Maddy Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Many people have parents who are abusive or abandoned them by choosing drugs or alcohol over their children. It makes me so mad that parents twist Bible verses to justify their abusive ways. They love to quote the "honor your parents" commandment and ignore the other half about God telling parents how they should treat their kids. From my experience, I have been yelled at and cursed at because of who I am as a person and not living up to my father's expectations. Whenever I try to confide in my mom about how it makes me feel all she says is "he's your father" as if that gives him the right to talk to me like that. It's just very infuriating how society is so quick to call people disrespectful brats and don't take the time to think that sometimes it's because of how their parents treat them. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do... it's called free will. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 Many people have parents who are abusive or abandoned them by choosing drugs or alcohol over their children. It makes me so mad that parents twist Bible verses to justify their abusive ways. They love to quote the "honor your parents" commandment and ignore the other half about God telling parents how they should treat their kids. From my experience, I have been yelled at and cursed at because of who I am as a person and not living up to my father's expectations. Whenever I try to confide in my mom about how it makes me feel all she says is "he's your father" as if that gives him the right to talk to me like that. It's just very infuriating how society is so quick to call people disrespectful brats and don't take the time to think that sometimes it's because of how their parents treat them. Maddy, the Bible is many things, mainly truth. To hide behind it with anything less is not right. It really bothers me when Scripture is taken out of context to serve ones own purpose. I think it would have been better for your mom to do a bit of a study on this...possibly listening to you would have been nice and validating you, then going into more detail as to "why" the Bible states this (honoring Father and Mother even if it is not deserved). My take is that God commands us to honor our parents, not always for them, but out of obedience to God- to honor their position. It doesn't mean that if we are being abused to remain quiet- we are to seek wise counsel in all things. You know, I had some issues with my parents, and want to say that when all was said and done, it helped in the end to honor them, to reconcile myself to God and them- bottom line, it healed me...and IMO that is what that commandment is for. Much like forgiveness, we forgive for ourselves and not necessarily the other person. Very rarely does it hurt the person I'm hating on or not forgiving. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 Many people have parents who are abusive or abandoned them by choosing drugs or alcohol over their children. It makes me so mad that parents twist Bible verses to justify their abusive ways. They love to quote the "honor your parents" commandment and ignore the other half about God telling parents how they should treat their kids. From my experience, I have been yelled at and cursed at because of who I am as a person and not living up to my father's expectations. Whenever I try to confide in my mom about how it makes me feel all she says is "he's your father" as if that gives him the right to talk to me like that. It's just very infuriating how society is so quick to call people disrespectful brats and don't take the time to think that sometimes it's because of how their parents treat them. Well religion is about controlling people so you shouldn't be surprised. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted August 7, 2013 Share Posted August 7, 2013 Maddy ~ I'm sorry for your situation. I can only imagine you feel trapped and powerless right now. Are you a minor, and do you live at home? If not...move out if you can. Anyway, I think pureinheart has given great advice. Keep praying about how to react to your dad. But you're right. I think it's SO common for people to point their fingers at the "black sheep", when really, it's the whole family dynamic that can create a rebellious, or "difficult" child. Parents absolutely have a part in it, most of the time, imo. Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 When some selfish people get old, they don't feel that they have to respect anyone younger than they are. If they're really selfish, they'll think they deserve to live the Life of Riley in their old age, and they feel gypped when they don't get it. My granny was like that... I hate to tell those people, but you can't really get away with that kind of behavior unless you're a rich Mafia boss or something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I think honor your parents, has more to with them being the providers the ones who gave you life who are your guardians or supposed guardians here........it says nothing actually about honoring poor and dangerous choices they make nor i feel, is it about honoring callous disregard and abuse that they inflict upon children who should be nurtured........ that is something that no child should have to deal with,I would hope in that childs life if there is abuse, there is someone compassionate, kind and strong enough to stand up fro that child....... that can intervene on a child's behalf and say hey this isnt right.....or report to the proper authorities for the abuse to be investigated...often children are silent in abusive situations...in fear of their parents and fear of consequences for speaking up people twist bible verses all the time.....to suit their own specific needs......doesnt make it right.....honor thy father and mother........is true.......but we all know that honoring the father and mother....is showing respect for righteousness and the life we have been given....not unrighteousness or callous abusive behavior...there is no honor there.....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Introvert Posted August 30, 2013 Share Posted August 30, 2013 I think todreamblue is right.....I honor my mom well because she made good choices that made it possible for me to alive today.....and I would be doing the same to my dad had he not abandoned me ages ago, I don't honor his callous decisions at all, never! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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