Are we afraid of death?

[chicklover]

Maybe, It sounds weird, but I think simple logic indicates that we should be afraid of death. I mean if you have a great time in your life, if you enjoy yourself very much , if you have a lot of friends and loved ones, death means an end to all of them and facing unknown.

 

I came to conclusion that we don't fear death because :

 

1. when we are young, we see death so far that it poses no threat to us

2. when we are old, we have nothing to lose. it's better to die!!

 

I ask it becuase nothing is more true than death and everybody knows that. Have we forgotten that?

 

I like to know what other people think about it?

[Moose]

Personally, I don't fear death. But I do fear the transformation from life to death. How will my body expire? To me, I'm already immortal. I will live forever, but my body won't. I don't know when and I don't know how....but this body will give out and I can only hope that the rapture will happen before that happens.

 

So I guess your question would be a better one if you asked, "Do you fear how you will die".

[HokeyReligions]

My own death: doesn't scare me.

 

Death of loved ones: been there, done that; hate it, dread it because of the changes to my own existence (having to take over someone's chores, losing income and thereby possessions like house, etc.), but it doesn't scare me. Not any more.

[quankanne]

death is just a part of the cycle of life. From the minute we're conceived in our mothers' wombs, we're dying, we're all born knowing that time's running out.

 

I don't worry about death; mostly I worry about living to be older, because I don't want to outlive my usefulness. Or my husband. Or my friends.

 

my goal is to love well so that when I'm gone, I'll have made a difference in someone's life just because I shared my love. Because I've learned in these past months that even though those loved ones leave, something more lingers on through that love, so much so that the grieving and the pain is transcended by that love

[tattoomytoe]

i too do not fear death....i do not want to die in a painful way, though.

 

The thing i am not comfortable with is how it will affect the living persons i leave behind.

 

i have been very close to death, very very close.

[Naive]

I totally fear death!!! I hate to think that one day I will not see my family anymore, that I will not know anything.

 

Sadly enough, death is the only thing we can be sure of. The minute you are born you are sentenced to die.

[tattoomytoe]

Sadly enough, death is the only thing we can be sure of.

 

That and Taxes.

 

I actually FEAR Taxes....i really hate the IRS.

[whichwayisup]

I think sort of like Hokey, it's the people now around me who I don't want to lose..Then we're left to cope and live without them...That in itself is like a slow painful death as my father died 11 years ago. I have fears of those closest around me dying...Fear of abandonment, fear of being alone. And yes I am terrified of dying as well. F*ck, I'm pretty much scared of alot these days!

 

I do believe that this isn't it...There is something else out there after we go. Our energy goes somewhere, that is alive, it's just our shell that dies not our spirit.

 

All I know is there has to be something better than this. Cuz sometimes life really DOES suck. (But it also can be pretty good!)

[Merin]

Death does come to us all... I don't think about it very often and when I do, it isn't pain I concern myself with.. it is fear of what would come to my little people if I were no longer... who would take care of them and how would my death effect them.. that is what I fear in death.

[Naive]

I was wondering where were you Merin

[lokai]

I do not believe it is practical for me to fear something that I can neither prevent nor predict.

[Merin]

Originally posted by naive_2001

I was wondering where were you Merin

 

Ty girl! LOL darn made my day! Been busy with work...

[honey2005]

I'm not really scared to die. I think I would rather die before my parents, friends, family does, but that's just because I don't want to have to go through the pain of losing them. That's pretty selfish I guess, but I've felt that way since I was a little kid.

 

My cousin, on the other hand, is extremely scared of death. Everytime it's mentioned she gets really sad and tells me how scared she is. What's weird is that we are almost exactly the same in everything, but not in this.

[chicklover]

Well , I think that's it. Either we don't see the death very nearby or we are afraid of it ( fear of losing the loved one is the same as seeing them die).

 

I myself fear death not because of leaving something behind since I don't have anything to worry about.

But because I think we got a minimum chance to do something in this world ( don't ask me what? I don't know) and we are not doing it.

I am afraid to lose the opportunity and something that might happen after death make me regret how I wasted my time here.

But since I don't know what this something is, the fear is not that sharp/strong.

Instead it is hidden behind (or let say dominated by )mostly anxieties of everyday life.

[whichwayisup]

Instead it is hidden behind (or let say dominated by )mostly anxieties of everyday life.

 

That is so true! As I have an anxiety disorder so I totally know what you're talking about right there!

[DayumQuitPlayin]

Yes.. I fear Death.. I fear the Unknown.

 

No one really knows what happens after you die. Do you go to Heaven.. do you go to Hell... is it a black void.. nothingness. Nobody truly knows until your time comes.

 

For those who don't fear.. I applaud you. You're very brave. Yes.. its a natural thing. I'm not brave as you are though. I fear the loved ones I would leave behind. My family.. friends.. children. I fear the joy of living.. being alive. I fear darkness.. of unconscienceness. Think about it.. let's say that there's no life after death. Everything is just natural... you die just the same as an insect would. You die.. you've played your role in life. New life emerges..taking your place.. Natural always balances itself. Your body rots.. years go by.. decades.. for all infinity until the planet is engulfed by the sun. ...Emptiness.. Darkness.. its a Scary thought.

 

Yea.. I fear Death

[sjs61]

Death I fear but the Lord I fear the most cause its him who will take my soul at any given time but I now have prepared my soul to my restful place in his arms.

As a child I thought when you died like in the movies you came back of course 43 yrs old and dah... I realized now that I fear what I would look like when I die. I don't want to die alone I want to take someone with me. Sounds weird to me but I hate my body as a living person cause I'm overweight and that fears me a lot for people to see my naked disgusting body. Sounds strange but I see myself when I die in the Planets or in the air.

 

No offense to those you aren't spiritual but this is how I see life....

[Naive]

Originally posted by sjs61

I don't want to die alone I want to take someone with me.

 

What do you mean?

[Reckless]

Death just the subject for me. It’s November, I’m huddling towards my 40th, autumn’s just about to stop being pretty and become just plain cold and I woke up in a bad mood because I’d dreamt of work. I’ll think about death for a bit.

 

I don’t know if anyone remembers the quote from the movie ‘When Harry met Sally’ where Harry boasts ‘I spend hours… days thinking about death!’ but I think the world does divide into those that contemplate death on a regular basis and those think that to do so is a waste of time and let the prospect of their own death, to quote Harry again, ‘pass as a fleeting thought across their subconscious’. I think about death all the time. I also wear black a lot. I don’t listen to Bjork and Tori Amos while doing so but I do have an album by Marian Faithful and I think that’s enough for now.

 

Thoughts of death visit me like unwanted guests I’m too polite to show the door before having spent a respectable amount of time entertaining, I don’t shove them away because I think I should at least acknowledge the fact that we are all dying. It will happen. I have good genes, my grandmother lived til well over a hundred and died in her sleep surrounded by 4 generations and I hope to do the same, but death will eventually come. (The men in my family tend to keel over in their prime but that is of no concern to me).

 

 

 

Am I afraid? Not really, not of death itself. This is because I believe death is oblivion, unconsciousness, non-existence. I don’t believe in life after death, only in death after life, so in itself, death is nothing to fear. Except the passage between the two states is rarely pleasant. Like the perfect love we all hope for the perfect death, quick, pain free and preferably having seen every single episode of ‘The Simpsons’. But it often doesn’t happen that way and death often comes slowly, painfully and with little dignity. I also often comes way sooner than we would like.

 

Still the question was fear of death not of dying. I fear the death of those I love. I have lost my father and only recently heard of the early death of a friend in my homeland of England. People only philosophise about death when they’re healthy and it seems a long way off, when it seems near or touches you personally it has, as the bible says, a bitter, bitter sting. The book calls it the ‘last enemy’ and, regardless of how we repeat that it’s a ‘natural part of life’ we don’t and can’t accept it. It makes no sense, except to make room for future generations and I say, hang future generations! Let ‘em find their own space we were here first.

 

Death is hateful. I hate the thought of those I love no longer existing but again that is not fear of their death so much as fear of my own grief. My mother is probably my closest female friend, I fear her passing. I fear although people survive it, I shall be the exception and go quite mad with grief. I know if there were an afterlife, she would come back and slap me upside the head if I did. I fear being slapped upside the head by my furious, late mother one day.

 

I had a friend a few years back, a woman I met when she was well into her 70’s. She complained everyone she had loved had died. She was all alone and fed up. She was not afraid of death but she was tired of life. That’s the thing you see, it’s actually hard to actually talk about death, what you end up talking about is life. How you live. For me death is like the full stop at the end of the sentence, only ugly if the message left is full of loathing, only tragic because there’s always more to say. Death is terrible because you have to stop and leave the rest of the page blank for someone else to write on. Let ‘em find their own paper I say, I was here first!

[faux]

I think an ending is always nice to any type of story. It is nice to know that, some time, I will simply cease to exist and will have died. Seeing as nothingness is absolutely perfect, it is nice to know that I will attain absolute perfection in death. Unfortunately, I will never be able to comprehend true nothingness, as I am a human.

[sjs61]

What do I mean?

 

It's like for me going to a scary movie and you need to hold onto someone close so I guess I am saying that I want the Lord or my mother's spirit to lead me to my final destination...

 

Death or dying use to bother me so much that I literally jumped out of my skin.

Now, I have no fear from it just the cost, what will I look like and who will attend or will they gossip in front of my casket or ashes...

 

I wish to live to be 93 don't know why but I want to see what 50 yrs will be like and if it's true that the armageddon is coming or the big earthquake in CA. My uncle who's 80 says that the end will be in 2008 or ten yrs from now. I don't remember the actual time but it sounded pretty scary the way he mentioned it.

[bluetuesday]

old thread, resurrected. kinda apt.

 

i'd go as far to say i'm looking forward to my death.

 

i can't imagine a better adventure than embracing the unknowable. but then i believe in an afterlife, so i would say that. and my death is inevitable. what a pointless waste of energy, of good living time, to fret about it.

 

i'm enjoying my life immensely. every day is thrilling. and i don't particularly want it to end. but if it ended tomorrow i wouldn't be sorry and i wouldn't miss it. my family and friends would catch me up, eventually.

 

i'm extremely curious to find out what happens next. i'm the same with christmas, always hunting out my presents and shaking them and trying to peek under the corners of the wrapping paper.

 

yes, i'm quite looking forward to mine.

[Naive]

Originally posted by faux

I think an ending is always nice to any type of story. It is nice to know that, some time, I will simply cease to exist and will have died. Seeing as nothingness is absolutely perfect, it is nice to know that I will attain absolute perfection in death. Unfortunately, I will never be able to comprehend true nothingness, as I am a human.

 

 

Well great.............this just finished scaring the s*it out of me!!!!!!!

[Welund]

I'm, as the average teenager, entirely incapable of grasping the concept of me dying.

[lilian]

I am definitely scared of dying. And about the fact that you can always call upon someone during life. You can always ask people's opinions, go through things with them but this very one you'll have to go through absolutely ALONE!!

 

I hate the thought of not being able to use my brain anymore, or my hands. I like my body! Not in a "attractive way" but I love my legs carrying me running through the forest and my hands stroking my boyfriend. I don't want to get divided from my body if - at all - a little part of me keeps living.

 

I cannot forget about the fact that one day my face will be lying under a lot of earth and worms eating my lips and crawling into my mouth witout me being able to prevent it!