stuff. But it really does get better. They happen less often and don't last as long and you get better at dealing with them. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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