beelibra Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 hey guys! So im in need a little advice. I live in California and my man lives in Arizona. We are exclusive, there is no doubt and it is very clear that him and I only talk to each other, were very involved in what's going on, we call each other babe, tell each other we're falling for one another, how lucky/blessed we are etc. We work it out to where we see each other every 3 weeks or so, and I'm flying out to him again this weekend. We've been dating for 4 months now though and we arent boyfriend & girlfriend, although weve met each other's families, our friends all know were dating, and we're public about it on Facebook (pictures, cute posts, not relationship status). There's no secret. Sometimes I wonder if maybe he thinks I don't want the title because of the distance? Or maybe its the other way around. He had broken up with his ex about 1 month before we started talking, (let me make it clear, trust ME I'm not a rebound. Destructive relationship that ended much before it did) and he has a son with her and sometimes I wonder if maybe he doesn't want to put a title on it because of her. Maybe she'd be bitter with his son, maybe it would hurt her (he shouldnt care, what worries me) , I don't know. I feel like I should talk to him about it when I see him, but I really don't want to pressure him into anything, we've been constantly on the same level our whole relationship. I don't want to mess things up now. I also have a daughter so we have a good understanding on this whole deal, but his was much more fresh than mine. Thanks guys sooooo appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
keithkat Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 If this keeps on bothering you once in a while then maybe it's better to talk to him about it and clear things out. In this way, you will know what you can really expect from him and from your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
CherryT Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I agree with Keithkat. There really is no way to tell unless you ask him. If you're both exclusive, then isn't that bf/gf? I'm not sure I understand the difference between being exclusive/committed/in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 The distance wouldn't turn me off. His having a kid would. Who needs the mama drama? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted August 18, 2013 Share Posted August 18, 2013 We are exclusive, there is no doubt... tell each other we're falling for one another, how lucky/blessed we are etc. We work it out to where we see each other every 3 weeks or so... We've been dating for 4 months now though and we arent boyfriend & girlfriend Something doesn't add up with your stories. You were having sex with some guy in April, and you didn't know if he was your boyfriend though assuring you were exclusive... Then on 30 May, you were meeting another guy for the first time, and again you were exclusive and said you had been talking to him since beginning of April, and had sex with him right away... I assume now you are talking about the same guy you met on May 30 for the first time. That means you've been seeing him for just two months (probably 4 times). Or are you talking about the April guy? Again, you don't know if he's your boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, but why do you sleep around so carelessly? You have a 2-year old daughter and should be more careful having sex with random guys from the web. So, what happened with the other guy you were dating? And were they both LD? The thing that strikes me most is that you thought the very same things with the other guy, and were talking to this new guy too at the same time... Link to post Share on other sites
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