The Resiliancy Of The Human Spirit

[MrCastle]

We've all seen them. People with lives 10x worse than us that have better moods and higher spirits than we do.

 

The man born without arms who wanted to paint, so he learned to do it with his feet and paints better than most people can with their hands.

 

The double leg amputee who runs a marathon.

 

The blind person who learns to play an instrument (heck, the deaf person who learns to play an instrument)

 

I saw a story on a teenaged boy who only had a torso. He was skateboarding and overall loving his life.

 

The resiliancy of the human spirit is incredible. People, when determined, and focused, can do whatever they set their minds to. With positive thinking, and motivation, you can overcome.

 

I think of (and pray for) these people whenever I hear about them. Their lives are so much harder than most, yet their spirits seem to be higher.

 

I realize that admitting some people have it worse doesn't automatically wash your problems away, but it should serve as inspiration and motivation the next time you tell yourself you can't do something.

 

This is a thread celebrating the human spirit.

[Seductive]

I was thinking of making a similar thread, but was hesitant.

 

I wanted to ask others, "What is your purpose in life?" I realized that my purpose is to be a role model and help those that have experienced child sexual abuse.

 

People have been surprised that I didn't become a drug addict, a prostitute, an offender, in the DCF system, being in and out of hospitals, being morbidly obese, terrified of heterosexual relationships, or any of the other downtrodden paths that adult survivors of sexual abuse take.

 

I really don't know how I avoided those paths. I definitely have issues and am not perfect though. Every time I want to give up, I remind myself that I need to show other survivors that you can still be happy, successful and attract healthy relationships. If I choose to screw up, I would just continue to add on to the statistics.

 

Don't be just a survivor. Be a champion.

[Woggle]

I made that post about watching the Ariel Castro trial at the barbershop and I saw one of his victims tearing him to shreds right in front of his face. That has to take nerves of steel.

[Seductive]

You are correct Mr C, a few years back I decided to start putting out more positive energy and in general try to be a better person. I make it a point to find one thing a day that I should be thankful for. When ever I get down (which is less frequent since I changed my attitude) and want to obsess over something trivial I just look around and find a person that has it way worse than I do.

 

My life has been cake, I am healthy, always been employed, athletic, great family, great friends. I would be a real jackass to complain about my life with all the other people out there that are genuinely hurting, starving etc.

 

Its all in how you look at life, thanks for the reminder Mr C

 

Good for you. The more grateful you are, the more positive things will come back to you.

 

This reminds me of the boston bombing victims that still didn't let go of their dreams, despite being amputated.

[Leegh]

Yes, thinking positive is great, but what about when you have to be around someone who is negative, for example, my mother is a very negative person, and always complaining? How do you handle being positive when someone such as your mother, whom you cannot and do not want to avoid, brings you down emotionally? In addition, one thing that has given me a positive attitude, is keeping my apartment neat. There is nothing worse for a person's mood than being in a messy home!

[Seductive]

Yes, thinking positive is great, but what about when you have to be around someone who is negative, for example, my mother is a very negative person, and always complaining? How do you handle being positive when someone such as your mother, whom you cannot and do not want to avoid, brings you down emotionally? In addition, one thing that has given me a positive attitude, is keeping my apartment neat. There is nothing worse for a person's mood than being in a messy home!

 

My mom was like that too. Saying discouraging stuff like "You're never going to find anyone" or "You must have scared your date off". It's tough. I moved away from my mom, and she suddenly stopped being so negative. I told her, "The more you worry and be negative, the less likely I'm going to find someone to marry." It's true that men are repulsed by negative and desperate women.

 

I hope you can find a way to cope with your mom. You're going to be like a shield of force where her comments don't affect you.