Will My Ex Girlfriend Ever Miss Me After I Pushed Her Away By Chasing?

[RS1982]

My ex girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me a couple months ago. We had a bad breakup, she said very mean things to me when she broke up with me. Instead of leaving her alone I pestered her everyday telling her that I loved her and missed her. It drove her nuts, she would respond "leave me alone!!!" After awhile it got out of hand and her friends texted me to leave her alone and told me she will never speak to me again and that she does not care about me whatsoever and that I have driven her mad... I havent contacted her in almost a month now.

 

I still love her but I think she hates me. Will she ever talk to me again? Will she miss me?

[JDPT]

Don't focus on whether she will contact you in the future or now. Focus on our recovery and understand that the relationship is over. She made it very clear and went as far as having her friends advocate for her decision. Accept reality and move forward with your life as difficult as this is. Don't get yourself in trouble by continuing to contact her when she does not want to be contacted. Take all this energy to focus on improving yourself and getting through this and feeling invigorating.

[RS1982]

I'm trying... But I love her and miss her so much that it's sickening. She thinks I am obsessive. It's hard to live thinking the person the love hates you and does not care about you at all. It feels like she is holding a knife in my heart and I can't take it.

[JDPT]

I understand its painful, but focus on what you can do to not exacerbate your situation. The last thing you want is for this obsessive mentality to perpetuate. Take charge and make wise decisions. Don't focus on what she is or not doing. No one can give you closure but yourself, you have to find that inner strength and realize that you don't have to understand everything that occurred before or after the relationship. Start from scratch, read articles online on how to get over your ex, this will help you get the ball rolling.

[cavalier99]

They simply dont miss us in most cases. That is why the broke up with us because they wanted us gone.

 

I talk to my EX evey now and then after recovering and it is very clear she didnt miss me post BU. she was busy with her new RS ecetera. They are like ..wooohooo I finally did it!! releived when they leave. the weight has been lifted. i know because i asked her.

 

The last thing in the world they want is someone they wanted to get away from pestering them. That would drive me crazy if i was a dumper. Now i get along great with my ex but i dont miss her and she doesnt miss me. we just dont care about each other romantically anymore.That is when you can talk to her if you want. give it like a year of NC! she will most likey forget about all the pestering you did.

 

Time does wonders. Of course by then you wont care one way or another if she want to be cordial or not. Cav

Edited August 4, 2013 by cavalier99

[RS1982]

Thanks for the encouragement. I agree with everything. I think I'm just in denial about it because my heart doesn't wanna let go... Heartbreak sucks.